Lucid sex dream + orgasm = relapse?

I do the same thing, choosing to have sexual activity. I feel bad about it but don’t count it as a relapse. It can show where your mind is however. I’ve been in places where I’ve rejected sex in my dreams because I was actively fighting all that sexual stuff. So I wouldn’t count it as a relapse, but maybe just as time for several minutes of introspection.

 

if you feel like its damaging, and you do (since youre feeling shitty now), then you should not do it.

 

Think of it as looking at a woman and lusting after her. You catch yourself doing it and can look away. Hold yourself to not much more guilt than that. It’s a sign of what is inside. But typically, if you’re having a lucid sex dream, your body wants to ejaculate anyway. Your brain is already producing the chemicals to make you want to choose sex in your dream.

It’s not so simple. I’ve had sexual dreams but I don’t count them as damaging even if I have an actual wet dream. I don’t give myself much guilt over it, but I do see it as having made the wrong choice in the dream. It sounds bad but I almost count it as a freebie? It shouldn’t happen but if it did and I release, then I’m free from excess sexual thoughts for a while. I’m more often thankful if I have a wet dream, so that I don’t relapse in real life.

 

well wet dreams are a necessary body function that must happen sooner or later, you cant and should not want to keep your sperm and seminal fluid in your body forever. it would damage your organs extremely if you didnt let your body release. but lucid dreams are a sort of gray area. if somebody has the ability to have a sex dream every night, and uses it, it has to have some consequences for your reboot, and i would guess them to be negative. if on the other hand you get to choose wanting to have sex in a dream only every couple of weeks or months, well, i dont know.
i usually do get to choose whether i want to have a happy ending in a sexuall dream, and i mostly choose to have it, but thats only every few weeks. in my earlier streaks i would feel bad about it, but now it doesnt have emotional influence over me anymore. it actually calms me down and gives me hope because it shows me that my body is still working, at least on a subconscious level.

 

Interesting discussion.. I'm fascinated by it since I never experienced having the ability to fully control what happens in a dream.

Actually I do dream a lot in the initial days of recovery, not necessarily sexual dreams, which I did have, but never getting to actually having an O or ejaculating whilst asleep. Definitely I never had the chance to steer a sexual dream voluntarily towards a certain direction.

Are you really talking about dreams you can control whilst you are actually asleep or fantasies that you summon when still partially conscious and relaxing in bed looking at going to sleep, but actually being still awake?

 

i can only speak for myself but im talking about real dreams, and i usualy wake up as i ejaculate, so they happen at a time when i would normaly get up anyway. they always happen in the last phase of sleep for me, so when its already day outside. since i had a bunch of them i can by now usually control if i want to ejaculate or not. i never woke up with my hand on my dick, so i believe that its all purely by dreaming, without physical touch. i also found out how to have them more frequently, but since i believe it could be harmfull for recovery i dont practise that anymore, and im not gonna share how to.

 

It doesnt count as a relapse and you dont need to reset your counter either.
Because this is not P and not a type of addictive behavior.

Develop your lucid dream skills even more so you have the choice to either engage in sex or to avoid circumstances to have sex when a dream character approaches you. With lucid dreaming you have a choice unlike with P addiction. Its completely different.

 

So I did something similar. I kinda woke up in the morning. But I also kinda fell back to sleep. I was a little aware of my surroundings, I dropped a Bible and that's what I was dreaming about. I was kinda dreaming my thoughts. Then I thought of the movie I watched last night of a girl giving a lap dance to a main character. However I didn't watch that scene but i thought of It in my dream. 5 sec in I had a O but not really a wet. Does this count as a relapse. I was def not conscious tho. And I have been fighting the last 2 weeks and have not been close to watching porn and masturbaitng.

Another question. You said to avoid these counters, but I heard they can have bad effects if you do?

 

Did nothing wrong. If you ain't having sex, this is your body's natural way of releasing. Most of it isn't semen, it's mostly fluids

 

So you had a sexual fantasy?

 

I was anticipating something like a wet dream last night because I had encountered too many triggers for last couple of days. Luckily this time I didn't ejaculated. I am having similar wet dreams of fantasies from my subconscious, as if it was a dream where I am my previous' self who is PMOing for 10 years. It was unintentional to say the least because when I wake up I realize that I don't want to be that person anymore. I want to quit porn. Thanks to @theMotivator I was sleeping at right side cuddling my pet so I didn't physically ejaculated.

 

Ejaculation is ejaculation you are losing energy it doesn't matter how you do it. If at least you have sex and orgasm you share an intimate moment with another person and share energy, hormones and increase your inmune system in sex you don't just share stds you also share many special things.

If you are lucid dreaming and having these nocturnal ejaculations this often you are draining your energy. You are not being truly truthful to yourself.

You say you want a healthy sex life but deep down you have not made a strong commitment to it. Dreams reveal our subconscious desires.

Give up porn, lust in your body by not watching it, it's not enough give it up in your heart and mind too.

 

I sometimes also have the dreams, where I am old myself, and scroll through pages or even want to play some game, and fight in my dream with my thoughts like: why do I have to do that? I guess that shows that we are transforming into "new us", if these new thoughts even penetrate into dreams.

 

Ok bro clearly your testosterone level is like a 1. It’s almost impossible not to have wet dreams as a teen. I don’t feel any different after one, same women attraction, same motivation, it’s all mental