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Anyone relapsing because of the current uncertain times?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Di.Do.555, Mar 24, 2020.

  1. Di.Do.555

    Di.Do.555 Fapstronaut

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    Anyone relapsing because of the current uncertain times?
     
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  2. Der Drachenkönig

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    I've been at risk and if i recall i did just once. But since i no longer have a computer in my room and only have a laptop which i will only use outside of my room the risk is significantly lower. More than relapsing i've felt quite uneasy these days, reason why i try to find anything to do at home.
     
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  3. Black Lab

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    I haven't relapsed due to the Covid-19 crisis but i fully understand it's making a challenging task even more challenging.
    I can't speak for anyone else but i have made a choice that i will not use Covid-19 as an excuse to engage in PMO. Sure it would bring me some short-term relief from being stuck at home more than normal and worrying if i will still be employed in a months time but after the act the Covid-19 situation will be exactly the same and all my issues will still be there. In past i have turned to PMO to relieve my stress or unhappiness or my boredom or my feeling of a lack of pleasure in my life and it has never bought me any long term happiness. It's not the answer for a happy life in the long-term. Maybe instead at looking at Covid-19 as a reason to relapse you can say to yourself if i can survive this horrible time and all that it entails then i can survive anything without turning to PMO as an escape or stress relief etc etc. Good-luck and let's hope life returns to normal for everyone sooner than later.
     
  4. I have used it as an excuse to myself and relapsed, but I think I was just lazy and weak. Time to remember why I am doing this and be more firm in my determination.
     
  5. Iamdone

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    Made it over 500 days and then I relapsed this week, I live in Canada and we’re basically locked in our houses but really that’s not an excuse. I’m pretty socially isolated with what’s going on in the world right now and I really just gave into my triggers, which are checking out chicks on Instagram, checking out actresses and tv women and after about two weeks of fooling myself about that I relapsed. It’s only been two times this week But I really want to stop this before it becomes habitual again. I’m feeling ok just really suffering from being so isolated.
     
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  6. Di.Do.555

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    Is it the uncertainty that is bothering you?
     
  7. Iamdone

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    A year and a half ago my life was a mess I was broken, I was addicted to porn but I managed to make big strides which I felt good about what bothers me right now is this why did I go back to a way that was just the opposite of what I wanted. I loved not being part of pornography yet I fooled Myself. So yes it is the uncertainty that is bothering plus the loss of my sober lifestyle that I was living. especially the gym.
     
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  8. Di.Do.555

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    I understand. Is there a way of being ok in the time of uncertainty?
    Remember it is not about streaks but it is all about knowing thyself.
    Know yourself and you win every battle.
     
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  9. henryhill

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    I’ve relapsed recently not sure if I can blame covid-19 but being at home with a new routine hasn’t helped me. It has added new stress that I should have anticipated and dealt with more appropriately.
     
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  10. Caveat Emptor

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    Oh yeah. The lockdown has made this really difficult. Since my office closed (but we can still work from home) I moved back to my parents place for the time being. It can get quite boring here, especially since I can't see my gf.

    I feel like I need to create a lockdown routine.
     
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  11. henryhill

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    Yup routine for me is critical and I need to be better at creating and planning a routine when things change.
     
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  12. Iamdone

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    Standing still for me is not good, I found that one of the keys in my 18 month streak was that I had goals that I was working towards, this morning signed up to take a new course online that I’m interested in, it will benefit me in my career and help me get through this time.
     
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  13. hi..i just joined yesterday and i’ve already relapsed. i don't know what happened but i lost control and i am trying to recover. this pandemic period isn't making anything better cause i am just indoors with nothing to do. help me
     
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    Because of the quarantine
     
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  15. fredisthebes

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    Yes. Stress is a major trigger for me and one of my main methods of coping with extreme urges - go outside, go somewhere public and full of people - has been taken away from me. So I am having to come up with all new coping strategies under my new circumstances.

    Being around my family all the time should help, but in reality it's a big enough house that we spend a fair bit of time apart, as one of us has to look after the baby.
     
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  16. Di.Do.555

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    Do you meditate?
     
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  17. As usual, I thought I was fine. I wasn't even feeling particularly horny. Just turned on the computer and relapsed in seconds. Once, twice, then almost a third time.
    The problem is me! I cannot make excuses.
     
  18. Di.Do.555

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    Why is that?
    Is it uncertainty or something else?
     
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  19. I fear I have lost the fire. I say I want to quit but my actions say something very different. I have no other excuses. Much as I hate cliches, it's as simple as this: I talk the talk but I don't...you know.
    Too many guys come on nafap, make big declarations about how they are going to be a new men, then they fail again and again. Eventually, they are not to be seen again here. I don't want to be one of those guys, but unless I kick some ass here - my own - I am fucked.
     
  20. Di.Do.555

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    Your desire to quit needs to be a 10 ( on the scale from 0 to 10) , anything less is a waste of time.
    As for relapsing, it is a golden opportunity to know yourself. understand your psychological triggers.
     

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