The Lord of the Rings Challenge

thanks for your honesty, i always like when brothers talk openly with their experience. lot´s of things to debunk here. first, i don´t think that you have relapsed. you edged at most, you inversed rewiring of your brain, but you didn´t relapsed. it was a slip at most. so if you considered countinuing your counter i think it´s the best choice and the most fair.

second, your aproach on "anger" was a little radical to me, and i was a bit ceptical about that to tell the truth. but still you manage almost 3 months with it, so it works!! maybe not enough for a continous streak, but it has value.

motivation is important to keep the streak going, but only the right motivation. in my experience and in literature when we rely on reasons like "i´m on nofap to become atractive" or "i´m on nofap because that will gave me superpowers" that reasons won´t go far and we´re heading for a downfall. why? because those reasons don´t tackle the subject in depth. the best motivation is to see pmo by itself as a destructive behaviour. like a shot of cocaine.

if we talked with a cocaine addict and said:

- Why do you that? that behaviour is destroying your life.
- Because it makes me feel high.
- What´s the point of getting high if your gonna get really low after?

when pmo is clearly seen to be destructive, after that all that matters is to find a way to unsinstall the loads of sexual material that we have in our heads. because we are porn addicts. we don´t have a neutral point of view the same way a cocaine addict doesn´t have a neutral point of view towards cocaine.

so to uninstall the obsession, that´s when systems comes in. i think you´re doing fine, and your reasons seems right. but i think is better to tackle the specific moment when you edged. you know the slip didn´t begin there, it probably begin some time ago. you have to find when you start feeling hesitant? when you start feeling your determination was not as strong as before? when you let go of some of the good habits that were keeping porn away?

those questions are key aspects here, and the answers to it will provide the right adjustment to your system.

Let´s go my brother, i believe in you.

 

well, maybe boosting the reboot can help.

-meditate
-try having a fixed schedule to sleep and wake up.
-do workouts
-take cold showers
- try to gain the habit of reading (that´s great to calm the body and develop concentration).
- work on your career but also enjoy your free time with hobbies.

Let´s go my brother

 

13 days my brothers

 

Brother, be aware of reducing accountability. Staying away from the forum for many days can reduce your awareness of the addiction. Be careful.

Meanwhile, congratulations my brother . You´ve reached Minas Morgul, the dark fortress!!! Outstanding







You´re an Elf-King now. Congratulations



Now is before you the stairs of Cirith Ungol, the secret way into Mordor. Time to climb my brother. Let´s go!!!!!

 

no, sorry, i just read your post here. yes, so that´s a relapse, but still only a minor one, a slip at most. considering that you´ve been clean for almost 3 months, you pmo 2 times, that´s not that bad and your brain as not suffered much damage - if the leak stops now of course, since we know that is hard to get back on track once we´ve fallen out of the wagon - but i hope it will stop now.

well, you said that your determination has decreasead over time, that´s the big issue here. it´s got to be the opposite way, the more we stay away from pmo the more our determination to keep away from pmo should be. in fact, happiness in life is the best predictor if we´re going to stay in sobriety or go back to the "old" ways.

good life, better life = staying with it
bad life, equal life as before = back to the addiction

there are a lot of things that keeps the streak together, and ultimately turns the streak into a lifestyle. and this needs the creation of a better life and better habits. willpower is only a mere fraction of the all work, willpower alone cannot stand the streak together in the long run, and it´s amazing how far you gone with just it and hatred . but you need new habits and skills, it´s crucial.

for the tips how i did the reboot and still doing, here´s the link to my story and tips. I hope it helps

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/my-story-and-tips.268831/

Let´s go my brother. One day at a time.

 

Great avatar bro . Yes, cold showers are great, keep doing them . i have that habit for some time and it gives great benefits, not just to kill urges