Tried over 200 times. Can't even get to 10 days. D:

Anyone who says the life of a 15 year old isn't complicated is just plain wrong. I fully sympathize with you, at least you are trying. Working out or meditating is nice, and can help, but they will not cure you.
I also do not believe in making it seem as if you are some horrible person. You aren't. You're normal. That's actually the truth. You are not an outsider or a weirdo. You're just a guy who happens to fap a lot and wants to reduce it. There are millions of guys like that. Millions. So, it isn't worth getting angry about. Do not picture your porn habit as some big, cruel monster that constantly defeats you. Picture it as an annoying puppy that always wants to bark and get your attention. Don't let it get the best of you.
See how it goes for a bit longer. If you are still in this boat in the fall, you might consider talking to a therapist or counselor. Until then, try to calm down and try to take more control. Maybe you'll screw up sometimes. Ok. Start again.

 

You need some systems implemented in your day. Rules you follow each and every day (no days off). Without systems, you'll keep failing and failing over and over. These systems can be small such as never staying up past 12am each and everyday. Overtime, you'll forget these systems since they'll just become the ordinary. Make the in-ordinary your new ordinary.

Sounds crazy? Yeah worth the shot. Won't be crazy once you get used to them.

 

Get into a sport , exercise, weight lift , the more energy you spend in the day, the more productive you are the less likely you are to relapse . Work out early so your energy is balanced throughout the day , then workout again in the evening . Our lifestyles can be very unbalanced , and can lead to a lot of pent up energy and boredom , this is where addiction and excessive porn usage comes in.

 

Nofap is hard, and it takes time. Nobody could rise if they don't encounter failure. Be open about it, analyse why do you relapse, write down the reasons and record your feelings when you have an urge. Then strategically avoid it. I have been doing nofap for years, and I have to say having a high streak without urges is almost impossible.

It is the process of fighting the urge that is rewiring your brain, and just like you, I am still learning how to do so.

 

Listen bro... Ive felt it too "whats the point of trying?" the fact is you have to find YOUR own point to it and if its only had control of you for a year count yourself as lucky. me and countless others here had been under the spell for multiple years... i myself was for about close to 10 years and for most of that time i didnt even know i was addicted or that it was even a problem... the fact that you can see it so early is truly a blessing, count that as your first win and forget those past failures theyre long gone and the only day is today, focus on the moment not yesterday and not tomorrow.

Now let me tell you my reason for "even trying" I too felt like you do an outcast, outsider, or loner whatever you want to call it, never had a relationship or even really talked to girls. And one day i found one(or rather she found me) and i felt on top of the world until we tried to have sex and i couldnt get it up at all (PIED).. and after all the love between us (mostly on my side cuz she was my first) she left me without hesitation due to this fact and i felt like i lost everything.. now i dont know how you are with the ladies but i can guarantee you dont want to learn the hard (soft dick) way like i did. You can do it man! Youre still so young and have so much time to fix it. keep trying and stop counting your failure try to learn from them for failure is the best if not the only teacher. Best of luck man i believe in you!

 

Hey pal. I was in a same situation like you. My best is 60 days, but i consistently failt pass that barrier. Everytime after a Long streak i binge for days long. I just can't pass it.
But I had an understanding lately. When we all confined to a small place in our rooms we have to choice to do what is important to us.
I started to practice a nice habit. Everytime I neglect something I just imagine how my life will be if i continue to do this. How much misery ill have.
You see,
Intellectually, we know the consequences of our addictions. We know where it lead us to. A life of misery and depression.
But when we have a craving, we stop thinking logically and do whatever we need to get that fix.
Everytime you have a craving think logically. Why am i feeling like this right now? Will i enjoy the relapse process? How my life will be if I continue to give in to this addiction? (Feel how you life will be after 30 years of constant porn usage) And of course- What can I do to make this craving disappear?

Maybe deep inside, you still want to watch porn. Maybe you sabotage your process every time you try.
If that's the case, you need to see a therapist. Ill suggest NLP in that case.

 

You sound exactly like me a year or so ago. You need to get out of that headspace, and fast. Trust me it is a downward spiral that got me more addicted and depressed.

1. You are putting nofap on a pedestal. You think that if you reach a certain day, your life will become incredible. It won't. In fact, the lack of dopamine will cause you significant pain, discomfort and make it hard to find self peace.

2. You are blaming yourself for failure. This causes shame, which makes you feel worse therefore heightening the need for PMO to feel better, you give in and PMO, feel shame and the cycle continues.

3. You are using willpower. You don't really understand what's going on in your brain. You are associating that urge with what you want. The urge is your dopamine pathways wanting more.
You'll feel the same feeling if you use your smartphone all day or play video games, then try and sit down in silence for an hour with nothing. You'll get urges to pick up your phone.

So just realise youre not actually losing out on anything. It's not real pain, you don't need to react to it. Smile about it, laugh at it and be happy as it means you're healing. Once your dopamine receptors have reset you won't even get urges anymore and you'll wonder what the fuss was about. To make this process easier, it's worth being busy as it means less time feeling that annoying pain.

If u relapse man, who cares? If you're fapping once a week, you're doing much better than most people. Just stay happy and learn from the mistakes you make, and don't beat yourself up. Good luck

 

You’re doing the best you can. You can do it. Although I would think about finding an accountability partner, someone you can talk to about your feelings and issues, also help them in their journey.
I’ve had to change perspective on no pmo. Stop viewing no pmo as a challenge. But view it as a new lifestyle that you aspire to live. It’s a lot easier to deal with the temptations when you believe that it’s simply not your thing. Something you don’t want a part of your manhood.

Be the person you want to be. Daily.

 

Always remember you ARE in the top 1% bro. 99% of the 15-year olds fap often and don't even realise that what they are doing is likely to damage their health and wellbeing. Never give up. When you are desperate for motivation, come back to this thread.

 

Relax bro ....you will one day stop believe in yourself...maybe you have more time by yourself and it always triggers it ..become more social, become more open with your friends, engage in conversations, get something else to distract you,and it’s interesting like a sport. Make sure it’s interesting....yeah sure thing you will be close to healing

 

What the guys here are telling you is very true. Doing productive things and having a routing will help very much. But in my opinion that is not what this should be about. Just not PMOing shouldn't be your goal. It can be a way to measure your progress, but don't let it lead you down a spiral of feeling like shit cause you can't resist urges. Everybody has urges and everyone slips up sometimes. not just for masturbating.

Think about it, if you go from fapping multple times everyday to at the most every 3 days. That is a big improvement. Your doing great on your way to being stronger mentally.

You have to look at the bigger picture. Do it to improve yourself as a person. In the long run you will start to have the urge to improve yourself. As a first, think about why you want to PMO. What are you trying to cope with? It took me years to find out it were my parents that caused it, but when I did it made it way easier. Learn to experience the hard emotions that are bottled up.

As a second, think about yourself as a person. What is something you don't like or feel insecure about? When you find that, go about fixing it one thing at a time. Break it down into easy little tasks you can do everyday. Make it an habit to do one thing everyday that will improve your life. Be it studying, exercise, hobbies, it can be anything. This will also keep you busy and you will notice the urges less. Just like the guys said

When do you seem to PMO most de the time?

 

There are mathematicians who have spent years just to prove one theorem. But we remember them because they accomplished it in the end. Your story will be the same if you don't quit. You will be happy with the person you become. I hate to see that there are people your age who have fallen into the porn trap. I was the same and I regret it to this day.

No matter what happens, do not hate yourself or be hard on yourself for relapsing. Even when you feel like a piece of shit after relapsing, you need to accept and forgive yourself, but know that you have the power to change. And don't ever stop trying, because then you will be back at zero. You aren't at zero right now, because you still have energy to keep trying. Make yourself proud.

 

change your lifestyle.

 

What is your main motivation to stop PMO?

 

can u see my streak's buddy ? yeah its 100+ Hardmode

can u see my struggle to get to this point ?? its almost 5 year's of failing and come back again and yet I STILL VULNERABLE TO PORN

if u want to succes on this journey, u must make it

two thing's that i believe is basic but important to defeat this shit...

1. Make Plan
2. have a strong motivation

i see u have enough strong motivation, but do you have a plan ?

make plan and do it. if the plan fail... evaluate it, improve the plan and try again

come on bro youre stronger than this

 

I'm being on this site since last 6 years... and in last 6 years it was just one time in last year august month when i reach 104 days... one time it was 47 days because i was hospitalized for that much period... rest all the time my streak was just below 25 & 20...
so can u imagine number of time i have failed...number of time i have tried to stand up against this pmo... if u can imagine hope u find the answer...
it is not single moment magic that u wish and u quit... so easy access to porn and all tv series and movies full of softcore scene are enough to arouse you... its up to how you see your struggle...
for now after a very long time i have reached one month today...i will continue my journey
dont let your morale down by failure... no one here get success in one night everyone is here for years and months but still everyone is fighting their own fight...
we as whole nofap community will help you with whatever possible in your journey.. just go ahead ... fail today... its okay again rise tomorrow...that's what life is

 

I was trapped in that cycle (strike - relapsing) all 2019. Maybe half of that year I was in relapse, and a half in strikes (4-18 days, '22 days' was my best). Now this year I achieved 25 days, and now in my current strike, I passed 30 days. There is no reason to give up. You probably think you are not improving, but you are becoming stronger and more disciplined. I wish I had found Nofap when I was 15 like you.

There are some rules that help me to achieve longer strikes:

• Apart from porn, I avoid any material which can arouse me no matter if it is text, audio, videos (like youtube videos with girls), pictures.
• When I start fantasizing I fight against that. I try to move my mind to a happy time and place.