How do you urge diverge?

Cold showers or workouts my dude they really get you over it

-The Friendly homie

 

Yes I’m not entirely sure of this but as a 16 year old myself I can confirm that our sex-drive as teenagers might be a reason for why it’s so hard to quit. I’m not sure if our hormones make challenges like this more difficult but it might be a factor.

 

I am quite a bit older (34), but found porn at about 12or 13. I think because I used porn right through puberty it has had a deep impact on my brain.

The biological urges will be strong in you, but go and work for the real thing, doesn’t matter if she (or he) is fat or whatever. Just go and enjoy interacting learn actual social skills, not instant gratification from using porn.

 

Another important ingredient for laying the smackdown on urges is this: it took me completion of two 90+ day hardmode streaks to really feel understand and believe this one. That is "I don't have to."
Seriously, I'm doing fine without it. Soon I'll get a wife of course, but at least for now I'm fine and at my best when I'm without it!
I also thank the Holy Spirit for making my second streak a breeze so I rarely even realized I was on it, but just felt normal. At a minimum you should request he help you, for best results.

 

nurture the urge to become a better person or urge to do something creative ,productive, or if theres a urge to get something but long as if that thing is healthy an well benefit you

 

It’s only you stopping you. I hear your internal dialogue, I have it too. But let me assure you, I have had a few occasions where I’ve just been in the zone and the internal negativity just disappeared. I’ve had some great times, but this only started happening in my 30’s.

I am 100% sure that if I’d dealt with my confidence or anxiety issues earlier (particularly re women) I would not be where I am today.

if your anxiety around women or people in general is that severe, get help now! Your 15 and have your whole life ahead of you, don’t let worrying about rejection lead you to a life of misery