1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

lonely for 5 years without any friends

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by I believe, Feb 27, 2020.

  1. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    i have been lonely for 5years without any friends , confined in my room .i have been living with my parents.i want to go out do any job but my father refused to allow me if the job wasn't in our status struck in (indian middle class family society).losing hope in living and don't see future as iam not good in studies.I had this P addiction for 3 years.I have zero contact in my phone except my family member.my days are moving with my parents with little to no contact with other people.i Hate living these way i told my parents but they don't understand it.What do to do to get rid o f my suicidal thoughts
     
    Last edited: Feb 27, 2020
  2. I’m sorry to hear you are struggling. Rebooting has its ups and downs, just like life. We see many people experiencing ups and downs during reboot, and though it may be hard to see now, these feelings won’t last forever. It will get better with time if you’re patient and wait.

    In the meantime please seek professional help. I know the idea of calling a helpline might terrify you, but in times of crisis we often need someone there to put our life into perspective. So please contact someone that can help and don’t hang up on them.

    https://www.iasp.info/
    The international association for suicide prevention maintains a list of suicide prevention hotlines for countries all over the world.

    http://suicidestop.com/suicide_prevention_chat_online.html
    If you don’t feel like talking to someone on the phone, they maintain a list of online instant messaging suicide prevention resources.

    You are not alone in this. There are ways to treat depression. Please contact people that can help you. Being depressed often makes you feel like you don’t have anymore options. But that is a lie. That is just the depression talking. These feelings you have won’t last forever. We are in this with you and will be cheering for you to get through this!
     
  3. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    there is no free meal in this world. i thought seeing doctor about depressing with no money in my hand i asked my parents for money as soon as they know reason for money they said no.they says nothing wrong with me its normal, if u go to hospital for this, society will think that you are mental ill that i will destroy my life.i have no option since i had no money for my next meal since i depend on parents for it that's why i create this thread this is only way i can get any help( some advice from members) without my parents knowing it.
     
  4. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    thanks for ur advice
     
    Deleted Account likes this.
  5. Click on the links then. No money necessary. ;)
     
  6. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    i also had suicidal thoughts when i was young age , and they didnt leave for a while ! It might sound strange , but once i changed my food for better , everything changed ! Try to eat mostly fresh cooked meals , lots of fruits and vegetables ! Life is a gift to develop ourselfs , and we should learn to be thankful for what we have , no matter how small it is !Dont hang out too much on the negative thoughts , try to seek positive things in everything and try to live happier life without too much drama! Have a nice day friend ! We can and we will!
     
  7. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    thanks for your reply.
     
  8. Yeah, I heard most Indians judge mental illnesses and that they like to hide it and not believe its a big deal . They even sometimes believe ,or pretend to believe , that the mental illness is not even there no matter how much their kids tell them it is and ask for professional help or just plain support from their parents.
    I also know that most Indians force their kids into getting certain jobs /degrees and won't condone or help support different job /degree choices their child has in mind.
    The cherry on top is also the economy is bad in India (and many other places) and the pay is very little.

    I'm sorry you're going through all of this. I really am.
     
    Last edited by a moderator: Feb 27, 2020
    control your life likes this.
  9. ahighertruth

    ahighertruth Fapstronaut

    400
    584
    93
    Yeah a lot of what you say is true unfortunately. Indians, especially the upper class ones, believe their children have to follow their footsteps and push them to get a degree as soon as possible. My father is kind of an asshole and a big reason why I am depressed. He doesn't tend for personal matters, but as soon as I get a bad report card or in trouble for something I usually get yelled at about how my future is at stake. Now that I am 31, he doesn't say much other than asking me about why I still don't have a job yet. I also have a brother who is turning 33 who just sleeps all day and works at a drug store, no ambition or drive to even be independent at all. All these are things I would avoid as a parent as much as possible.
     
    Coffee Candy likes this.
  10. recoome

    recoome Fapstronaut

    1,331
    1,164
    143
    I'm sorry your family isn't helpful. That makes it difficult. If possible can you move to another city under the pretext of studies. That can help.
     
    Coffee Candy likes this.
  11. get the hell away from your parents; they are the problem not you
     
  12. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    your right on point,thanks for your reply
     
    Coffee Candy likes this.
  13. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    my case is opposite my elder brother is most accomplished in my family.He got a phd degree in iitb college,he is working aboard as a researcher now,and thanks for your reply
     
    ahighertruth and Coffee Candy like this.
  14. recoome

    recoome Fapstronaut

    1,331
    1,164
    143
    Can you ask him to take you abroad? You really don't want ruin your life because of your parents.
     
  15. ahighertruth

    ahighertruth Fapstronaut

    400
    584
    93
    yeah its really weird, my oldest brother used to be smart but now is the biggest loser in the entire world. my youngest brother is the smartest now and is getting an MBA at a top 5 business school.
    hopefully things change for you man, also myself. im trying hard to get into a good college program so i can become more independent. i smoked a lot of weed and did too much drugs during school and screwed up my life.
    its always the easiest most pleasurable things that will ruin you.
     
  16. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    most of choice in my life is taken by my brother.I don't blame him in the end i stood by let him take my choice in my life( young and foolish and not courage), he is also one of the reason my life is like this.Between my parents and him i choose my parents( don't judge me wrong i love my brother)
     
  17. I believe

    I believe Fapstronaut

    61
    51
    18
    do u believe you can go to college and study at the age of31!? i thought that was not possible in India
     
  18. recoome

    recoome Fapstronaut

    1,331
    1,164
    143
    it would be difficult to go to college at 31 but it would be even more difficult to go at 35. I went to college much later and there was a phd student younger than me. it was embarrassing at times but i'm glad I did it. life would've been worse had I not done it.

    true: even I wasted a lot of time into pornography. It really ruined me.
     

Share This Page