Can't get to 10 days without relapsing

like it's been said again and again on this forum; don't count the days, make the days count.


the fact that you got to 10 days is really really good. it took me 2 months and 20 attempts to get 8 clean days.

keep pushing, trust me you'll win

 

If you tell yourself you can't, of course you won't. But you know what? YOU CAN! Convince yourself of that. The voice inside you that says you can't, is a liar. It's the addiction speaking, not who you truly are.

That's my 2 cents, anyway

Strength to you brother!

 

Dude I feel you its hard, im at day 7 and the weirdest thing happened. I was fine in the morning and early afternoon but something switched, and I became super irritable, I don't even know why. I believe its the early withdrawals, im short with people and I am incredibly impatient so I've not talked to anyone since. Just need to power through it and believe you can do it day by day, its a true Commitment rather than a Feeling. You need to tell yourself I Will succeed today and I will not relapse, keep yourself busy, and no matter what, its hard but you just can't give in.

Also, you have to really and truly want to change, not half hearted. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

 

instead of saying to yourself I cant watch it, say I don't watch it anymore, that was the old me. From this day on, you are clean from your old habit.

 

It doesn't sound ridiculous to me, man. You are at a really good age to start doing something about this.
It may sound weird, but I would recommend reading all you can online about addictions - smoking, drugs, alcohol, gambling. You will see that addicts of all types have so much in common. Armed with more knowledge, you can take some small steps to begin leading the life you deserve. I wish you the very best.

 

yeah what he said above me, you don't want to be 30 like myself or worse, even older and still trying to shake this addiction, still wreaking havoc because i've let it drag on too long instead of handling it long ago. Take care of it NOW as opposed to later.

 

thank you

 

You mentioned that you are 30. I wanna know what are your regrets because of this addiction. If any ?

 

like I said, I regret not taking care of it early on. It has made me ashamed and left me unconfident over the years, when I realized it actually was a problem. Before, it just sort of used to be something I would do, even though I knew it was wrong. But I never thought of it, when I was young, as an addiction.

Take addiction seriously. It's a battle against yourself. You see, porn by itself, is basically harmless, like a gun by itself also. It can become dangerous by who uses it, improperly or obsessively. For others who were never obsessed, they may not see the big deal, because they were never addicted. But for someone like me, it may always be a struggle in some sense. The saying goes, once an addict always an addict. Meaning, even after a long stretch without, all it may take is one time, then you're back in it again, and want more and more, and more.

Don't let porn creep in and become "normal", or just "something you do" because you're bored. You may not ever be addicted, but do you want to take that chance? People cling on to addiction for all sorts of reason, sometimes we don't even know why. But handling issues earlier than later will save you regret and difficulty later on down the line. But the road to recovery starts with being honest with yourself.

 

I almost like you and almost the same age as you
I will say you something worked with me
Every day at morning and before go to bed I watch a youtube video about nofap benefits or someone who talking about his story in nofap and how it changed his life they say alot of great tips
It gives me motivate everyday.

And also reading other forums here can be useful

Highly recommended that you take part in this challenge
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/3-challenge-the-three-days-challenge.173158/

All the best for you man

 

It is okay to fall even my highest streak was 4 days and cant get a single more day but even you dont know but it becomes easy everytime after as in my case i am on my highest streak of 19 days and still strong and it is still going good

 

I'm 43 and the struggle is real. You are fighting biological design and science as 7 - 10 days your testosterone peaks making it seem like it's uncontrollable not to cum. Once I could find a specific reason for what I was doing then I could break it down and take the power away. We are animals and meant to reproduce as often as possible. The shape of our penis is designed to evacuate others semen out and when you ejaculate you default to thrusting hard and deep to deposits your sperm where it needs to go for best results. All of this is on purpose, all the other artificial crap is not bit it's tricking our brains and short circuits the outcome.

Search HALT BS and get the basics down if what causes is to act out. (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired Bored Stressed) you will also find you start the path of acting out days before finally acting out so it seems like you have no control. It's a process, it's better than what we do before. It's hard and it takes a lot of time but it's worth it.