Prepare yourself for your future wife

This is a Christian topic but I think this can apply for everyone, so something my grandma and me were talking about is how God has someone set as aside for me to marry and be with, and what she said that stuck out was “save yourself for the one God has for you” and that made me realize what my new focus should be on, becoming the best version of me for the one that is destined to be. Don’t do all this work just to impress random woman, heck I don’t even sleep with strangers so what good does showing off do?, everything I have and do should be dedicated to God and second to her, what better way is there to go?.

 

If it's truth, then so be it. Truth should be spoken regardless of whether or not everyone likes it or wants to accept it.

If you want to refute the truth and validity of the statement, go right ahead, but "this might make someone upset" isn't a valid reason to not believe something. If it's not true, don't believe it. If it is true, believe it regardless of whether you like it or not.

 

Well said I agree.

Something I heard a speaker mention, back in college once, that really hit me was that you need to be the kind of person the person you're looking for would be attracted to. He was telling about his daughter, who wasn't really following God, and she one day said that she realized that the kind of man she wants to be with, one who loves God and is following him closely, wouldn't be attracted to her, because she isn't living like that. And that realization made her change her lifestyle.

Another way to put it is "if you want to find a Princess, you need to be a prince." I see people all the time who clearly aren't thinking about this. They talk about themselves as if they are lazy and never leave the house, etc, and then say they want to find a girl who loves adventure. And I'm like... a girl who lives adventure isn't going to be looking for a guy who never leaves his house.

I think too often people focus on FINDING "the right person," and we need to be more focused on BEING "the right person." It will benefit us in relationships, but also just in general life, because self improvement is good for us anyway.

 

MARRIED GUY HERE.

1. Don't do anything stupid. If you decide that later on to marry a faithful woman, don't be sleeping around now. It WILL create problems.

2. I think God has a number of women that you have a chance of being with, but if it's meant to be it's meant to be.

3. Men, find yourself a traditional woman who is faithful. This way you only need to worry about improving yourself and lifting her up. Being her leader. A worldly woman will try to use selfish tactics on you and not put you as her husband.

4. If you date a nice girl and it doesn't work out I mean no chemistry, don't worry. In a year or so you two may be dating. (Happened to me. Wanted nothing to do with me, then about a year later we were dating and fell in love.)

You want a good wife, then you need to look all women as two groups determined by their actions: Worldly, and Traditional.
Wordly - place herself first and is selfish.
Traditional - Honors you and places Jesus in the middle of your marriage.

If any of you want to talk, message me. I'd be happy to provide some insight.

 

Let me charify, in a christian household it's the husbands job to lead her and the family to church. It's the man's responsibility to be that foundation.

 

That's not Biblical, though. The Bible says a man should leave his mother and father and cling to his wife. We are supposed to place our spouses second, not to put our parents above them.

 

Great post

Reminds me of a quote I enjoyed a lot in my single days: "A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man should have to seek Him, to find her."

 

Completely agree, we attract people based on how we act and what we believe in.

 

It is possible God has no one set for you and it is not in his plan for you, it’s all about faith, but I do believe in looking for someone to date.

 

There is Gods will and your will, just because you get married does not mean it was to the right person.