Hard time getting over her

Entrepreneurs in Cars, Coach Greg Adams, Donovan Sharpe and many others I found them useful from a 'focus on building a better you' perspective.

 

lesson learned.

 

Hey Co. Just check in how is the healing process going? My day's are getting better. I've gotten into some relationships in the past recent months and I feel as if I'm done. I'm talking to one gal, but shes pretty busy so I'm not expecting anything. Relationships can ruin us of course, but we can rebuild our self's.

 

Well now I'm back to square one. I was talking to her yesterday and she threw in "I'm with the guy" on vacation next weekend. I was down yesterday but I didn't let that get to me threw out the day. I am actually done looking for right now and dating online is clearly not working for me yet or I'm just not meeting the right woman. I'm over my last relationship.. I just feel she needs some karma for what she did and thought on herself... Is that a bad thing? I don't like her, but I forgive her for what she did. Ever since then I haven't been the same.

The only thing we can do man is to move on and better our self's so we can be attractive and magnetize the right woman towards us. But for me right now, maybe the universe is telling me to better myself and that she'll come around eventually. But other people are attracting woman like candy, so it puzzles me right now..

 

It actually isn't. We people are all the same. The moment you make people 'special', is when dangerous things happen, like feeling 1 girl only can give you happiness. That is a delusion, as there are so many more wonderous women who have things to show you.

 

A good man never fights with his girl. A woman needs to feel safe with you, and if you fight with her, she loses all emotional safety.

That's quite a generalisation you put there, Max. You can be emotional and empathetic while remaining strong. As long as you don't make your problems hers, she can feel safe when noticing that you deal with your shit without losing your shit — in other words, in a mature and strong manner.

 

A woman might test a man but she doesn't actually want to see that she got under your skin and you couldn't control yourself. I agree there is an element of security being lost in that case. If I've been in a relationship and it ended up emotionally damaging for me - I walked away. But it is good advise never to get drawn into a fight - remain above if at all possible.

I would agree that a man shouldn't be a robot - but also a woman is expecting that she will be the emotional creature and not having to deal with a man riding an emotional roller-coaster instead of supporting her

 

In your experience, maybe.

I have had relationships with zero fights. They were the best!

I have known (rarely) couples with great relationships who never fight. They disagree from time to time, but they talk it through like adults. They are great role models.

 

I'm in the same boat. I recently just got out of a long-term relationship and I still think about her everyday. We were dating for six and half years, I was going to propose this August. I think about her everyday and I struggle with not seeing her or being with her. The other night I was up until 12:30 in the morning even though I had to be up at 5:30. I couldn't help but text her and get off my chest how much I still love her. Of course, she never replied back to me. I actually believe that she may have met someone else which makes me feel even worse. I don't have good advice besides to try to focus on yourself and become the best version of yourself.

 

I am 17 and I had 14 exes, do you get the picture? Btw, I never had sex with any of them, so, yeah, nothing else to say other than, I'm going through problems too!

 

Holy smokes, 14 exes? You must be really good at this dating thing haha.

No seriously, I haven't had even one (truth be told I don't want one so I get what I deserve), but still man.

 

Was she the one who called it off or you? Makes me wonder why invest 6 and a half years into a relationship then break it off.

 

Trust me, relationships for a 9-year-old and 15-year-old don't equate to a 21-year-old's relationship.