The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Day 7 down! Doing fine, no urges so far...

 

Day 4
Damn the urge hits really hard damn

 

I get what you mean, but in my lifetime, I'd NEVER (Note that I'm not mad at you) say goodbye to porn (even if I wasn't addicted). I'd just say something like, 'F*** PORN!!!!' 'PORN HAS CAUSED ME SO MUCH F****** SOCIAL ANXIETY, I CAN'T TAKE IT!!!!' <-- Yes, I say things like this to myself when the urges hit, and I scream to myself.


(Yes, I know that you said not to say goodbye to porn when you have the addicted behavior.)


You are right in terms of those key words: Never and forever. Those are words porn "wants to hear".


As I have told many many many people, hatred is the key to winning against this wretched addiction.


Willpower is a HUGE plus if you have it, because everything becomes easy for you. But, of course, it is possible for your willpower to fade. Once it fades (like it did for me), then the only thing that you can rely on is hatred.


Once you hate the porn addiction like HECK, then you'll go to any length to win. But at times, you won't because you might be focusing on a sexual thought of a hot woman, and that's not good at all. That's why we need to create our own straight paths, not crooked ones.


Lastly @RiseToGreatness, remember not to say goodbye to porn and masturbation again. Just imagine yourself "throwing porn in the fire". As your first post says on here, "You must take your ring... and cast it into the fire." Once you're able to do that, then you are a free man. You'll be a White Wizard.



I feel like I type the same thing about hatred to countless people on NoFap, but I tell them about it in a different way, and then there's always something extra to add into the mix (which, in this case, was the goodbye part).


For more information on my ideology, read my journal, Fighting for a new life. You'll get more information about my ideas if you don't just read my first post.


https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/fighting-for-a-new-life.262612/

 

Day 4

 

Day 15: Finally made it to Hobbit!

 

Day9
dreaming about real girls, I need to start working on myself finally. doing only pmo is not enough to alter ourselfs in the longrun. For the 9 days I was focusing on PMO and GYM + diet . I was able to put on weight some 6 kgs during 5 weeks so I m rly satisfied. Need to do more and think less.

I dont see a point in giving any goodbye or writing a letter to porn. To me it only means u still are not commited truly to give it up. What I think we should be focus on is THE GOOD STUFF. Write down cons and pros about ur using porn and try to always read it while u are about to relapse and try to write some journal after u relapse, how bad u feel about it. Write to urself what happens with u when u relapse and realise its not fucking worth it. All urges are only matter of time, mostly the short time, however if u do nothing and try to fight ur temptations well you not gonna win this fight in longrun. After few days of trying you gonna convience urself u must do it in order to move on. At least I was losing my streaks that way many many times
What I mean by not fighting is : dont try to calm down ur mind to not think about it, you should rather focus urself on doing something way different. So your brain will stop bombing u ;]

 

211......
To minas morgul........

 

Day 3 completed successfully


All the best brothers

 

Day 4
Still busy with my exams. They will end tomorrow

 

Sorry to hear that, addiction is a hard fight but if you can get in there, you can also get out there!
You are married right? What does your wife thinks about it?
If I had a relationship I would (trust me, as I had 2 relationships it was truth) never ever watch porn. I even had no urges in this time. Everything went smooth, till they breaked up. Then I felt alone again and porn was my uh "alternative"?
I dont want to front somebody here, but I just cant understand people who have relationships watching porn? Ok couples who watch it together I can somehow understand. (somehow...) But if one of them watches it? I dont know man for me it is like cheating and loyality is an really important thing for me.

 

So true, you shouldn't watch porn if you're in a relationship. You shouldn't watch it in general.

 

Day 5 here
Most of you heard of it that COVID-19 makes trouble now in Europe. In Germany the area where I live, schools are now closed. This means that one exam is advanced on Monday instead on Thursday. Anyway what I want to tell you is that I will be in some days at home for a long time and I am afraid to relapse. Would be anyone so kind to give some tips to avoid relapses at home for days??