I wonder if I can ever find the right man for me?

i also hate those two forms of sex and find it quite unnatural.
In our society, sex is considered a taboo and virginity before marriage is the norm though it's changing now due to film industry, media and westernization.
I also don't fancy girls who wear skimpy clothes, it's just gimmicky attention seeking.

 

I mean, there's no restrictions regarding sex for a married couple but people find it awkward and shameful to talk about it, just as you said intimate and secret.

Well, I was actually speaking in support of being virgin until marriage that you took as opposite but hate how society is changing nowadays and everything being so sexualized and people not valuing their purity.

 

I really wish I can live this one day with my girlfriend from the future and of course more like stroking each other and doing stuff like cooking and eating together, bathing together and sleep together just like kids would do. Sometimes I wish that I want to be 5 again as I was a little kid. I was happier and had no idea about porn, masturbation and orgasm.
I want to be just innocent as I was back then as a kid. One day I played with the girl from the neighbourhood, she was so annoying because she wanted to play the hair stylist with me and wanted to do cut my hairs and I wanted to play football,...it was so fun and she was so cute and she also was 5 years old and I wasn't even shy to talk to her. Now with my 26 years I am abit shy to woman. It is like their beauty impresses me alot and makes me weak, because there is a feeling of "I dont deserve you", "because you are too beautiful and you would search for a men who is atractive like you". I wish to myself that I can get rid of these thoughts one day.

 

Yeah you are completely right.....and I see also the cult of piercing the nipples or piercing the clitoris or cutting off the labia of womans clitoris just that a woman or a men see a younger version of a sexual organ also the shame and guilt from oversexualized thinking from the porn industry as a part of this whole. I dont see any purpose of it. By the way what is your opinion about piercing?
The same goes for operation for bigger penises and bigger breasts and bigger butts. It is not necessary if you hadn't any car accident or so. But doctors never asking for the psycological health condition of any person around the world...they just see the money. That is what freaks me out sometimes. My old class mate asked me last december if I am virgin and how it would be to go to a prostitute or do I want to end up asexuell, he asked? I said no, although I've started to feel ashamed because almost everybody in my old school had a girlfriend or boyfriend and had probably sex. I felt the pressure being virgin, still today it is the same. I would feel really bad when I pay a woman just to have sex with. I am realizing these days that sex is just for real couples who truly love and accept each other. Therefore I find prostitution also devaluing woman for having sex with over 1000 men. It is horrible.

 

The people screamed for candy.

Then they complain when they get diabetes.

Who is to blame, the addict or the enabler?

Corporations and investors are addicted to the money.

Regular folks are addicted to the fantasy.

But the fact is that society always corrupts everything.

Someone could invent the cure for cancer, and society would find a way to ruin it.

I can't take a stand against a world full of people out to kill me.

Lest I kill myself by trying to save them.

But the one thing I can accomplish is making it through today without PMO.

That is a profitable use of my time.

 

Personally, I don't like it. It's purely a subjective opinion, of course. I especially don't like pierced lips, tongues, and noses.

 

I am thinking the same although I am not conservative. I know that woman, who pierce their tongues,doing this just to please their men or boyfriend for giving BJ's, the same goes for piercing the clitoris. There is no purpose or reason for doing that. Demonstarting others how crazy and dirty someone is, is like a waste of time. It doesn't even look good.

Right. I see. Thank you for calling me honorable
I have another question to you. Do you think it is okay to have protected sex with someone that I truly love without being married? I am telling this because many people like catholics, muslims, and conservative jews are telling that it is forbidden to have sex before marriage or they say it is a sin or that I will burn in hell for that action, do you think that too? Are you born and raised in a conservative family? I mean I dont want to have kids because it is hard these days without money and without being able to care and look after kids. There are too many points what leads me not to have kids, but I know woman wish a life with kids....but it is really hard. The hardest point is to take responsibility for your own kids. I am agnostic and I really would like to know if there is a god out there and I wanted to know if he would judge me even if I had multiple sex with someone that I really love and for who I would take care but without having kids and without marriage.
I dont claim that sex is the most important thing in the world, having a partner and stick together should be the main reason for love but I am curious and afraid of this religious aspect. What is your opinion about that?

 

I hope I am not too late.

my advise is simple: if you look for love you wont find it, you are forcing it you will look desperate

if you are not looking you will find it and everything you wanted in a man

love and success are side effects of a healthy,balanced and happy life

 

I disagree with you to this topic! By the way what does PiV means?
I respect you for being an old fasioned woman. But it is a wrong perception to think, that a man or a woman couldn't take responsible for his or her partner even if they are not married or not having kids. It is always the attitude of an indivual and the view on true love. For example if I had a girlfriend I would take care of my girlfriend no matter what happens to her. I would care for her for the rest of my life, I would treat her with respect and dont force her to practice anal or oral sex,and I wouldn't cheat on her or search sex with another girl, even if she is handicaped and therefore sitting on a wheelchair for the rest of her life, I would still hold her hand and stay with her. True love doesn't mean sex in the first place. IN fact true love never can mean a superficial act. True love means "my suffering is your suffering" "your happiness is my happiness" It simply means being compassion and understanding about your partners suffering and joy and having empathy no matter in how bad situation he or she is. No matter if you are married or not, having children or not. I see alot of religious people too who are getting married and having children but they get divorced like western people who are acting unmoral and having gangbang parties,....there is no true love either, but always arguing and violence like I know from my own muslim parents. No you understand my view completely wrong. It is hard for a men to take care for a child, because a child costs alot of money and there is much more stress and complications to take care for 2 people. But it is easier if you take care for only one person. The second reason is the fear that a married woman only want to profit on your financial situation and you are afraid of giving her the credit card. I am afraid of being used for being the sperm producer and money maker. If you earn alot of money many woman out there would look what you can provide for her as a men. Therefore they pick you as their lifeinsurance and if a woman get divorced for no reason you have to pay for the woman and for your child which you never can see for the rest of your life. I am asking you why no muslim or catholic preacher talking about that issue, instead of how a good traditional relationship should be? Nobody is talking about the fear what men have. We men have alot of fear and nobody cares when men suffer or cry. We cry when nobody see us because we dont want to be seen as weak from society. The media just care when woman suffering but never when it comes to the mans world. Just look at the MGTOW movement, they dont hate woman although there are some mysoginist out there, but they are suffering too for being used. I dont want to be used. It is not about having fun and freedom. Why it shouldn't be fun when you are dancing together with your partner and going on a vacation with her? You still have responsibility for her even if you are not married. If my girlfriend needs money for lets say a cancer treatment and she doesn't have enough money for getting the treatment I would give her the money without that she is asking me that question. But it is not normal to buy a woman everything what she wants. Even in restaurants ,when you eat your food everyone should pay for his own meal except if one partner have no money or is jobless then it is okay to pay for his/her bill. In japan almost every couple makes it that way and I like that concept. In western society men buying chocolate and flowers on valentinsday for their girlfriends they love, but in japan woman do this to her partner and men bring the girls out for a dinner or going into a cafe or cinema. I am honest with you: I like woman from asia more than woman with a western mindset. I hope you are not mad at me for telling my true opinion about my fear with woman.

 

Kind-hearted people like me may never be chosen to meet the right partner because people's expectations are too high. I know that I have nothing to offer,....I can only show my heart and how positive I am but that will be never enough for no one believe me. The problem is that even if women do not have such a syndrome, they still have dreams and some women would rather live a single life with a child, which they had planned from the start instead of having a healthy relationship.
And such people are applauded for being single mothers. It's just ridiculous. There are thousands of women in Germany with this mindset and that's why I'm afraid of german women for example. There is a study which was appeared in the newspaper how many partners and one-night-stands a german woman had on average and I was really shocked. People wether it is a woman or men (in germany) thinking that good sex, no sex or bad sex equals or depends if you have a good relationship or not but this is uterely bullshit.
You dont leave your partner when you have bad sex but these people here are like that.
Even foreign women are more and more westernized with this mindset. But you are also right when you say that men are willing into perverted thinking and objectify woman, thats why there are so many rapists, cause one extreme haunt another. But there are woman who like the fantasy being raped in any situation from her own friend, the thrill is that they love the shocking moment,.. I dont understand the world anymore.
I remember this Tokyo Ghoul RE sex scene quite well. This scene had somehow made me sad to still be a virgin like Ken was. That's exactly the scene I also cried what it would be like to be with someone who really loves me from the bottom of the heart without having any ulterior motives. The only thing what I am thinking of is if I end up alone and being still virgin with 50 or 60 years and never had a chance to get together with a woman should I go to a prostitute then? I am saying this because there is no guarantee that there is heaven or hell. Nobody knows really if there is an afterlife. But never having a chance for a relationship is also what makes me frustated. It is not about sex but more like the contact to a woman. I know it sounds weird for paying somebody who is just there doing sex but since my birth there were no one who loved me. I had no caring mother or father and I was always on my own without any help or receiving compassion from my parents. Therefore I was jealous about other kids in school for having a family who truly loves them. What shall I do shedernatinus?