Parapilias

A paraphilia is just essentially like a super fetish from my understanding. You can be "diagnosed" with paraphilic disorders if you feel anxiety/stress over a prolonged period due to a fetish.

I suppose signs you might have a paraphilia is if you feel anxiety due to your fetishes, or if your fetishes lead to criminality, (voyeurism, Paedophilia, Sadism, etc)

 

Yeah, even I used to have BDSM fetish. The main reason for paraphilia is the anxiety or depressions which leads you into thinking that you were born that way and there is no escape (Because you have these fantasies even before watching porn or without any prior knowledge). These porn also fuel our fetish, even more creating a pathway for other fetishes. You have this cycle where you indulge in these fetishes and feel bad or shame about it, try doing nofap and again when the dopamine levels fall you again go back to your lifestyle but this time with even more craziness.

One way to come out of it is to understand how you got this fetish, like what is the cause. The book "Unwanted" by jay stringer tells you how to understand your fetishes. I mean since these fetishes or fantasies start occurring from the childhood, he gives examples and incidents from some of his patients to give us an insight about how these fetishes start. Normally people have this bad/wrong opinion that fetishes might develop due to some traumatic incidents, so people like me who had super normal childhood with lots of friends and enjoying family, we go into this negative thinking that the design of our body is that way.
But this book explains properly that isn't the case, which really helped me a lot.

I hope people suffering from paraphilia get awareness and know that you can come out of it. So once you come out of this chain of negative thoughts, Nofap becomes a lot easier, now you can reboot your brain and think with rational mind.

 

Interesting thread, I came here today cause I had a similar problem...I am a porn addict and I recently escalated but the thing I escalated to is not the first time I had watch. I watch porn from my teens and I maybe have seen it even before. By the way I used to watch that kind of porn from time to time, really further apart but I did. All of this to just say that two days ago I had a flash, like I was remembering an episode in which I was trying to make real that fetish, but it "doesn't happen" and I had feel really disgusted by that. Now this memory should have take place like minimum 10 years ago, when I was 16 but probably is even older. I have the doubt one it's not a real memory cause I really struggle to get the details and remember even what I have done after. So two questions one, porn addiction, anxiety, shame etc can make you "build" a false memory? Second, if it's real....for how much is probably responsable porn addiction etc?

 

Cause I am really struggling accepting that at the moment, it's a thing that is making me disgusted and if it's an actual memory it should had made me disgusted even then to had removed it from my memory for all this time.
I think it fits in this thread on paraphilia, if you think not I would post it somewhere else. Ty all

 

I don't know if porn can create a false memory in the brain. But first of all you must understand even if that incident happens for real, you need not beat yourself. Forgive yourself and everyone in your surroundings. Every person does some crazy stuff or big blunders in their lives. But instead of feeling disgusted or hate at yourself, you need to do with right mindset. If you don't mind, can you mention what kind of paraphila do you think you have? (If not here, you can message me in the inbox)

 

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