Forget Sex and Relationships!

There is no pressure during the 90 days of NoFap/NoPMO (Hardmode/Monkmode) than like constantly thinking about the other gender.
Give up the desire to find the right partner!
These are useless goals which are not noroushing our souls in the first place!
Do NOT seek for them! Do NOT crave after flesh like your life depends on it!
Make a contract for yourself that you will never ever want to have sex with anybody for the rest of your life. (not even with prostitutes!)
I think your progress in NoFap will gets easier if your mindset changes alittle bit.
My advice for you all is: Be alone!
AND you will be free like a bird.
If you think that you necessarily need a partner to enjoy life and feel happy just because somebody else is besides you holding your hand, then you are still suffering and you will end up never being happy for yourself!
If you are somebody who is still failing with Nofap over and over again, then you probably should stop thinking about the perfect partner for your life.
Just dont look up to the other gender like you need them, like a vampire needs blood to survive.
Not even when you find somebody so attractive.
Thats why appearance is useless to focus on!
Beauty can never tell you anything about this person.
STOP thinking visual all the time!
I have come acros alot of beautiful woman in my life and those who are beautiful were empty and lost inside and others suffering from old reminiscences for being bullied in school and called them ugly in her childhood and thats why those people keep doing surgeries for having bigger boobs or bigger butts.
Or do you think that those instagram beauties who show them halfnaked for the public were never vulnerable in life?
They do show skin because they searching for acceptance and they do suffer alot.
It is not right to think bad about those woman, who do it.
Once you have understood what suffering is you will never judge people that fast.
Alot of people are traumatized from the past me included. This doesn't mean that all people are the same, but more like you will never know a person by looks.
It is a shady reason to love someone just to enrich yourself or not feeling lonely.
If you are admiring people too much, you will probably find an excuse to have orgasms, and you will keep on failing and give up the semen retention progress.
You will always find an excuse for doing alittle bit of edging here and little bit of edging there...NO, Stop it!
Even if you are end up as a virgin for the rest of your life don't think with that going to a prostitute can give you a long term satisfaction. You have to heal the wounds with your own power.
Be proud of being a virgin!
Give up the pressure of having sex someday & don't think ever about this topic again!
Just clear your mind!
There is a man in india his name is called Swami Shivananda who is over 120 years old and who is living like a monk at his own house. He never needed sex or masturbation, not even thinking about that he needed ever porn in life, he is eating healthy vegetarian food without oil and sugar( simply plain puristic whole food without any spices) and doing his daily Yoga and Meditation practices on a daily basis. He is saying that he feels fit and happy still in his age group where alot of people died or thinking about death. But he keeps living this way and he had never had sorrows in life.
He is thankful for the way he is living.
He is my role model.
Currently I am reading the book "Fidelity" written by Thich Nhat Hanh.
This book opened my eyes. I can highly recommand you to read this book.
It changes alot of things for me and also for those people who feel lonely.
Everbody should read this book who is on NoFap.
To end this speech I want to share with you a video from youtube which I find personally really interesting to watch. It is about a buddhist monk who is talking about "sexual desire" and reflects about his old sex relationship with a woman.

 

Exactly! You understood me right.
There is a huge pressure for virgins in this new modern world.
Alot of people want to experience this feeling of having sexual intimacy and being accepted from other human beings, just because other people experienced it already before us, therefore we put so much pressure into these topics. The society is living a competitive life, sadly.
Many people depend their mentality and lifestyle how their friends and ancestors lived this way.
People think to have reached something meaningful when they find a partner, which makes them whole as a person....but you are whole already, which they forget cause they feel lost and they crave for something.
The main goal can not be finding a partner or having children with them. The main goal should be to feel free for yourself first, to empty the brain from too much overthinking, overexpecting and to release all of our bad habits. Everything else is a coincidence or destiny. Happiness is within us and nobody can take it from us or give us before offering them joy and happiness.
We wouldn't also jump from the bridge and commit suicide just because others do, isn't it so?
Even I catch myself alot of times in the situation that I would feel sad if I end up alone for the rest of my life. And of course I felt the pressure like others do. I thought when I see couples walking together hand in hand I had the assumption that they must be happy,.....while I drank my tea alone in a cafe with my smartphone in my hand, hearing love songs and feeling miserable.....and I was wrong all the time.

 

From the book "Fidelity" written by Thich Nhat Hanh
I higly recommand this book. This book is a gift for the whole NoFap community, for those who feel lonely and for those who want to live a healthy relationship. This is one part of this book.
Chapter 4:
TRANSFORMING LONELINESS AND SUFFERING

EACH OF US HAS A DEEP DESIRE TO know and understand the world and to be known and understood in return. That is a deep natural thirst. But often this thirst causes us to wait for something outside of ourselves. Often, we’ve had no time to understand ourselves before we’ve already found objects for our love. Or, we continue to wait for something that will make us feel fulfilled. This is one reason many of us in industrialized countries are now constantly on our phones or checking our email. All of us feel lonely and empty inside sometimes. When we have these feelings, we try to fill the vacuum by consuming food or alcohol, or by engaging in sexual activity. Yet, even while we are enjoying these things, the empty feeling not only persists but becomes deeper than before.
We can transform this feeling of loneliness only when we truly understand ourselves and our loved ones. Even if two people have a baby together, they are still separate. Each of us remains in isolation. It’s not by living together, or by having sexual relations, or even by having children together that we can dispel this feeling of isolation. We can only dispel our mutual isolation when we practice mindfulness and are able to truly come home to ourselves and each other.