Are you gonna talk to her ?

This video litterally changed my life 2 years ago. I just wanted to share it with you guys so maybe it can inspire you as it inspired me. It's about overcoming our fear of talking to girls we find attractive.

Have you ever tried to get over your fear of talking to a girl? How do you feel about that?

 

I feel you man. If you want to talk about that or if your're looking for some advice you can PM me

 

I'm glad to meet some good people who are into game. You're welcome

 

Ahahah yes. this guy is my hero

 

Yes...
All my troubles started from that day!

10/10 wouldn't repeat it.

 

When i started hanging out at bars (I don't anymore) I found that, if you sat at the bar, enjoyed your drink. Watched sports, or whatever etc etc etc. Know what would happen? Women would actually talk to you.
This is the most valuable thing I've ever learned in my entire life. Women generally don't like overly eager behaviour.
And keep in mind, this was me simply stopping in to have a drink after work. I left with women, I got phone numbers etc.
I find there's wayyyyy too much focus on this site about how to get enough confidence to talk to women.
BDE is a thing. If you have it, they will talk to you.

 

I agree, there's a lot of information on this site already.

However, If you sit in a bar and wait for the girls to come and talk to you, you take on the attitude of a passive person. You wait for chance to make things happen. You don't even choose the girls you're going to meet. When you are shy and want to really change who you are to be more successful with girls, you have to overcome your fears and face rejection.
Rejection allows you to learn about yourself, about others. Avoiding rejection by looking for techniques is procrastinating our dreams. We all have to go through rejection to become the person we want to become. No one can escape it.

The main goal of being able to talk to the girls you like on the street, in shops, bars and nightclubs is to destroy your limiting beliefs. It's about having multiple options and knowing what kind of girl you want to go out with. It's about being able to express your desire freely and simply. Getting out of our comfort zone is about knowing who we really are.
Counting on chance to be approached is what every guy who aren't in this process does. There's no point in it.

It's still interesting and yes it can happens sometimes. But having sex with multiple women won't bring you self confidence or fulfilment. This process of having the guts to talk to girls goes waaay beyond this notion of results.

 

I would say you're mostly wrong in that. Just like the over eager salesman who won't leave a customer alone.
When you approach a woman she thinks to her self "oh god another guy hitting on me"
When you hit on a woman you give her the power. She is deciding whether she will accept you or not.
When she approaches you you have the power to say yes or no.
By being, as you say "passive" you're actually taking away her power.

 

Well, unless you're a Saudi oil sheik with a harem you're wrong.
The food analogy doesn't make sense.
Does the food have a say in whether it's being taken by you or not?
Think of it this way.
Justin Bieber for example has women throwing themselves at him all day long.
He decides who he goes with.
When you approach women they decide on you.
So do you want to be decided on, or do you want to be the decider?

 

"When you approach a woman she thinks to her self "oh god another guy hitting on me". I think it's a limiting belief
I have approached maaany many girls in two years. And almost all of them, without exception, say thank you. Almost all of them, without exception, tell me that they are waiting for a guy to come and talk to them in their everyday life. But no one has the courage to do so. Of course, there have been a few exceptions. But that's less than 1%. Girls would like men to put aside their pride and show their sensitivity. It's not about having "power" or not. It's about assuming that you're attracted to girls. It's about showing who you really are.

When I go to talk to a girl, of course I'm physically attracted to her. But I also want to know if that girl is cool. Under no circumstances I show needy.

If you're waiting for chance to decide for you, just to show you have power, well, it's your choice and I respect it. But I think it's more a matter of pride and ego than anything else. I know people (guys and girls) who say the same thing and agree with you. If we lived in a world where everyone would think that way, it would be sad and most people would wear masks.

Anyway I still respect your opinion