Relapsed after 180 days

I feel your pain bro.. I relapsed after 242 days and back up to 133 days now.

Focus on the progress you made during the 6 months you were clean - make a list of all the areas in your life and mind that have positively changed or improved. I did that after my last relapse and I was surprised at the progress I'd made when I read my list. I really believe that all progress is not lost when we slip. Move on from the anger and disgust (addiction feeds on those emotions) - just forgive yourself start again. We all do that every day - we start again.

180 days is no joke, well done man!
I've also been taking strain under lockdown, it's not an easy time for any of us but we need to stay strong and vigilant to beat this addiction.
Good luck and stay strong!

 

Thanks for sharing. This is the first time I am really trying to quit PMO. I have 7 days now. What I find unbelievable is that you guys were abstinent for so long and nonetheless relapsed. Is porn addiction really never leaving the system?

 

I am from India, the situation is more than worst here and I am sure it will be more after 3rd July as well. God bless all.

 

I have to consider that I was a pmo addict for decades, I can't therefore expect a life without urges or relapses overnight, it could take just as long to undo the damage.

I just take every clean day as a massive positive step towards my goal of clarity and freedom from addiction.

I'm currently on a new streak of over 2 months but unlike me this is not in isolation, in the last year I have relapsed only a couple of times and have had many long periods of abstinence. Yes, I still get strong urges, it's tough and I don't know if these will ever go away, but I know I have to carry on, the benefits are worth it.

Good luck everyone, don't give up and no matter what keep bouncing back.

 

In retrospect would you say there was early warning signs that were ignored?

 

Porn addiction can be very difficult to break free from - depends on the individual and other factors, such as duration of addiction, underlying mental health issues (eg. depression/anxiety), diet, exercise and lifestyle. Find what your own weaknesses and triggers to relapse are and patiently work on those. In my limited experience there is no quick fix, I just get up every day and read my own motivational document as to why I should not relapse today and then spend at least 15 minutes on NoFap to help orientate myself for the day ahead. Coming to this forum has prevented me from relapsing MANY times.
All the best and remember we are all here for you - you can do this!

 

The best advice I can give you is try to stuck on a reason why you wanna quit this trash habit... Started nofap because I couldn t enjoy having sex with girlfriend and that s bad... because I am sexually attracted to her, I love her a lot.
Everytime I get a urge I am thinking about my girlfriend, I am thinking about the moments I felt embarrassed, especially those moments when I couldn t keep my thing up...
If you do nofap without knowing what did to you then is hard to stick to nofap.
Once you have a real reason and you re aware of how bad this is, you ll stop counting days. You will feel completely free from porn.

 

How did you heal your dopamine receptors during those 2 years? Feel that brain fog too.

 

You aren't Superman. It's a drag but it does not take anything away from all the good stuff you have done. This lock down really is hard. I feel like I have lost so much motivation and I look even worse than usual! The next few days are crucial: Don't fall for that, "Well, I failed so I may as well relapse again" line of thinking!! You've got this, man! 180 days is really admirable.