I have lost all hope

You’ve taken the first few steps. There are many more to break free from this. Are you going to sa/saa meetings? I’d suggest a minimum of 3 a week. Most addicts it’s recommended you do 90 meetings in 90 days when you first try and kick your addiction. Who have you talked to or told? This is key to recovery, I don’t know why, I just know it works. Have you gone to a csat ? That can help you immensely. What other steps have you taken to be clean? Do you have one or more accountability partners that you check in with daily? My husband has 6. In the beginning blockers can help, at some point though you need to be able to say no on your own. Get rid of social media at least temporarily. Really, how badly do you want to be clean? Because it’s a lot of work.

 

I can understand, we've all been there, but your current state isn't permanent and you shouldn't give up, trust me this is not something you wanna live all your life a slave to, you will regret it
I don't know how to put it simply, but man you gotta sit down and have a conversation with yourself, you are escaping, just face what you are escaping from, every bad idea about yourself, every negative feelings, it the only way to be free
Don't focus on external things, excercise and cold showers and nofap in itself are all external tools, it all starts with you
Remember that porn weakens will power and that's why it holds contorl over you, but THAT'S NOT WHO YOU ARE، you are better than this, you have different thoughts and feelings, listen to them
The first 3 days are the hardest, but then it gets better, and as long as you don't look at porn, the neural pathways to it will weaken, and you will restore your will power and it gets easier, it's worth it by every means
Don't give up, if you need any specific help then I would be glad to help you
And stop saying you are a slave to pmo, stop the victim mentality, you are stronger than the temptation, you just didn't prove it to yourself, prove that addict wrong and know that you can be free

 

I'm trying to break my porn addiction for over 5 years now. I haven't succeeded yet but the situation improved. It takes time and effort and patice. You need to stand up again and again and again.

One other thing: Are there any other things that you like that you could substitute porn with? Maybe you need to make your mind realize that it can get pleasure from somewhere else. Some less harmful source.

 

Sa/saa are groups specifically for sex addicts, they are free! You can go in person ( best option) or by phone. My husband does 2 per week by phone and one per week in person. A csat is a certified sex addiction specialist. They are counselors who have specialized in sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma.

 

Yeah, having your girlfriend as an ap in usually not a good idea. Sa/saa meetings can hook you up with an ap. Or look for a few on this forum.

 

You are way to young to be giving up hope!

 

I'm sorry if my reply seemed harsh to you or something, I think you were just venting so I shouldn't take every word literally, it's okay to feel weak sometimes, but just don't give power to porn, it isn't that scary monster, you can get over it
Just something to note, I've been doing nofap on and off for more than a year, I achieved some decent streaks, but never met the 90 days goal, but I got a looot better, and now my will power is stronger, I feel like I can do this now
Focus on progress, the pathetic 9 days streak you mentioned is actually progress and a very good streak, now try to beat that record, your will power will grow, the more you do this the easier it is to quit for good

 

Absolutely! My husband is 51. There is a 70 year old in one of his groups. It’s never too late to improve your life.

 

I'm pretty bad at motivating people so I'll just tell you this: don't call it quits. You will have to find the motivation from somewhere in your life. Maybe it's not this site, but every human has a drive to be successful. And under no circumstances should you ever feel guilty or ashamed for trying and failing. This will be the biggest obstacle to your progress. You need to celebrate a single day of NoFap, or two days. The 90 will come eventually.

 

I will motivate the hell out of you. 9 days isn't short either. You passed a week which other people have given up before even achieving. You're doing something amazing trying to better yourself and who the fuck is the guy who failed for months? You, you failed day by day but did you give up? No, and you finally reached 9 days, you went from failing over and over to 9 days, and you can keep it up. You cannot give up on yourself. Pain equals success and you have to get through the storm to see clear skies again. I believe in you and if you want an accountability partner I'm here for you. Perhaps your girlfriend could help but it's not good to put those type of problems on a s/o. I see how that could mess with and ruin the relationship. Regardless, I believe in you and I know you're going to get over this way you're feeling and you're going to keep going and reach your goals. I want to see your success story on this forum one of these days.

 

Have fun watching porn I guess

 

Definitely bro, just send me a message

 

Pmo is a meaningless activity , just think what pmo has given you so far , only it caused you suffering . First few days will be tough bit it will b easier .
Avoid sexual thoughts and fantasy . You can make good streak if u dont indulge in famtasy