are nudes a relapse?

Deleted Account · Feb 6, 2020

So I took out a wisdom tooth today, usually my triggers on porn are when I feel sad, in pain or disappointed. I didn't felt the urges for porn today but I did watch some nudes from a girl I used to talk with. I haven't masturbated and I felt aroused very little, what I felt deeply was to have a girl like her to love me.
I am on a streak of 6 days at the moment and I have a 10 days previous streak started in 23 Jan.
Is watching some nudes give me a powerful dopamine hit? I hope its not equivalent to a relapse and getting very horny for the next days. I am trying to get at least 14 days in this 6 days streak and I need to know if watching some nudes of a real girl is considered a relapse.

Deysonn · Feb 6, 2020

I would say its a relapse of sorts. But it is a lot better than you going on a bender and binging on porn for several hours.

What advice I would give is not to consume any kind of erotic content. The reason I advise this is because in my experience it is a gate way back to porn. Eventually that kind of stuff will lead you back to porn, because it is a similar behaviour. You are seeking sexual arousal via media. What you need is actually intimacy with a real person. This is the only healthy form of sexual activity.

Also, you are using the nudes as a replacement for porn. What you want is to get rid of porn and all porn substitutes from your life. I have also stopped looking at any sexy IG models or sexy girls posting twerking videos on youtube etc. These things do not help with your recovery.

The best way is to abstain from all of these activities. A good way to do this is to get yourself involved in social activities. Get out there and live life. Putting a good gym session before bed also helps. One its healthy for you and secondly you are tired and can get to sleep easily. Being up late and bored is a good way to have a relapse.

Wishing you the best bud!

Ezpz · Feb 6, 2020

I would say if you actively searched for it then it is a relapse, though ultimately it is up to you to decide.

See here for a proper answer to your question:
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reb...-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse/

Deleted Account · Feb 7, 2020

Deysonn said: ↑

I would say its a relapse of sorts. But it is a lot better than you going on a bender and binging on porn for several hours.

What advice I would give is not to consume any kind of erotic content. The reason I advise this is because in my experience it is a gate way back to porn. Eventually that kind of stuff will lead you back to porn, because it is a similar behaviour. You are seeking sexual arousal via media. What you need is actually intimacy with a real person. This is the only healthy form of sexual activity.

Also, you are using the nudes as a replacement for porn. What you want is to get rid of porn and all porn substitutes from your life. I have also stopped looking at any sexy IG models or sexy girls posting twerking videos on youtube etc. These things do not help with your recovery.

The best way is to abstain from all of these activities. A good way to do this is to get yourself involved in social activities. Get out there and live life. Putting a good gym session before bed also helps. One its healthy for you and secondly you are tired and can get to sleep easily. Being up late and bored is a good way to have a relapse.

Wishing you the best bud!
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I had a chirurgical thing in my mouth, I have stiches and stuff I can't workout for the next 2 3 weeks, I had a cardio routine everyday last year that I want to get back to it.
Well it kinda wasn't any binge for hours, it was like 5 minutes, same when porn memories pop up in your brain in the first week. I think it was the pain from the tooth and I started to feel lonely, not really sexual but things got mixed since I am still an addict, I watched normal photos too not only the nudes

Deleted Account · Feb 7, 2020

Ezpz said: ↑

I would say if you actively searched for it then it is a relapse, though ultimately it is up to you to decide.

See here for a proper answer to your question:
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reb...-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse/
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It was 10 or 5 minutes, not edging. I think I felt lonely and since I am an addicted I got things mixed up in head, because I checked normal photos too and the conversation too. I feel much better tho because pain is gone, I didn't had sexual dreams because of pain, instead I had a dream about everyone dying in my dream, and I fell asleep to some joe rogan conspiracy videos I've actually dreamt about flying soucers figting above my yard, shit it was better than cgi.
I think I am calling half a relapse, for sure I did hit some dopamine levels, but honestly I hit them even when I see a nice ass on the street, or eyes, or beautiful face, I just like womans, way too much.
Thant link is very useful, thanks.

Basilio · Feb 7, 2020

For me personally, I get triggered really easily, so I try to avoid it at all costs.

If you're intentionally seeking nude photos out, then I'd say yes its a minor relapse. Here's the thing, it always starts with one photo, and next thing you know you're hitting up a 1-2 hour session on your previously favourite porn site masturbating. So, just don't even do it in the first place.

On the other hand, if you're on a social media feed, or out watching a movie with friends and some nudity comes on... well I mean, were you intentionally seeking it out? If not, then I'd say that wouldn't be considered a relapse. Not really your fault if it just all of a sudden gets shoved in your face right.

Out of side, out of mind my friend. Good luck on your journey!

Deleted Account · Feb 7, 2020

Basilio said: ↑

For me personally, I get triggered really easily, so I try to avoid it at all costs.

If you're intentionally seeking nude photos out, then I'd say yes its a minor relapse. Here's the thing, it always starts with one photo, and next thing you know you're hitting up a 1-2 hour session on your previously favourite porn site masturbating. So, just don't even do it in the first place.

On the other hand, if you're on a social media feed, or out watching a movie with friends and some nudity comes on... well I mean, were you intentionally seeking it out? If not, then I'd say that wouldn't be considered a relapse. Not really your fault if it just all of a sudden gets shoved in your face right.

Out of side, out of mind my friend. Good luck on your journey!
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I kinda looked actively but I wasn't there only for sexual stuff. I just felt lonely and I felt I need some woman love, but since I was some sort of lover for that woman, nudes are everywhere and I hooked on them for few minutes, I didn't edge or went for porn. I wrote the post here instead and went for a Joe rogan podcast until I passed out.

Ezpz · Feb 7, 2020

joyjoy311 said: ↑

It was 10 or 5 minutes, not edging. I think I felt lonely and since I am an addicted I got things mixed up in head, because I checked normal photos too and the conversation too. I feel much better tho because pain is gone, I didn't had sexual dreams because of pain, instead I had a dream about everyone dying in my dream, and I fell asleep to some joe rogan conspiracy videos I've actually dreamt about flying soucers figting above my yard, shit it was better than cgi.
I think I am calling half a relapse, for sure I did hit some dopamine levels, but honestly I hit them even when I see a nice ass on the street, or eyes, or beautiful face, I just like womans, way too much.
Thant link is very useful, thanks.
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you are most welcome my friend

Uncomfortably Numb · Feb 7, 2020

Your rules so you decide.
Just stay focussed and don't be too hard on yourself

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