Flatline tiredness and boredom

So back on another streak of NoFap, no sex and no alcohol. At first I was really motivated and getting loads done and feeling a lot mentally stronger. But the last week I’ve been exhausted, bored, angry and depressed. I Finnish work early and come home to bed. My sleeps pretty crap dreaming about trauma and stress. I get up in the morning and feel as though I want to go back to bed. Did martial arts today and it really bored me and came home for a nap. So sluggish and tired all the time. Has anyone else had this problem with their reboot. And any tips to help deal with it would be appreciated thanks?

 

Thanks dude, was really close to calling an escort, but I know where it all ends up. Sick of going round in circles. Got to stick to it this time.

 

No I wish, haven’t got a girlfriend and escorts are out of bounds too. Bloody terrible withdrawals I was in pretty deep

 

Ok cheers, no I don’t have a mrs, my counsellor reckons I need some abstinence under my belt.. before I get in a relationship. But being isolated and the loneliness can be really triggering too when things aren’t going too well it would be nice for someone to have your back. It’s not just the fapping and porn it’s actual escorts, street workers, phone lines etc. I’ve used sex, porn drink and drugs occasionally to deal with stress, attachment issues, mental health and trauma. So I have been trying for 2 years to do this 90 days. The furthest I’ve got is 53 which was ages ago. Woke up 3 in the morning last night feeling that awful I had to act out to stop all the shit going round in my head. And have been acting out all day. I read somewhere that it’s worse to save it up for 2,3,4 weeks and then have a blow out. So I think I might try just masturbating to fantasy and cut out the escorts etc. Then start looking for a girlfriend when I’m in a better place. At least I haven’t had a drink for 3 weeks. But still feel pretty lousy after messing up.

 

Thanks, yea today doesn’t feel half as bad with the relapsing, as I’ve not drank. In better shape too. And feel strong to learn from mistakes and keep moving forward. I imagine the longer I stay off it the easier the sex addiction will get.

 

I love training and the cold shower thing works a treat thanks. I will work on the meditating after sounds an awesome combination thanks

 

So do you advise that I go for an absence free period from ejaculating completely. Or would easy mode be a more sustainable option as I’ve been trying for a couple of years to do the 90 day reboot and never felt it get easier. Surely I’m always going to crave sex as we’re biologically designed to breed and enjoy sex. Thanks

 

Cool Sounds a good point, might get myself on a dating site again