Double Standard for Male Victims of Molestation

This is disturbing whether a man or a woman does it ... and this double standard is something that definitely needs to go away. There's a reason this is illegal ... not just because it's immoral ... but it causes lifelong traumatic issues with the victim ... whether it's a boy or girl. These boys aren't "lucky" ... and it's insane to think people actually have this perspective.

 

Again, molesting is not having sex.
A kid fantasize about having sex, maybe in strange way but still consensual sex.
Here we criticize people that can't accept the idea that also boys can be molested because "they all want this, they should feel lucky". That's the point.
The kid in the video hab been molested.
you can believe it or not but he didn't wanted to have sex with his teacher but was not able to say no and the teacher took advantadge of him.
Can happen also to boys, and we are discussing about this.
If your only point is that it's obvious that kids want to bang their teacher so there's nothing to say, then say nothing.

 

Good thread. Even with the slightly argumentative tone to a lot of it from both sides of the fence. #bekind people.

So.. I would've been one of those guys saying "yeah, wish I had that when I was a kid" and yes up absolutely had a crush on teachers/older women. As someone else said, big difference between abuse and consensual sex. The nuance in here not really being mentioned much is the abuse that becomes consensual.

What I mean by that is long term abuse of minors where the end result is a consensual relationship based on not knowing it shouldn't be happening. This was me as a child and through doing nofap I've came to link that abuse (that's what it was) to a lot of the reasons for my porn addiction, behaviours and coping mechanisms later in life.

I've dealt with the abuse years ago and came to terms with it for what it was, and sorta figured that was the end of it. The recent revelations linking it to my porn problems too just go to show the long lasting effects this sort of abuse does have and why it shouldn't be laughed off as "yeah cool, my hot older teacher abused me".

(Btw.. wasn't a teacher with me, nor really that much older but the effects are the same. Female in position of power over unsuspecting boy.)

 

You refuse to listen to the testimonies of the actual GUYS who have had this happen to them, and say you're completely wrong. This has nothing to do with me being a guy or not. It has to do with listening to the victims and their own experiences.

But in response to your question, clearly you aren't going to be learning anything anytime soon.

 

Exactly. There is soooo much scientific and psychological evidence to back this up. Disagreeing with this would just be stupid. This is highly proven.

 

I don't really care about being kind to people who don't give a crap about rape victims. Not gonna apologize for being a bit "argumentative."

In regards to the rest of your post, I'm sorry that happened to you and thank you for sharing your experience.

 

Thank you.

 

Sorry to say it harsh, but this is bullshit. First of all just because I am aroused does not mean I give consent, this generalization is dangerous because here a smart lawyer can turn the story in way that you can't even imagine, also for rape perpetrated by men, but most important you don't even need to be aroused to have an erection, it is a natural consequence of stimolation, a man can even have an erection up to 3 hours after his death, so necrophilia is ok if in the first 3 hours after death?

P.s. Even women during rape can unvoluntary get wet, that's why many of them feel guilty, because they can't accept it is a natural answer of the body, and they think they enjoyed it and deserved it, but they don't.
No Woman deserve rape, and no men too.

So as stated by my friend before me, pay attention to your generalization, they can harm people.

 

I think the person you quoted was saying that idea is harmful... he said the following is a myth that needs to be overcome. He's not saying the idea he stated is a good one.

 

I think you're right, I got tricked by "however", like the myth was only the first sentence and with however he had started a brand new sentence.
My bad.