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Where is the point of no return?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by I'll never be the same, Apr 22, 2020.

  1. I'll never be the same

    I'll never be the same Fapstronaut

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    Where is the point of no return? When is the moment when you've actually failed, before even touching yourself.
    This afternoon, I had a strong urge. I was doing a puzzle, and tried to fight it for a long time. I said to myself : "At least wait till your puzzle is finished to PMO" hoping the urge would leave. So I fought like that for 2 hours. When I my puzzle was finished, the urge was not strong anymore, and I even wonder if it was still there.
    But I relapsed then.
    I think that deep inside of me, I had already failed far before I actually PMOed.

    So I ask you, where is the point of no return? To what extent can we fight an urge before there's no going back ?
     
  2. Joseph T.

    Joseph T. New Fapstronaut

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    There is no point of no return, I felt you when you said you were doing a puzzle and the urge came to you, I had that multiple times, when I'm studying or doing anything those pictures of pornography comes to me and I couldn't fight it I would say I'm gonna finish what I'm doing first but I couldn't I need to watch porn first, because if I didn't it wouldn't leave me alone...
     
  3. Joseph T.

    Joseph T. New Fapstronaut

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    But you need to be strong you need to relax and fight it as hard as you can, find another habit or do something else that could help you forgetting, learn something new, read a book, sit with your family or friends more often, you know just keep fighting it, After not a long period of time those images of porn keep getting blurry and start to vanish.
     
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  4. I'll never be the same

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    But I've actually finished what I said I would, and it's true the urge was "gone". But I think it was "gone" because I had already given up to it even if I only satisfied it 2 hours later.
     
  5. I'll never be the same

    I'll never be the same Fapstronaut

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    I've heard of it, but I've actually never tried it. I'll try. Instead of surfing waves because of the lockdown, I'll try surfing urges. Sounds cool! thanks mate
     
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  6. I think you can always return. Yes, we all have days where we get the idea to masturbate, and can't get it out of our heads. That is the true test of your commitment. I have failed that test many times. One day, however, I had decided "screw NoFap, I'm going to watch some porn." So I did it, and I was jerking off for a while. Then, suddenly, I took control and stopped myself immediately. It felt very good to have that kind of control. Even when you think that you've already passed the threshold, you can still stop damaging yourself more. Even if you have to reset your counter, you can always prevent more damage by not finishing. After all, it is the orgasm that we desire, the porn just makes it more interesting.
     

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