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Thoughts on masterbating if just horny

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by thelightfantastic, Mar 1, 2020.

  1. thelightfantastic

    thelightfantastic Fapstronaut

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    So im 20 days into no PMO

    its around now, the last time, i get horny and really need release but i have no desire to use porn. I had an erotic dream last night and woke up with a really strong hard on and the desire has carried over to today.

    what so you guys think? Will i lose all the benefits of abstinence or will i still get good carry over for not using porn? Desire is pretty strong but im resisting so far. My own thoughts are that i need to get away from the habit of taking care of myself and actually work more on doing it with another person
     
  2. FY_33

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    Well, i visited this forum because i cant control myself to M whenever urge comes(no need P). So, i can tell you, since you stopped PMO-ing, M will affect you more mentally than physically. Trust me, ever since i lost my longest streak, i have up and downs (once/1 week,4 days, 2 weeks, and so on). It really affect phsycology.
     
  3. thelightfantastic

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    thanks for the reply, so in your experience the act of masterbating without porn still has a negative effect on you mentally, that right? I think i can relate to that as last time i made it this far, i was feeling quite good, after i M’d I definitely had more ups and downs i think
     
  4. FY_33

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    Thats right bro, thats why after the last time i M 18 days ago, i decided to hard mode til married. M with girl and M alone feel entirely different. You just bust your life force to nothing, while with a girl. Its make you manly(my experience).

    I regret doing it(foreplay) before married tho...
     
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  5. FY_33

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    well, in my life i prefer M while sex chatting with my ex(in the past while we still dating), or with imagination from my experience with real sex. P is definitely not a representation of real sex.
     
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  6. AfricanSunset

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    Hi, I am also here only because of M. Use to do it every 2 to 5 days. No P ever. When I stopped pros where enhanced self confidance. Confidance with men. self control. Clamness in social setting, more drive. Friendlyness to more people. Sensitive. Can look people in the eye. More positive. Withdrawal sofar, strong urges, especially day 3 10 23 27. Extreme insomnia started day 10, seems to be calming down now. Heavy Headaches from day 22. Now something af a flatline. But urges seem to have died down. So Yes, M has its own withdrawel. If you cave now you will have to start this prosess again. Hang in there. You are almost there brother!
     
  7. thelightfantastic

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    thanks so much for that, think i needed to hear that from somone else and remember that caving in is all part of the addiction, need to fight it and move on.

    Came within inches of doing it but just mediatated now which helped me move on from the urge for now, and your reply should see me through the day now!
     
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  8. Kligor

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    Don't masturbate buddy,that is my opinion.
    Masturbation is highly addictive,masturbation cause dopamine rush,low energy,losing your semen.If you just masturbate without P,after some time(few weeks,or months or even year)you are going to need something that will give you crazier dopamine rush(porn).My advice is to quit masturbation too,your life,your decision.
     
  9. AfricanSunset

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    Lets do it together, I am in the fight with you my friend!
     
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  10. thelightfantastic

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    yes! Im trying to do my masters assignment and it’s been hell trying to concentrate
     
  11. thelightfantastic

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    i can totally relate to this. So glad I didn’t do it today as after I beat the urge i had another awakening or epiphany, it’s like you get rewarded by insight if you don’t give in to your dysfunctional brain!
     
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  12. thelightfantastic

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    thanks mate, you’re totally right in that doing it on your own and theb with a girl are two different things, truth is is that I actually feel uncomfortable when a girl is doing it which i think reflects on how dysfunctional my brain and penis have become! As in i prefer just me and that can’t be right.
     
  13. If you start masturbating again it will not be long before you are back watching porn.
     
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  14. 12Paladins

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    The way the mind works is tricky. You start negotiating.. "it's just M".. but that's the beginning of the spiral, and sooner or later you probably will find yourself in the old habit. So stay away from M. Stay strong, it's worth it.
     

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