Erectile issues and small penis

Hello,

I’m sorry to hear that you are struggling. Rebooting has its ups and downs, just like life. We see many people experiencing both the ups and downs during the reboot, and though it may be hard to see now, these feelings you are having won’t last forever. It will get better with time, if you are patient and wait.

In the meantime, please seek professional help. I know the idea of calling a helpline might terrify you, but in times of crisis, we often need someone their to put our lives in perspective. So please contact someone who can help and don’t hang up on them. The International Association for Suicide Prevention maintains a list of suicide prevention hotlines for countries all over the world. Also, if you don’t feel up to actually talking to someone on the phone, StopSuicide maintains a list of online instant messaging and chat suicide prevention resources.

You are not alone in this. There are ways to treat depression. Please contact people that can help you. Being depressed often makes it feel like you don’t have any more options. But that is a lie. That is just the depression talking. These feelings you have won’t last forever. We are in this with you, and we will all be cheering for you to get through this!

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Honestly, 5.5 inch length and 4.5 inch girth is not a small penis. It’s perhaps on the lower end of the average, but certainly more than enough to pleasure a woman. It’s actually right around the size of mine, and more than a couple of girls have complimented me on having the “perfect dick.” There is such thing as too big, as well.

Seriously, any woman that says your penis is too small is being rude and is simply not worth your time. You could easily tell her that her vagina is too loose, couldn’t you? Or you could easily tell her that she’s not hot enough to get you hard, right? I mean, why does it have to be YOUR fault? Why is her pleasure pinned on you alone, and what your anatomy happens to look like? If she doesn’t prefer you, she could easily be polite and just end the relationship without pointing out the explicit reasons why. It would be the same as losing attraction to someone, and telling them to their face “You’re too ugly for me.” Rude, right? Maybe they couldn’t achieve pleasure because of some problem THEY have. Ever consider that?

This is one of the many dangers of viewing porn. We get a skewed perspective of what “good enough” looks like. Not just with penis size, but with EVERYTHING. Sex is about mutual pleasure through intimacy. Moving in the right ways, touching the right spots, communicating, and reading each other. Everyone is different. There are as many different penis sizes as there are vagina sizes. Did you know vaginas vary also? The point is that sex becomes so idealized in porn. Porn actors get selected based on physical characteristics. The male actors get selected for having exceptionally large penises, among other things.

I think your problem has more to do with who you’re dating. A genuine woman who is worth your time would be vary happy with your penis size. Because size doesn’t matter as much as we always assume.

 

Definitely agree with @Coffee Candy that you should call for help if you are feeling suicidal. I know sometimes it feels like the only option, but it’s permanent and it’s never the right one. I’ve considered it before and am so glad I came back from that dark place. Please talk to someone, call someone.

Life gets better. Trust me. Even with the downs I sometimes experience, my life is night and day different from where I was before.

When I first started having sex i was so worried about satisfying my wife that i couldn’t get hard. I was so terrified that i wouldn’t be enough to keep her happy. I have felt similar to what you have said about how I could see it in her eyes. But you know what solved the challenges of intimacy more than anything? Talking about it.

See sex is complicated. Porn makes us thing it’s all mechanical. Put it is so much more than that or at least it can be. Anyway, once you let go of the pressure in your mind (at least that’s what was causing me the anxiety personally) Then you might find some of these problems go away. I know talking about sex can feel awkward with your significant other but it’s worth it.

I don’t know if any of this helps but I hope you can find the help and peace you need.

 

We’re in the exact same boat, bro! Believe me, I totally understand the feeling. When you’re trying your hardest, and it just stays limp while your girl just lies there bored and disappointed? Yeah, felt it all, man! Best way to describe it is feeling like you’ve got holes burning into your stomach, right? You feel helpless, you feel small, and you feel like the least manly person on the planet. You start to imagine your partner with other, “manlier” guys who can perform effortlessly and please her, right? Been there, man! ..... I have TOTALLY been down that mental road. You are not alone. And I guarantee we’re not the only guys on this forum who have had similar experiences. It’s why most of us are here. That pain brings us here. And the more people you talk to, the more hope it will give you. Because guys who have had nearly the exact same experiences as you will be reporting success! Not to mention that a reboot has a profound effect on your emotions. Your anxiety and depression levels will improve. You will feel energized. There was a distinct moment right around 2 weeks in where I threw a shirt on in the morning and was really happy with how I looked in the mirror. I was so shocked that I just felt more attractive. It was strange, but such a good feeling to have about yourself. It’ll give you a confidence boost, for sure! But you gotta stick with it to see these effects. If you want it enough.

Keep posting. Keep communicating with us. We’re in this together!

 

Suicide is never the best thing to do. All you need to do is just to refactor ur mind, if you can control your mind then you can achieve anything that you've desired and hoped for. always remember that it is never too late to make changes.
1. Start by setting short time goals and make sure you live by or according to ur goals never allow anyone or anything prevent you from reaching ur goals.
2. Meet with a doctor and and explain to him about your health conditions and try possible natural means to get rid of ur ill health coditions.
3.Never issolate yourself from people start making friends with positive people.
4.start going to the gym and start doing workouts.
5.Stop engaging in any activity that will endanger ur mental health or make you feel inferior.
6.Stop depending on drugs turn to nature and start eating natural diets...

If u can do these thingd you will start seeing drastic changes and improvements in your life......

 

Hey man. I'd just like to say off the bat that you're dick isn't small. Five inches is definitely in the average range all over the world. Even more so, it's definitely enough to pleasure a woman.

Is it enough to make a girl cum? Probably not, but that's because women usually NEVER CUM FROM PENISES. If you want to pleasure your female partners, work on your oral sex and fingering. You will 100% have better results.

Look at the sex toys women buy to make themselves cum. The most popular are vibrators which don't get inserted. The ones that do go inside are short, thin, and usually target the G-spot, which is about a finger's length inside. I would suggest encouraging your partners to try these if they are not satisfied from sex.

I think I fall into the "perfect dick size" range at about 6.5 inches, but literally every girl I have been with prefers for me to go down on them. I'm by no means some sex genius, but I've lost count of the times I've made a girl come from oral sex. I've only made a girl cum from PIV once, but I was also rubbing the shit outta her clit, so it probably doesn't count.

Wile PMO doesn't make your dick smaller, excessive habits can lead to less blood flow in your penis, less pelvic muscle strength and endurance (especially when thrusting), and the neurological effects of porn can make you find women less attractive, leading to less arousal and erection intensity.

Regardless if you're in a relationship or not, I would suggest a reboot to get some of the porn wiring out of your brain, and then go back to sex while continuing no PMO. The effects won't be immediate, you should see a definite increase in firmness, and possibly in length and girth. This would be a great time to work on your oral sex game.

I had very bad PIED with a girlfriend a year ago (20% max erection, couldn't even have sex), but after a 90 day hard mode reboot and a couple months of rewiring, my erections were 100%, and I think the total engorgement made my penis reach it's true capacity, which it hadn't before. I also got great at eating out my gf during the 90 days of no sex, so that's a big plus too.

I'm gonna link to some articles from YBOP that seem relevant to you. I'd suggest reading them.

My penis is too small.

Are my sexual problems (ED, DE, low libido) related to my porn use?

Research confirms enormous rise in youthful ED

What benefits do people see as they reboot?

Will stopping porn solve my problems?

HELP! I quit porn, but my potency, genital size, and/or libido are decreasing (the Flatline)

Rebooting with a partner: What about sex?

What do I say to my mate?

PS: On another note, there does not seem to be much research to suggest that penis enlarging devices work. If anything, they just stretch your penis out, sacrificing girth for length. And girls 100% girth to length. You are probably damaging your penis with this device. I recommend stop using it immediately. Consult what experts say on penis enlargement (https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/sexual-health/in-depth/penis/art-20045363). In short, don't do it, you're fine

 

Don’t do suercide it’s not worth it life’s amazing you have it nice compared to some guy that’s never going to get laid in his life . I have a small dick too and slept with 33 women. I put it this way I’m selfish I have sex with women for my own pleasure even if I don’t satisfy them Idc if I have sex with a girl I won the battle in my opinion. I know I sound like a scumbag but it’s the truth . Don’t try to impress these girls especially girls that only want to sleep a gf will love you for you and won’t care about your small dick and the whores will smash and if they don’t like it move to the next girl . Life’s beautiful you’re only 22 man it gets better . My other friend who’s a porn addict and sex addict has the smalles dick smaller then mine and he’s had sex with over 300 girls and he’s a fat guy

 

You don’t have a small dick when hard at all bro mines skinny and 5 and half hard , made plenty pf girls cum and I have the same problem of my penis not being hard enough it’s the worst that’s why I take sex pills every time I know I’m going to have sex