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Those that completed long streaks did you eventually forget about porn

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Mar 14, 2020.

  1. For me porn is an everyday occurence and I'm truly sick of it having such control over me and being part of my life , I'd like to get to the point where I can go go one day , week , month easily without the compulsive need,

    Does it get easier, does it just drift out of your mind eventually or crop up every so often , as opposed to nearly every few hours every single day

    I understand it won't just disappear , but I really need to build up my days at least a god damn week , and start to break off my connections to it . This is fucking insane
     
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  2. Free your mind

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    It gets easier. Once the flatline starts, urges disappear and you can go without for a long time. Getting out of depression, rewire and then start a relationship and start to have sex...thats hard for me
     
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  3. helppls

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    Wait flatline which means my penis will not work like it used to my erections won’t be as strong?
     
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  4. Free your mind

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    Not necessarily, it depends on the level of addiction and PIED.
    Maybe it will work normally, just urges will fade. And maybe sex drive for a certain amount of time.
     
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  5. Itl could me back when your in a relationship or otherwise
     
  6. I can have sex on flatline! Erections during sex like 70-90% hard, good days and bad days. Then the rest of the time it feels like a cold, numb, gummy worm. Spontaneous erections and morning wood coming bk slowly though. X
     
  7. Vairagya

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    I also want to know
     
  8. helppls

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    So I could do even better during sex but what about how fast I will ejaculate now
     
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  9. Breadman

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    I’d say yes it does go away for periods of time that vary but for sure never forget you are an addict and sometime when you feel most secure you got this down, the thought and urges will come back but you have to resist it. It is the nature of addiction. Luckily it is nowhere near as often or strong as when you just responded to the urge. Stay strong.
     
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  10. helppls

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    But I will come faster?
     
  11. No, sometimes I last longer on NoFap. Sex stops becoming a race to the finish line, like in porn. You relax and enjoy it more.
     
  12. Breadman

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    Do you come fast now or take a long time. If you take a long time enjoy. Many women think men come too fast and think they are only a vessel for your sex. Make love making last as long as it takes to make your woman(or man) happy.
     
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  13. OhWhenThe

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    Do you actually feel "horny" though?

    I'm in a flatline(or at least I hope that's what this is) and I feel no urge to do anything with my dick, whether it's hard or not.
     
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  14. Yeah, sometimes...urges come and go. Depends on the day! Usually once iv got my fingers on (or in hehe) my wife my little fella wakes up again.
     
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  15. gordie

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    I went 60 days hardmode and about a year without porn. At the 60 days of hard mode I didn't completely forget, but when I had sex with women I wouldn't think about porn at all. I became 100% engaged in their bodies and the act and the fun of it. That was enough to make me want to keep coming back.
     
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  16. Randy Andy

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    Your op basically says it, my experience is it dies get easier in a way though often other thoughts about selfish sex arise. If I either fight them or give in to them by using pm+ they get stronger, they go from "shot across the bow" to obsession. What I resist persists. But there's another way, on which it gets easier and easier very slowly, and happier and happier very slowly. Often there is pain because that is part of life, an integral life includes some amount of sadness, anger, fear, boredom, desire; in my case amount is very little, and much less than when I was using pm+.
    I haven't completed a streak: I have not looked at any form of pornography, had any form of sex with myself or partners other than the spouse since 3/12/13. As of today there is no "complete" to that, or any "compete" :). We're all in the same leaky boat.
    It's amazing to me, where I stand now it's obvious that pm+ isn't going to get better and better only worse and worse, but I also clearly remember not wanting to give it up and setting things very differently. Part of why I have that duality is that sometimes my mind still thinks "but what about ____ that's not bad, you know you want to"... Ever wonder why it needs to say "you"...?! If it's be thinking those things then who is saying "YOU know YOU want to"? But anyways, back to how it was before, I really thought I wanted to use pm+. One time I went to one of my "avoritefay spots" and did one of my "favorite" selfish sex behaviors and then didn't feel so good and remembered I was trying to stop so I called a mentor who hasn't done any such thing since the late nineties. He said "Andrew why didn't you call me before you did that". And I remember thinking "cause I didn't want you to talk me out of it.". But if course I did want exactly that... But I didn't... It was very confusing. It is a gift to be confused, it means the lies in my head are starting to fall under their own weight.
    But anyways to sum up yes I sometimes forget about pm+, it's all about how long. I'm glad I don't worry about the mythical "I don't think about it at all anymore" as in forgetting forever. That is based on the idea that I am bad if I do and good if I win the fight with finality. If I can stay sober and not think selfishly about sex on purpose then I get to focus on the joy of that without having hurt pride when thoughts come unbidden that I "shouldn't have."
     
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  17. helppls

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    I remember after my third day I thought yk what I’m stressed so I watched porn masterbated and came quick
     
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  18. Well my friend, on my personal fight I completed 127 and 165 days, and well it gets better, I mean first time was 10 days or even less, than 20, than 30, up until 127 and then 165, so eventually it can become easier because you get to know yourself better and better, but we are talking about addiction, so you can't just say I know it won't go away, because it is true but it's the wrong mindset about that, I had that mindset, and then at day 127 I relapsed because I tought that after all P was not going away, well I had the worst 10 days of my life, I binged my friend, like 30 times or even more in those 10 days, because my mindset was already about that P can't be defeated.
    Every streak has to start like it could be the last one that will last lifetime, and eventually you will be right
     
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  19. parad0x

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    At close to 7 months no porn I can say I have zero desire to seek it out.

    It got easier and easier from the 90 day mark. But the withdrawals are still sometimes present.
     
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