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crazy social anxiety, beta male.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by ShaolinMonk, Mar 22, 2020.

  1. ShaolinMonk

    ShaolinMonk Fapstronaut

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    I'm addicted to pornography for 13 years. I saw disgusting types of porn (puking, pissing on women, midget porn) but nothing illegal. Sometimes I'm edging for many hours per day (almost everyday).

    I have these symptoms:

    - Extreme social anxiety (When I have to go outside I feel anxious,
    I'm afraid to look in the people eyes, sometimes me eyes are getting wet like before cry)
    - I dont have energy and motivation to do something like find a job or go somewhere.
    - I don't feel like a man, I think many girls have more testosterone than me.. I feel like a pussy.
    - I don't have male aggresion/confidence
    - I'm 27 yo and I feel like a kid.
    - People don't take me seriously sometimes they laught at me (mostly girls) (they probably see my fear)
    - Brainfog and problems with memory and concentration

    But I dont have depression, suicidal thoughts etc. Can most of my symptoms be caused by pornography?
     
  2. 1.Easy stop PMO ASAP
    2.Join toastmasters and theater improvisation
    3.boxing/Exercise.
     
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  3. Yes, but not in the way you think. Porn damaged you, but the most important thing that damaged you was you.
    You are describing a situation similar to mine some months ago.
    The main problem is your belief, like this definition of beta male, it's really stupid to think of alpha and beta for human now, we don't live in tribe anymore, an alpha now is one person that is confident and don't care about alpha/beta, not necessary to be aggresive, instead be kind and clever.
    Brainfor is directly related to porn, so for this quit porn, but after that is all about you.
    You're 27 and feel like a kid? False.
    You're 27 and you're acting like a kid. Go out and act like a man, and your mind will adapt to this new you.
    People don't take you seriously? Go out and act like a serious person, start to fulfill always your word, even in the small things, like saying I will do 10 push ups and do them.
    You're not confident? Build it. You're clever? Go out and start to hang around place for clever person like libraries.
    You're a fit guy? Hang around gyms. Improve yourself in what you're good and you will build it.
    And don't try to tell me that you've no talents, it is a lie you tell yourself, to justify your mistakes, because it is easier to say "well I was born a beta, so I must live like this"
    No you were born a phenomenon, so act like that.
    And yes quit porn, but also work on yourself, nofap is really useful, but not a magic wand
     
  4. ShaolinMonk

    ShaolinMonk Fapstronaut

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    I dont know what to say.. thank you
     
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  5. We don't need it, we just want you to be happy. Do it my friend, you can
     
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  6. ShaolinMonk

    ShaolinMonk Fapstronaut

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    I would like to feel like a man with normal confidence, I'd like to be taken seriously.. I dont want to back to pornography, today I'm starting exercising, meditating, learning english language
     
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  7. That's the spirit my friend, keep strong the first days, they're the toughest
     
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  8. I like this comment! The beautiful thing is you can always change yourself to better. Whatever you feel is not an issue as long as you make an action to fix it. I recommend you to start journaling, it will help you to track yourself and improve your goals about whatever is there. Just be sure that everything can be fixed as we give the right mindset and whatever of feelings that lead us to hopelessness or to harm ourselves is just a very negative and a false emotion that is not a truth at all.
     
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  9. Rustcan45

    Rustcan45 Fapstronaut

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    This issue is beyond porn. Definitely quit porn but you also need to adjust your personality and attitude. Stand up straight with your shoulders back, breathe through your nose and stop giving a shit. If you believe you're a weak person then you will be a weak person and it will show on you.
     

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