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No porn for 5 months but still having issues

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Amatuershooter, Apr 19, 2020.

  1. Apr 19, 2020 #1
    Amatuershooter

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    Hello,
    I've been in a relationship for the past year and at that time I had an issue with porn and PIED. I was addicted for years. I went recently porn and PMO free the last 5-6 months . No real desires or urges to watch porn at all. Getting morning wood and everything too. My issue is when I'm having sex with my GF, I find myself not always fully hard. Sometimes during sex I'm hard as a rock, other times I can't keep hard. During this time of not watching porn I have succumb to MO often fantasizing about some of the images from past porn or even my GF.
    Obviously MO is slowing my reboot and but does sex with GF also contribute to slower reboot?
    It's painful to admit but porn is damaging me even after quit watching.
    Seriously looking into a hard reboot at this point. Any advice would be helpful, I hate what porn did to me and it's tearing up my GF.
     
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  2. Apr 19, 2020 #2
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    Stop masturbation. I had the same issue in the past, but don't have now. Your penis can use to one kind of stimulation and then it is harder to be satisfied in sex. It can also be some kind of performance anxiety so don't stress out so much about that. And obviously don't think about past porn - just let it go.

    If situation wouldn't improve after a few months then visit a sexuologist to discuss that.
     
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  3. Apr 19, 2020 #3
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    I would also say you should stop your mastrubation.
    I would also stop other high dopamine releasing activities
     
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  4. Apr 19, 2020 #4
    Amatuershooter

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    I stopped masturbating, but a concerning thing I have is if gf starts stroking me, it feels like MO and I'm correct that this is detrimental to my reboot?
    Also I should add that I did both conventional and prone masturbation
     
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  5. Apr 19, 2020 #5
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    Think it's not the best idea to let her stroke you. We all know that giving head is always a better way :)
     
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  6. Apr 20, 2020 #6
    samnf1990

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    You're still MOing. Stop that before you try blaming a slow reboot on sex. We're all here so that sex is better, more connected and healthy. Stop masturbating and things will improve.

    Good luck.
     
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  7. Apr 21, 2020 #7
    JamesTheSquirrel

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    I definitely agree with the other comments that you should stop M. You are allowing yourself to fantasize whilst doing it and potentially death gripping yourself, which will be reducing sensitivity during sex.

    The best thing to do is to separate out the ideas of M and your girlfriend touching you. Focus on her as your sole source of sexual pleasure. If it helps to temporarily tell her to stop touching you then do so, but it shouldn't have a significant effect on your recovery.
     
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  8. Apr 26, 2020 #8
    p1n1983

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    Everything your girlfriend does to you is ok.. everything you do to yourself for the moment is bad.
     
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