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Why are my benefits completely faded?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by dhsjjsjsj56, Mar 12, 2020.

  1. dhsjjsjsj56

    dhsjjsjsj56 Fapstronaut

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    I’ve been on nofap for almost a year now. Hardcore mode NoFap no touching myself no watching porn or anything. During the first 90 days were the best times of no cap I felt super confident, happy, very energetic and bouncy every day. But now all of those benefits have faded away and I’m not going through a flatline stage either because I’ve already been through one of those and I just know it isn’t a flatline. Like where’s my energy, I’m sometimes confident but those are on good days and I’m not happy nor am I sad. How can I get back to feeling like that? Do I relapse?
     
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  2. juniormelville

    juniormelville Fapstronaut

    Of course not. You know you'll feel like absolute shit if you do that. How you're feeling may be little to do with NoFap, porn, masturbation and so on. A lot of people have those kind of feelings for other reasons. Abstaining from sexual stimulation is necessary but not sufficient. It takes a lot of sustained effort to change your life.
     
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  3. filmit57

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    I’ve had a lot of those days let’s call them neutral days where you don’t feel great but don’t feel terrible. It’s part of the healing process, I have had streaks of those days for 30-40 days in a row where it felt like nothing was happening then I got hit with a burst of energy for a week or so. It takes a long time to heal, I’m 393 days hardmode, I’m anticipating 500 days minimum, might be much longer who knows but things have improved a lot.
     
  4. Kexas23

    Kexas23 Fapstronaut
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    It happens to all of us.
     
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  5. LeeUK

    LeeUK Fapstronaut



    Stop doing hard mode. You've already proven you can abstain from P, now take back your life.

    My 2 cents..
     
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  6. WanderTruth

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    Progress is everything. You need to know NF is not magic (i mean, yeah they allow us to have more time, to challenge our mind, give us a chance to change, but no, not magic). Congrats to you for having a long streak. You conquered a mountain. You got victory! And now, besides NF, you need to do other projects too(meditation, skill, sport...). Human like challenges. If it is easy, it will be boring. And once you achieve, you feel great again. Hope it helps
     
  7. Dagger323

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    I’m assuming you are unaware that users may experience multiple flatlines on a streak. I guarantee that’s what you’re going through. If you feel flat right now it’s because you’re still recovering. Do not relapse and do not go off hard mode, that is terrible advice. You will come out of it eventually and feel incredible again. No PMO is one of the best things you can do for yourself when you are single and practicing channeling your sexual energy into productive things. Do not frivolously waste it by jerking off. Never go back to masturbating or looking at porn.
     
  8. CodeTalker

    CodeTalker Fapstronaut

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    Even people that are not addicted can feel bad or sad. Nofap isn’t the secret to happiness.
    But now that you are free, don’t get to porn again. It won’t help at all.
     
  9. Unibet

    Unibet Fapstronaut

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    When you say hard mode. What's that?
     
  10. No Porn, Masturbation or Orgasm
     
  11. LeeUK

    LeeUK Fapstronaut

    In other words, no sex. Training yourself to be asexual or ok with not being with a woman. Basically inviting depression into your life.
     
  12. juniormelville

    juniormelville Fapstronaut

    Please be careful. Do not disturb others' recovery. There is a reason for it. The idea is to allow the nervous system to calm down from its hyperstimulated state and then, if desired, to return to or commence a healthy sex life. In my experience, it is necessary to return to a natural, baseline state in order to become sensitive to the body's real needs. Without that, it's impossible to distinguish between natural, physical sexual desire and the overstimulating effects of porn, masturbation and fantasy.

    Please can you explain what would be wrong with being 'ok with not being with a woman'? Do you think that single men are morally obliged to feel depressed? Are you saying there is some kind of moral obligation to have sex even if the body does not desire it? Why?

    I have a feeling that the key to your own recovery is to be found somewhere among those questions.
     
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  13. LeeUK

    LeeUK Fapstronaut

    Having a healthy sex life can bring a lot happiness to a person and improve mental health. There is no similar feeling or connection between two people. You seem to think I'm only talking about the physical act of sex, I'm talking about intimate relationships and finding your life partner or soulmate. Something that is seemingly unheard of to you guys.

    This is going to be my last post on this forum, it's like talking to a brick wall on here. You have people crying suicide because their depression has peaked with all of the years of abstinence and thinking getting an erection is a no no.

    I came here because I thought porn was doing all of the damage but I've realized through reading people's posts that it is NOT the porn, it is all mental health related and the porn use is simply a side effect of it. I've snapped out of it! Most of my relapses this year haven't even involved porn anyway so I was silly to think it was the root cause.

    I'd bet all the money I've got that if you lot had more game, got out more, put down your fucking phones/tablets and were having frequently interactions with girls you would stop thinking about porn completely. But instead you punish yourselves if you jerk off like twice after going 200+ days and think your life is over. It's sad.
     
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  14. juniormelville

    juniormelville Fapstronaut

    Mate, I'm married.
     
  15. It is women that want men to believe their lives are incomplete without a female partner. Men can live perfectly well and happy without them or sex.
    I am a long time married man so i speak from experience.
     
  16. Nucleus

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    When you reach the top of the mountain, keep climbing. Are you still having lustful bought some about women? Do you check them out in the street? Have you started meditation, going to church, running, chess, reading... or any other measures to ensure that you are growing?
    Those superpowers come when you KNOW that a great improvement has taken place.

    Start studying a language... or something.
    My two-cents.
     
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