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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Dr.Pickle, Apr 13, 2020.

  1. Dr.Pickle

    Dr.Pickle New Fapstronaut

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    Just made an account today but I’ve known about nofap for probably 6-7 years. I’ve been trying to stop since I was about 17 and I’m turning 24 in just a few weeks. It’s crazy for me to think that I first started looking up pictures of naked women when I was 10 years old and it seems within a year from that I started struggling in school, becoming depressed and extremely anxious and especially socially anxious. I’ve tried Norton app lock in combination with covenant eyes to keep me from watching porn but I always either used my PlayStation to watch porn or gave my PlayStation to a friend and just found a loophole in my blocking apps and watched porn anyways. I’m still lucky enough to have a girlfriend who I’ve had for a year and a half now and she’s great but I feel like my addiction really limits how great our relationship could be. She knows I have a big problem with this and has tried helping but she doesn’t know the last couple weeks when she’s at the house I still try to watch porn when she’s in the house or hanging at my House with one of my family members at night and I say I’m tired and go to bed, but end up looking up porn or pictures of naked girls till she decided to come to bed too. I haven’t given up but I’m really having a hard time not watching porn and I feel like this post is almost a cry for help and a cry for suggestions and motivation. Just not sure which route to take because apparently locking my phone isn’t the answer and this needs to come from within....
     
  2. You gotta start somewhere. A cry for help is not a bad thing!

    Check out my story, it might encourage you:
    My Story
     
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  3. | Nico |

    | Nico | Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Welcome to nofap, best of luck on your journey, anything we can assist you with let us know :)
     
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  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you as you walk along your journey.

    Covenant Eyes and other programs and apps are to help you but they cannot be the only line of defense you have. Sharing your struggles and your temptations may help you deal with them better. Create a journal, encourage others, that will take your mind off of what you want and place it on other people. Be honest with your gf. Tell her what you have done and when you are struggling. It will hurt her more that you were dishonest with her than that you are struggling.
     
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    One Eyed Owl Distinguished Fapstronaut

  6. Dr.Pickle

    Dr.Pickle New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the warm welcoming, my girlfriend and I are going to sit down and try to figure something out next weekend when she’s over. Try to get my phone squared away and just talk more about the situation. I just gotta be strong, I’m sure a lot of you guys have/had the same problem but once I get on a streak I gain a smidge of confidence and it’s almost like I forget why I’m stopping in the first place. Such a frustrating cycle!
     
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  7. Hey, welcome to the NoFap community
    : )
    It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    First let me go ahead and drop some helpful links for you:

    Getting Started Guide / Forum Rules / How to Use the NoFap forums/ Glossary/ NoFap Panic button /
    Set up your day counter /
    Rebooting Resources/
    Accountability groups (new!) /
    About NoFap/ Support NoFap


    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a careful look at each section in the forum, there may be something(s) you will find to be of big help to you.

    Secondly I advise you to be active on your profile(as there a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then begin posting frequent status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement.
    The forum has got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see.
    People will find your profile and give you support.

    There’s a portion of people who love communicating in the profile section..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive conversations. It would be great to have you join in and become part of the team!
    We support others in the threads, profile posts, and journals/reboot logs.
    Once you receive some support, please be sure and be grateful to the member for the help/support you received and consider giving some in return to anyone you wish.

    Thirdly, you should highly consider creating a public journal/reboot log (in the appropriate section for you) to write about your days in depth for us members to follow along on your journey and offer support to you on.

    Please start your journal in the correct section and with that, also try your best to post in the correct sections as it is mandatory and would be helpful to the mods who organize the forum. : )

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     

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