My realization about porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Feb 12, 2020.

  1. 2019 turned out to be a huge step forward for me.
    I developed myself physically and mentally by forming new good habits like working out, reading, meditating and journaling.
    I also quit or reduced some bad habits, like snacking, sleeping irregularly and procrastinating.
    The list of improvements that 2019 had me implement in my life is extremely long, and it's better if I stop right here before I get ahead of myself.

    That being the situation, I started off just as well 2020 and had bright expectations, but, halfway trough January, everything slowed down to a halt because I got sick.
    A full stop of two weeks (in which I had a high fever for 9 days) set me back tremendously and brought my momentum and motivation to 0.
    When I was sick, however, there was only one thing I could do whitout any worries: think.
    And, among various thoughts, now that I am well, I can think about one that resonated with me so much that I wanted to share it with you:
    Being sick prevented me from doing what I love on a daily basis and stopped my growth, and porn does the same exact thing! Porn is a sickness!

    I had never made that correlation before, and I began rehearsing it in my mind everytime urges hit me, and it hasn't failed me once.
    I would say to myself something like this:
    "If I am healthy and strong right now, why do I have to compromise myself and plague my body and my mind with the symtoms of porn?"

    What makes porn such a dreadful illness is that it's widespread and socially accepted nowadays to be plagued with it, along with the fact that accessing adult content is as easy as ever thanks to the wonders of the internet.
    There is a bright side to the whole ordeal however, as the cure is also available to everyone and has various forms.
    Want to free yourself from the plague of pornography? Stop looking at porn and use your newfound free time for something meaningful.
    Read, write, draw, dance, exercise, socialize, whatever you fancy the most, do it, it will always be better than watching two complete strangers having sex without any feeling.

    If this helps even one single person, then I will be happy.
    Good luck to all, and remember, never stop working on yourself!
    It may be though, but you are thougher than you think, and just as you unknowingly put the shackles at your feet, you can break them and walk your own path.
    Stay strong!
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    TLDR - Porn is an illness as it prevents you from doing what matters to you the most.
    The only cure is doing meaningful action.
     
  2. Abstinence the 4th

    Abstinence the 4th New Fapstronaut

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    God damn, this resonates with me soooo much.
    The contrast between the pursuit of meaning and achievement and how that feels in the body as opposed to thinking about porn, then caving, then dealing with the aftermath is chasms apart. Approaching it like an affliction I think is useful although the caveat is that it's voluntary, you're choosing it as opposed to having to manage it, however that's where they cross over, you have to move through both and there are things you can do to make that experience easier or harder for yourself.

    The difficulty I've had recently with it, is that I use porn as a source of comfort, if I have only been doing things that are shaping my future or provide meaning in the long and short term then eventually some part of me seeks an escape via drugs, alcohol or porn. I'm whittling down that list, porn's definitely a trickier one to navigate because it's pervasive in a way that is different to drugs and alcohol.
    Most people associate socialising with drugs and alcohol however pornography is something we learn to do on our own, in private. So whenever I'm alone and tired, the thought creeps in...

    Now this is where I really appreciate your anecdote because I've gotten really good at noticing when I'm getting sick so I ease up in places. So now I just have to practice noticing when the feeling of escape through porn arises, it should be an indicator for me to ease up a bit, at least until porn is a little further behind me.

    Thanks again, this really helped :)
     
  3. Johnny Bozo

    Johnny Bozo Fapstronaut

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    Awesome stuff and lovin' the Wario gif is it?!
     
  4. I deeply appreciate the fact that it helped you and I agree wholeheartedly with what you added about porn.
    It's often subconciously used as an escape or as a way to blow off some steam, so when I get an urge to PMO I do two things.
    1) I pinpoint the source of stress and make a plan about how I can stop it from negatively influencing me again.
    2) I find a way to calm myself down outside of porn. This could be any activity, like playing a videogame, talking with a loved one, meditating or exercising.
    This isn't always easy or simple, but it defeats 100% of the stress-related urges if you stick to it.
     
  5. Thank you for the comment, it means a lot to me.
    Yes, the gif is a Wario sprite animation from Wario Land 4.
    If you like sprites you should check out some footage of that game, Wario is really fluid and expressive in it.
     

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