Relapse and reset

The way I understand it, a reset is a voluntary release, so MO or some such transgression of your journey. A relapse is when you fall into the bad habits again, so P or MO with some kind of viewing or imagination of P. I think these terms are adjusted ever so slightly to each fapstronaut's individual struggle.

Do not watch porn under any circumstances. Masturbation while thinking of your girlfriend or talking to her, that's a situation-by-situation matter. Wet dreams are not terribly within your control, do not fret about them.

Porn is the absolute no-no and I do not consider any viewing or thinking of it as justified; it is always a relapse of some degree.

 

So the NoFap forum "Recovery Terminology" link gives these definitions.

Relapse: For addicts, the act of returning to bad habits after a period of improvement. This is a serious word. Examples would include masturbating to porn (for a porn addict), significantly disrupting your life due to excessive masturbation (going on a 20x binge and skipping work), risky masturbation (masturbating in public), and other similarly life-disrupting activities due to an addiction.

Reset: Failing one of our programs/challenge. This stemmed from the act of resetting your day counter badge back to day one. If your masturbate during your rebooting program, this could be called a reset.




So basically, a reset is if you stumble and reset your sexual sobriety day counter back to zero, and a relapse is when an addict basically jumps back into his/her addiction for a length of time (not just once) and then comes back to sobriety after awhile of having turned back to the addiction.

 

If M is part of your counter, then it should be a reset. Some people have their counters based on no P as the only criteria.