1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

why does standing erections are exactly hard?

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by drkarim, Mar 28, 2020.

  1. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    why is it specifically hard to maintain standing erections?
     
  2. kindascared

    kindascared New Fapstronaut

    3
    1
    3
    i have never had a porn addiction, i got a wife who i have great sex with, now i have to suddenly stay out of the country and have been abusing porn alot, sometimes fapping 4x a day. i notice now i cant get it up easily. i do have morning erections but the second i stand up they go soft instantly. i wonder whats wrong.
     
  3. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    this issue is in need of more opinions
     
  4. Poor blood circulation. Lack of excitement. (porn makes everything sex seem so regular)
     
  5. I had a problem with standing erections before. I think it was because of two reasons: 1) I only M while lying down and I did that for many years and 2) I was overweight which implies bad circulation. The problem mostly went away when I changed my diet, started exercising vigorously, and significantly reduced my body fat and built some muscle. That cured most of the issue, but I went even further. Normally, I prefer not to relapse at all, but when I do, I will only allow myself to M while standing (no P-subs, only feeling) because it made it impossible to MO for a long time, which was a good thing for my reboot. Once I re-wired this new M habit, the problem seems to be more or less gone.
     
    drkarim likes this.
  6. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    When recovering from porn addiction and PIED, losing erections while standing, making the motions of sex, or changing positions during sex is very common. If you haven't done a full reboot yet, I suggest you do.

    Once a full reboot is done, it is normal to not have full sexual function immediately. I realized I had severe PIED when I was 19, and subsequently completed a full reboot. When I began having sex after, my erections were very inconsistent, especially when thrusting, and even more so when in standing positions.

    At this time, your brain does not understand the correct physiological process with sex. Masturbating, often when sitting down, does not require the greatest erections because you can be stroked even when not completely hard, your legs are not draining blood from your crotch, and blood is not flowing downward due to gravity. Having sex will alleviate this problem, but it will take time.

    These were my steps during sex for gaining fully functional erections after my reboot:
    1. make sure I was comfortable and in the mood for sex
    2. get naked, and start off with kissing, hugging, and petting
      • if you become hard enough for sex, move to step 3
    3. if hard, try penetration
      • Try penetration in the missionary and spooning positions. In missionary, the vagina tends to take the shape of an penis, so even when not fully hard, thrusting is often pleasurable, and in spooning, your partner's pelvic and leg positioning makes the vagina very tight, making sex with a non-engorged penis more pleasurable for both.
      • if your erection is lost or you lose pleasurable feeling, go back to step 2
    4. If you can stay fully hard for several minutes during step 3, try lazy doggy-style and legs over shoulders
      • trying new positions that are harder to stay erect in will teach your brain/body to find them more pleasurable, and push them to change your neural pathways and physiological responses in order to keep erections. After trying sequentially more difficult positions, you'll be fully functional.
      • if your erection is lost or you lose pleasurable feeling, go back to step 3
    5. If you can stay fully hard for several minutes during step 4, try doggy-style and cowgirl
    6. If you can stay fully hard during step 5, try sex positions where you are standing
    I followed a very similar protocol when recovering from PIED more than a year ago. The bottom line is to do acts and positions during sex that feel good. Over time, your body will give you stronger erections, allowing you to have better sex, and so on. I hope this works for you
     
    zeusmx likes this.
  7. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    me too due to masturbation while on bed with the laptop on my lap how ever iam slim and fairly muscular
    for sorry currently i canot masturbate except with porn without it i lose erection easily except if with a girl and she seduced me extensively i get a good boner but also inadequate for penetration because i lose it while moving
     
  8. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    u are 100% correct and that is a very good approach
    but let me ask u do u have food standing reliable erections now? and if yes after how long duration of this protocol?
     
  9. Clutch_Essence

    Clutch_Essence Fapstronaut

    16
    10
    3
    So I’m 18 and think I have PIED, last night I had sex with my gf for the first time in 2 months, at first it was hard to get erect, so she cuddled on top and I got semi hard, she then gave me head and I got hard enough and she got on top and we had sex for about 5 minutes, did not O.

    She jus wanted to switch positions but shortly I lost my erection and couldn’t stay hard to do the other position. After that she gave me head again but somehow I couldn’t even get hard (Maybe performance anxiety due to not having sex in a long time) but I’m currently day 42 normal mode now.

    I was hard mode till last night, I came from head in the shower prior to having sex with her but it was like 2 hours earlier so maybe it took longer for me to get erect due to ejaculating from head earlier. I just need some advise ?
     
  10. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut


    I have very good erections now, even when standing or switching positions. I can take a break from sex for a few minutes and stay hard, and even if I go soft, it can come back very quickly.

    I can't remember when my standing erections came back, but I'm guessing it was around 3 months after I finished my reboot. During this time, I was having sex 1-3 times a week in the positions I could do.

    At first, my boners were not very strong or firm, so we stuck to missionary and the spooning position.

    When they got a little harder, we started doing lazy doggy style and the legs over the shoulder one.

    When I could stay really hard when exerting myself, we started trying out doggy style on the bed and cowgirl.

    Lastly, when my erections were at 100%, we did positions where I was standing up.

    Don't be ashamed about what you can't do. Do what you can if it feels good. If you can't or it stops feeling good, it's fine to stop. Having sex in the "easier" positions teaches your mind to stay harder the next time, and also builds up muscle strength and endurance in your pelvic floor muscles for sex.
     
  11. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    If you can finish from normal sexual activities in the same time that you can from porn, you do not have PIED.

    While it is common in many guys to need several hours after orgasm to "recover", it is strange that this has happened to you at 18.

    Regardless, I would just stop watching porn. You have a girlfriend who cares about you and wants to fuck. Trust me man, it's way better than porn. Go a week without porn and have sex. It feels fucking fantastic.

    When I was your age, my PIED was so bad I couldn't even get a 20% erection with a girl sucking me off for the first time. There is a disparity in our stories, but yours is on the same tone.

    Stop the porn, enjoy your girlfriend, and see how your sex life goes. If things get worse though, you may need to do a reboot.

    Try mimicking this sexual experience with porn. If you can come from porn, and then 2 hours later have another orgasm from porn, you probably have a problem. If you have the same results as sex though, you may not have a problem
     
  12. Clutch_Essence

    Clutch_Essence Fapstronaut

    16
    10
    3
    I hear you but the thing is when she gave me head, she started giving me a hand job and I felt the orgasm coming and then she put it back in her mouth and I did cum, I was so sensitive after because she kept going and I told her to stop because my dick got way too sensitive. I haven’t watched porn in like 50-60 days, the last time I masurba*ed was 42 days ago. She gave me head but was using her hands too that made me climax faster.
     
  13. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    i canot get spomtanoues erecrtion to porn even after watching it for 3 hours
    however i may get a very good long lasting one while on a sex call with my gf (not while standing though?)
     
  14. Clutch_Essence

    Clutch_Essence Fapstronaut

    16
    10
    3
    Can you respond to my message please ? Sorry I just need your advise
     
  15. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    I do not understand if this is a question or if you would like some sort of response from me
     
  16. Train yourself to M while standing without using any P-subs or imagination, just use feeling. If this seems impossible, you need to go on a much longer hard mode streak. It took me a 103 day streak before my sensitivity recovered enough that I could M while standing using only feeling. The only bad part is I've become sensitive to P-subs which I wasn't before and so I usually end up relapsing when I don't treat them exactly like P.
     
  17. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    and what are those p-subs?
     
  18. Anything that turns you on that isn't P. For me, it could be Instagram girls, bikini images, fashion shows, model poses, music videos, even women news casters and some weather ladies. It's all relative depending on each person.
     
    drkarim likes this.
  19. drkarim

    drkarim Fapstronaut

    223
    38
    28
    good but i think that is not that bad....
     

Share This Page