What to do when a girl rejects you

Would definetly use some of this tips. In alot of situations I think about my ego but I always thought about what I would do in other people's situation. This tip is not only about girls, "it's called distinguishing different perspectives"

 

You're a man. Your worth isn't defined by a female so you need to think about this question more. As a man you need to have an abundance mindset. There are many many many woman in this world and they should be working for you. If you were rejected thank god because she is not willing to bow and submit to you as a man so she would not work. Take back your masculinity my guy

 

What I'm saying is that is how relationships are supposed to be. The man leads, the man is the provider, the analytical thinker, they are the dominant force. The woman is the more submissive person in the relationship and if a woman isn't going to adhere to the rules I set for a relationship, or what I want in my s/o then we are not meant to be together and I have to be ready to be on to the next one. Men shouldn't settle in life.

 

I get what you’re saying. Idk why everyone here is acting like it’s the end of the world or they have to analyze it. Just move on. Plenty of fish in the sea

 

Why do you need a girl? To 'be happy'? That is a lie, women can't make you happy. Happiness does not equal pleasure. If you can answer 'I don't need a girl to be happy', then you will never be rejected because you never truly cared in the first place. Will you feel anything if you someone says to you that you won't be able to become a president of Zimbabwe? No, because you don't care about being that. Feeling of rejection arises when you don't get what you think would make you happy.

 

I think Waylare's response was a good one.

Because every time you get rejected, you are closer to success.

That's the way I've always seen it, that every guy is trying to unlock a combination.

Every guy has only one number he can use, like 4833.

So he goes around to lock after lock, until one opens at that number.

Sometimes a guy is 1834, tries it on the first lock, and open sesamie.

Some guys work 9922 on 100,000 locks a day and none will open.

But a dude can't try a different number, he HAS to be himself.

A guy should never learn a player method, or "act".

He goes to a lock, and tries 4833.

Usually it won't work, but what kind of expectation should a guy have?

If I went up on the street to a random bike with a combo lock, and put in 4833,

what are the odds?

But also, notice that if I tried my combo on a lock, I wouldn't walk away all

upset over it. I tried it, it didn't work. It will never work. So I move on.

Women are like that the same way. If a girl puts me in the friend zone, or

rejects me, then I just move on. I used to take this personally in the past,

but it's not a reflection of the guy. The guy deserves to be himself, and he

has no other choice. This is not a problem for the right lock.

That's the way it works for guys who want to have something meaningful.

If I pry open the lock or do something other than use that number,

it breaks, then it's no good.

Likewise, if I go out into the world trying to "BE" somebody or "SAY" the right thing,

then I've forced the lock open, and maybe I get to have it,

but the lock really doesn't work after that.

I just wanted to chime in on this because I thought of that metaphor,

which I really believe has been true all of my life.

 

Do you believe in MGTOW?

 

Well written man! Some of the ideas are extracted of the book Models by Mark Manson in my opinion. It´s good to stay true to yourself, values and ideals. To be rejected and go in a relaxed manner about it by being considerate and mature makes sense to me. People who crave the other person at any cost, lose their gravity and fall into the trap of dependency, while abundance is all around us. Strong boundaries and high self-esteem are favourable traits for anybody.

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The power of considering another truth can be shocking as well as challenging for oneself, especially if you are the person feeling treated injusticely. Our brain is wired to look for proof of our belief´s system and might even identify other standpoints as threats towards our own perception. Often enough we feel entitled rather than self-sufficent towards a person, object, position in a career or achievement and if though pride can be helpful sometimes, it´s often growing on the same branch as stupidity. In the respective situation we conclude likely fast and selfish, while we dismiss to take other truths into consideration. But that´s excatly what we need to do, allthough it requires effort and maturity. A negative experience can still hold a valueable lesson, if not open up a hidden chance for us to learn and even create new sucess. The secret is to be able to reevaluate situations as a new, openminded and considerate person, whenever we face problems, who are messing with our primal thoughts. This is an effective excercise to become less upset and more solution goal orientated in difficult situations.