I wonder if I can ever find the right man for me?

Not sure you read my post... why would I call you a prude when I feel the same way? Maybe I’m a prude too but I don’t care about what others think only really what my wife thinks and feels and since we seem to be on the same page all seems well.

Anyway, I’m asking if you are posting just to vent or to actually find reassurance that you will find a man that has the same standards as you?

We are all influenced by the media but we don’t all take it at face value.

 

It's not a book it is hospital issued pregnancy/maternity notes which you get asked lots of questions inside so they (the healthcare professionals) know everything about yours and your partners backgrounds, also the circumstances in which your child will be born. It's a yellow note book you carry around with you at all times from 13 weeks pregnant. They have been around since my eldest son was growing (17 years) at least. Not sure if you have this outside uk. They are very stringent here with this sort of issue.

 

Maybe you will or maybe you won't. But that is not in your control. And what's not in your hands should not bother you. You try to be positive. Your positive energy will definitely attract someone that deserves you. Just be the best version of yourself.
We all are doing the same. Even in this evil world, full of negativity, there are people who work to be better versions of themselves every day.

 

I read almost everything about the talk between you and wugazi. You are talking about hygiene and I am with you when you say that many illnesses comes from licking. Like licking the vagina or buttholes etc. You are completely right about this topic. I have read that the actor Michael Douglas had a desease on his tongue after getting down and licking (his wife) Catherine Zeta Jones. He must have alot of oralsex and he has now cancer on his tongue. This is no joke! I dont know if he cured it now, but I wouldn't get the risk to have it. After I read this I am abit concerned about it too. Since you dont know how many times your friend has taken antibiotics and hormones and if he is completely clean and virus- and bacteria-free and clean and other stuff you will never know if you get a desease. Thats right! I also know that many gay people who have unprotected sex and swallow cum, their throats burn as hell and they get HIV infected. But I think it is okay to have such sex, when both are really clean and it is done with protection like with condoms (for men) and for woman there are oralsafe-cloth (for licking)...it is rare to purchase this since people doing it with taking a huge risk without but you can buy it. Too be honest I am also afraid of licking particals from a bleeding sexual organ of any woman. What are you thinking about when men and woman, both are clean and protected? What are you thinking about being naked as a couple and wash each other for totally getting clean? And what is your opinion about masturbating each other or patting in general? What is your opinion about kissing with tongue? You can get easily infected with bacteria and viruses as well too I guess. I am sorry for asking too much,...but I am just curious about your thoughts.

 

Ok, so I don’t have the time to read through the entire thread. But just wanted to share something to help you:

One of my really good friends (a male) gets almost no pleasure from receiving oral sex. When we were comparing what sorts of things we enjoy with a woman, I was pretty convinced that no man would turn down receiving oral sex, because that was MY perspective. So I was shocked when he basically shrugged and said “Meh, doesn’t do much for me, really.” So the idea here is that your odds of finding a man who is ok with this are probably higher than you think. You don’t necessarily need to find someone who DISLIKES it. He can be indifferent, like my friend is. He genuinely doesn’t care.

And yes, oral sex is a staple in porn. Likely because it photographs well (at least for people who like it). The industry is all about the things that sell. Oral sex happens to sell. Does it skew our perspective? Probably. As with most things in media, society becomes trained by what we see. Being an asian male like myself, I feel the effects of how the media portrays asian men. We’re perceived by american society as less attractive because asian men are literally NEVER given truly attractive roles. So the average american woman is subconsciously trained to not perceive asian men as attractive. Luckily, I have been able to find many women who DO like us. So I have confidence that you will find what you’re looking for.

 

I never said "non-existent". Of course there are people who are repulsed by it. I am repulsed by it. An I pray you find someone suitable to you.

 

As a man who fantasize gay porn, I usually watch those orals or soft sex lol, I feel penetrative sex or anal sex a little abusive but sometimes o like watchin it too hahaha

 

Well anal is pretty gross, I think the death grip is the only reason that ever got popular.