cant stop relapsing, you should never relapse need urgent help

surgically removing your balls or your hands may work @Fluets_2




lol no, just kidding. You need to realise the reason why you're doing nofap, it is because it makes you a sober, attractive, smart young man. Once you truly realised that nofap is your path, then you will go on. Don't do nofap purely because of the streak.

Tomorrow is always a new day, but you will never be able to reach "tomorrow". Make today your new day!

 

You should change something, in your life, for example what you eat, what you do or just staying at home whole day, or what kind of people you hang with and so on. Everything matters. You should find the key.

 

I would give you some tips:
1. Type somewhere the reason why you started nofap where you will read it every day and everytime when you be at home for example on the wall of kitchen. The reason which will stronger than your urges and after reading it you will become rock solid mental. I also recommend to count your days like this on the paper somewhere for example in your bedroom wall. It affects your mental before you sleep and it also reduces nocturnal emissions.
2.eating is big here. You should avoid sugar at all if it’s possible. Spicy food is like urge pill too. Caffeine plays also big role, you should avoid that. And the king of urges is alcohol, by drinking it your chance to relapse is 90%. Just eat healthy carbs fats and proteins.
3.try to exercise physically every day. It will cleanse your body and your brain as well. Especially cardio: running early morning is the best you can do for 15-20min.
4.and the last one you should stop doing is - scrolling instagram girls and/or anyone else. You should think that just watching bikini girls in photos is like watching softcore P.
And everytime you feel urges just remember how nofap gives you health, superpowers, love and life itself and it will increase day to day if you will continue being on your streak. Wish you huge success

 

you cant stop yourself, or do you not want to? before every fapping session we make the decision, conscious or unconscious, do i want to fap? we ourselves are the only people who can control our moves and make our choices. you arent willing to give it up yet. take your time, consider everything thats at stake, including your new and young family, and take the step when you are ready. but be aware that it will only become harder the longer you wait.

 

Does your wife know ?

 

I would suggest going to seek professional help. You could try for a porn addiction therapist or check out noah church, hes a porn recovery coach

 

Telling your wife is a good idea, a very good idea, move the computer into the main room of your house, or your daughters room, somewhere you will not masturbate. Don't take your phone in the bathroom, ect. Next cut down on screen time, don't aimlessly use the computer for mindless entertainment, don't spend more than two hours a day on it, go outside, do something with your wife and child. You could also have your wife take action, watch you, check up on you, but I'm not sure what kind of relationship dynamic you have so this may not work out.

 

So than delete youtube app, or vow not to use youtube anymore. Or delete the youtube channel you used to watch the softcore stuff, and create a new channel which is dedicated only to clean stuff

I know the feels bro. I have been in both predicaments several times! Either you are free or you are hopelessly trapped.

What you need my friend is a new MINDSET. A new heart. Ask God to help you, seriously. We can’t fight all on our own

Out of the heart flow all the issues of life. Examine your heart my friend. Make sure all of you is aligned and in agreement with quitting pmo

Also know that you won’t be able to be efficient in any of the tasks you need to do when you keep relapsing. Or you won’t be able to do them well. All you will want to do is sit around, pmo, numb yourself... you know how it is

This isn’t any way to live!! This is absurd. Isn’t it crazy how we destroy ourselves? I feel your pain. It’s almost too tough to bear. We just wanna give up. We just want to scroll on the internet until the urge comes back and we relapse again. What i want you to do is to string together at least a few days, so you can feel what it’s like to be somewhat of a normal human again

So next time you relapse, you need to generate some serious hatred and disgust towards pmo

Brother, tell her please. It could break the spell. And i told my mom, and my mom helped me.

Did you tell her? If not, then after your next relapse, tell her. And what you can do is: since you are having urges in the shower, make a commitment to her right before you shower that you won’t relapse and have her hold you accountable right after showering

It’s embarrassing right? Well it’s even more embarrassing to keep relapsing

 

Hey Fluets,

have you looked into setting up porn blockers ?
On your phone / home computer or whichever devices you keep relapsing on.
When your mind knows the path to pmo is blocked, the urges die down a bit and you can go on longer streaks of no pmo.

 

i watched the youtubes stuff aswell and goodnice is right, you have to create a new account. what i did is i deleted everything on the email adress of that account, i deleted its history, i deleted its youtube history, liked videos, playlists, watch laters and its search history. everything, in order to not be able to return. if that isnt enough, just ask someone to change the account password. if you dont want to ask friends, ask somebody here, ill even do it for you if necesarry

 

Also, if you think about, then if you were really ready to quit you would even tell your partner and go through it together.

 

You gotta go back to Him bro. It’s so much more nuanced than your oversimplification that he’s “allowing the slaughter of so many people” and also i believe Tim Keller addresses your exact statement: “i want to see a miracle like the miracles he sent in the past”. He talks about people who say the same thing. People say “just show me a sign God”

Just listen to any of tim keller’s videos on youtube. I sincerely hope it will open your eyes. The bible says one of the signs of end times is pestilences. He explains things much much better than I. I especially like his video: “Why does God allow suffering”

It might help you gain a better bigger perspective

“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge”- Hosea 4:6