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After 14 days, benefits are awesome, yet urges are intense

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Youth, May 26, 2015.

  1. Youth

    Youth Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone, I've been browsing this site for a while, but finally decided to make an account.

    TLDR, just an introduction below
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    (I've been practicing NoFap hardmode style since last October, with a few relapses in between. My first streak lasted 33 days, then I had some trouble with edging over the cold winter months. After February, I managed to get in a nice 49 day streak before having sex with a girl, breaking my streak. Then a couple 2 week streaks with more sex and once PMO. My current streak is on day 15, and I plan on moving well past my 49 day hard mode record.. If I can figure out how to combat those intense urges)
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    After 14 days, it feels like the benefits really start to kick in, but then the random urges that come after that are much stronger. I'm trying to figure out how to make it so that I can survive one of those intense urges that come with longer streaks. They come so randomly, and they build so strong. A girl could look me in the eye in a certain way and all of the sudden, the urge is there, then it builds. Or I could be walking down the street, and there's some beautiful woman dressed in yoga pants with cleavage showing, and she looks at me and smiles. It's as if the women are trying to seduce me into them with their looks and provocative clothing. No matter how hard I try, after 14+ days, there always seems to be some kind of women trying to get my attention. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this?
     
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  2. brainrenewal

    brainrenewal Fapstronaut

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    Hi Youth,

    First, congratulations on 14 days!! Feel proud of that accomplishment, don't look back relapses of the past, you are attaining now and that is a wonderful thing. Your post actually inspired me - I'm on day 7, so it's great to see others make it to two weeks and then onward.

    What I'm saying next is not to justify or rationalize lusting, but to put it in perspective. To feel attracted to real women in reality is what we are biologically designed for - it's natural and real and wired into us. Most porn is unrealistic, unnatural, serves no evolutionary purpose and is frankly bizarre. The fact that you are attracted to real women in reality is a sign that the healing process is kicking in - your brain is reverting to its normal modes of attraction. We are designed to be attracted to healthy-looking women with curves - we're not designed to be attracted to weird fetishes, those are the result of excessive porn viewing. Don't PMO from it, but be healthy that your evolutionarily designed real, healthy attraction is getting back into gear.
     
  3. Youth

    Youth Fapstronaut

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    Thanks! I'm just trying to use celibacy for more than rebooting back into "normal" thought patterns. I want to use to preserve vitality, and become spiritually strong, and women in public are a huge distraction that's hard to get around.
     

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