New Here. Feeling Discouraged.

Hello and welcome.

You're making a monumentally good decision right now - one that is of the highest importance to your future marriage. Right now, I would say don't fret so much about how your thing is looking on a day-to-day basis. You are trained to MO with P and you need time to reboot.

Also, when the time comes with your wife, you'll probably both just have to admit that it will be awkward the first time or even first several times because of nerves and inexperience. It'll be even worse if you let the worry build and build and build. Be able to laugh about it and have fun, and don't get discouraged if you're not a 'machine' right away - nerves will do that to you and it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you.

Quitting P will change your entire view of sex - you'll realize that the real thing isn't like it is in the movies.

 

Hi welcome. Dont worry about your boner. It will be there when you need it. Im always scolding my hand for venturing palaces its not allowed. Its just a habit.

 

3½ years is 1,277 Days!

You are a NoFap legend mon!

 

Man, be glad that you have a partner (which I hope you love and she loves you too). Real connection matters. Not porn. Porn is fake. Erection from porn is fake, because of that many people can´t get hard erection in a real connection.

You can do it. Just do it for yourself and your love.

 

Nevertheless, it shows what you can accomplish when you focus. Surely, that focus should return now because you are, in effect, doing this for your wife. Whenever you feel temptation, just ask yourself: am I going to cheat on my wife and get off to another woman? I know you can do this.

 

Hello mate!

That was an impressive streak! Ask yourself: What were you doing in those days? What was your schedule like in those days? If you did that before, I am sure you can do that again.

You should now try to conserve your energy and try to direct it towards your works now. Losing your precious vitality on counterfeit idols and then expecting to work great in a position of high responsibility don't go together well.

There is nothing to give up mate, rather so much to gain. It's the PMO addict who gets deprived of health, money, time, productivity, efficiency, peace of mind, mental clarity, freedom and all the beautiful things that life has to offer. There is nothing to be given up when stopping PMO.

Porn allows us to affirm our manhood, gain sexual pleasure without requiring a thing of us as a man. It allows us to look at all the varieties of cake ( Novelty ) and eat them too ( M ) without any sorts of complications and risks and when you eat the cake in excess, you are bound to suffer.

I too used to have strong erections with P making me believe myself as a complete man. But the arousal intensity was due to the variety and novelty porn offers us.

Deep down, all of us knew that PMO isn't healthy even when we just started out. Great that you admit to it now. I wish you all the best brother for your upcoming marriage.

You did great in the past and now you have so many reasons to do it again. This book helped me a lot and so you can pick it up and give it a read if you wish. All the best

 

This really hit home with me. I have been with the same woman for 5 years now and she has been the light of my life. I decided to quit PMO because I wanted to marry her and felt that she deserved all of my sexual energy. Single men share it with whomever they wish, but a married man should not. I am not religious so we have been having sex since the start however I have been much more sexually connected with her since around day 45. We are now engaged and planning a wedding.

 

Brother, you must quit porn right fkn now. Not even kidding. Your marriage might fall apart solely due to this one habit.
You want to enjoy the body of your wife. The only way i see that happening is you going absolute cold turkey with full on No-PMO for the rest of your Life. See it as an investment in your own future.

I know it is hard because you haven't had amazing sex yet, but it is absolutely worth it you just have to trust me on that one. And you don't want to lie next to your wife without getting it up or being able to keep it up either.

The reason why i do nofap is because i never want this situation ever in my life again. FK THAT.

Do it for yourself, we are here to assist you.

 

You're a boss

 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but marriage will not help in the way you think it will. My husband thought the same thing. Only to find out, not only did he still have urges, but sex with me makes the urges worse.