what do YOUR triggers signify

this recovery process definitely has some universal rules about it, but in a lot of ways our problems are as unique as we are. Our experiences, especially our repeated ones, create mental pathways that keep us stuck in a rut if we dont proper re-orient our lives.

I want to talk about some of the things ive learned by studyiny my own triggers and what I think they say about my specific struggles, but I also want to hear from others and how OUR experience with these issues is flavored by our unique experiences.

What ive recently figured out is that a well trodden mental state of my own is one of feeling powerless and inadequate around hot women, especially familiar ones like in school or now my workplace. thing is ive been married for almost 10 years, but havent properly re-trained my mind to feel the reality of that enduring victory. this has helped me realize just how much i need to retrain my mind to appreciate what i have and properly realize that i am no longer that loser i used to be.

it takes years to retrain your headspace, and i feel conceptualizing the struggle in this way has helped give proper scope, put momentary lapses in the broader context of gradual recovery with steady efforts.

what has any of you found to be the most problematic things you've struggle to elimate or come to terms with? what parts of your life are making progress difficult?

 

Whats funny is that Super Smash Bros. Ultimate actually helped me a lot during my first really long 100+ day streak.

If i had the right mindset that i am playing online to get better, to get challenged, and for the love of the game, it would greatly swing my mood in the right direction. the danger was if my mindset was "i need some wins to feel better" it would usually make my mood worse and i wouldnt play as well.

it is very much about identifying EVERY dumb thing you do, especially as it relates to our mindset.

good share! laziness is indeed a huge problem for most of us

 

the habits of basic survival are all many of us learn when suffering a difficult existence. different things trigger memories of such a life perhaps not fully left behind. we run the risk of letting a small difficulty be seen by us as an all too familiar road block, then we abandon determination and mentally slip back into that existence.

we will never life without a world that resists our ambition, perhaps this is the trick of avoiding the lax, that we moderate how much fight we put up such that we do not tire. what pace can we maintain FOREVER?

 

I think one thing to is how we glorify the best of the best, school trains you for obedience and getting your status from other people.

I think when people talk about loving yourself what they are really saying indirectly is that you are worthy of self respect, but the challenge is for those of us who havent gotten much from the outside.