Cause of sissy fetish?

The cause is not enough of my avatar lol.

 

I have very low self-esteem. And also a bondage fetish.
When I was at school, I was a pusher and had very good marks.
I studied and also pushed very hard to get the best results.

This was to compensate my low self esteem.
Now I am in my midlife-crisis and there is no energy left.
My self-esteem is still low.

When you try to compensate then you don't get to the root of the problem.

 

I've talked with my therapist about my obsessions which also orbits near sissy porn and we also believe that its connected with my low self esteem and feeling of not being real man.

I believe that many people here would benefit from therapy. My psychologist is very cool and understanding woman. When i explained to her my porn addiction she took it seriously and now we are focusing on finding root cause for my problems.

 

I honestly think people who find trans/traps/transwomen/futanari attractive are just people who are attracted to women and are obsessed with their own penis. They enjoy the fact of a woman having possession of the penis because it subconsciously represents their own penis. It is similar to how women with snakes was very attractive to certain men because the snake represented their own penis.

You might just need to spend time with a loving woman who not only cares for your, appreciates you, and lets you care for her, but gives you enough sexual support and attention to your penis. You could be facing penis attention starvation. It sounds stupid, but I'm not being sarcastic. The more isolated I get the more I like futanari stuff. The more time I spend with real women the less I masturbate and I never even consider a futanari thought.

 

Oh gosh, I'm sorry for misreading it. Thank you for explaining to me. My apologies.

 

I do agree with the transwoman thing. As I was obsessed with my penis size for years. And I seen an article about it’s a triggering visual body part and makes us want to compete with the other male. therefor get erect for Sperm competition. When I see my own dick really engorged it even excites me! The transwoman section is in with the sissy garbage and is really degrading too. I’ve had low self esteem so can relate to that too. Plus the shame you feel fuels the addiction and keeps you stuck in a degrading loop. It does fade a lot the more you stay away from it. But that brain pathway is still waiting there to jump back on for your big dopamine hit for a long time. But less appealing to entertain the idea of doing it when you start looking after yourself I was told by a professional that runs Paula Hall recovery groups that a year and a half of not entertaining unhealthy fetishes and you’re well on your way for you path ways to really fade and 5 years they’re completely gone. It’s a long time but at least it’s not life long.

 

That is so against the intention of this forum!

I'm glad that you are recovering your old self. Well done!

 

YEEEEES

Exactly! I started looking more into masculinity, I grew up with a father but...not masculine. So I need to figure out for myself what masculinity is, but I agree!

 

This sissy fetish is just the cause of your belief that YOU'RE NOT WORTHY ENOUGH.
YOU'RE NOT A MAN AND YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE ONE. And this all derives from those PORN VIDEOS (AME_I_A_N M_AN G__LS) If you know what's that, you know what I am talking about. They just want you to completely indulge in being a slave or a sissy and Never think about being a REAL MAN.
Ever imagined?

1. Punching a guy you don't like in the face.
2. A girl on her knees begging you ro suck your cock.
3. A girl getting excited when to remove your pants.

You will be like NO. THAT'S JUST NOT ME.
And I understand that So In my opinion what you need to do is -

1. Stop watching PORN. Because that's what makes you EMASCULINE and make you Think that you like getting pegged and dressing up like a sissy.
2. Accept that this is not your thing. Dressing like a sissy is not what your made for. Getting pegged might be a little KINK that you might like to try with a girl in near future just for curiosity. THAT'S IT.
3. Whenever you get these thoughts Say That Loud. I'M A MAN AND THIS IS BULLSHIT.

 

Who created videos of kind sissy porn it's deserve burned.

 

I think its 40+ cuck perverts conserativ mindset living in the past, porn industri and female supremacists playing games to mkae money and play divide conquer and also enlave and condtion boys

 

Thank you for sharing this. Might be what I needed to hear!
I threw away all my porn and all sorts of sexual paraphernalia relating to my cuckold and sissy fetish and I went on hardmode for several hundred days (with a few slips). That seemed to help enormously! I cried a lot too. I embraced my masculinity and I forgave my mother for teaching me to loathe masculinity.

All of this helped a lot. So why is it coming back with a vengeance now? I think Covid-19 and all the stress is a major factor but . . . I have to recognise that I have gotten pretty far out of shape.

A couple of years ago I was building so much muscle that I slowed down because I didn't want to get too big. It's been all down hill from there. I was still pretty fit when I met my gf, but I've put on 10+ pounds since then and getting to the gym a lot less.

Damn. I really wish the gyms were open! But your post is helping to see that maybe some of my current struggles are because I feel ashamed of myself for losing that hard earned physique and my addicts response is to sexualise those feelings and turn them into fantasies of emasculation.

 

SO according to your own interpretation of masculinity: being a male means those three things:

1. being aggressive (which is kind of stupid, because women want to punch people's faces too).
2. degrading women, yes it is how you made it sound.
3. being considered attractive just because you feel entiteled to.

I don't know how you came to deduce this, because many women would want nothing to do with such man. Including me of course.
This view is really what makes me despite the porn industry even more, it wraps people's ideas about women.
women pay a far higher price than men due to porn, remember Dr. Priyanka reddy, who was raped and her abuse was recorded to be viewed by more than 8 millions porn users. The same men had the audacity to comment on how much they feel she deserves it and how much it is exciting to them. Or the teen who has been missing for three months, to later be found on porn sites being raped by older man-pigs.
You clearly have no idea the real price many people pay for porn to be produced and streamed online; hell even a teen boy was kidnapped and was raped in order to produce gay porn material.
I do not think sissy porn is any milder than this, it is just on the same box. But for you to think that the solution must be more violence and female degradation just shows how much hatered you have in there.
No one needs to be degraded for someone's sadistic enjoyment . end of the story.

 

The entire argument over who has it worse is dehumanizing. Whoever wields that black and white thinking suffers greatly, and then they do terrible things with the very best of intentions.

 

That is not what he meant. Those three things are the interpretation of masculinity this kind of fetishes carve into your mind.