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I’m tired of this.

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by IchiGin2, May 3, 2020.

  1. IchiGin2

    IchiGin2 Fapstronaut

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    I’ve been on NoFap for around 40 days. I was originally on a strict hard mode that lacked junk food and looking at pictures/talking to girls on dating apps, but after a certain breaking point of anger I’ve just gone back to doing those things and struggling not to masturbate. I want to cum more than anything in the world, but I swore I wouldn’t without just having an actual girl and losing my virginity. I continuously approach girl after girl in real life and get rejected every single time. Girls in dating apps (and in real life for that matter) both now and before nofap stand me up or just lie and play games in my face. I’ve yet to lose my virginity at fucking all and this fucking burning inside me keeps continuing. I’ve considered a prostitute endless amounts of times and if I continue getting angrier and angrier with more rejection, I feel like it wouldn’t even be beyond me to rape. I’m so fucking tired of this desire, I just want one girl to have sex with me.
     
  2. Ok first of all you need to step back and take a breath. Talking about being willing to rape a girl just to get laid is so beyond anything that is even remotely ok, it’s not even funny to say mockingly. You are angry, obviously, but your mad for the wrong reasons and your anger is misdirected. You are 19 right? So let’s put some things in perspective here. You’ve been out of high school about a year right? Before that you’ve been in the dating game what, 3 years? You can’t drive in most states till 16 so that’s being generous. You are literally at the beginning of your dating life, THE start! Do You think that you or any other person your age even remotely knows what they want? Extremely rare few do and even then the person you are today will be drastically different when your 23, and then 27 and so on.

    Your not owed a single fucking thing in this world. and the quicker you realize that the quicker you can start working to become the best version of you and attract the things you want. Take a long look in the mirror figure out what it is exactly you see. You think you need woman in your bed to confirm your worth? Coming onto a forum speaking about needing to get laid to a bunch of porn and sex addicts, to you understand how ignorant and misdirected you sound?
    If your getting pissed right about now and thinking about how your going to tell me off, good! You need to understand how completely you are missing the point of NoFAP.

    You will attract woman when you have your shit together.
    You will get your shit together when you find your self worth
    You will find your self worth when you begin to accept yourself where you are now and then work toward becoming the man you envision yourself being.
    What does that look like to you huh? Write it down. Write down and visualize it, and then work for it.
    Is it positive body image?
    Is it changing up your clothing choices?
    Is it working on your verbal game so you can talk with females without coming off as desperate?
    What hobbies are you developing?
    What skills are you making?
    Are you making your own living?
    Some of thee ugliest bastards I have ever met got some truly beautiful woman to date them and it was all because they were confident and independent. None of that fake confidence a real woman sees right through that.

    Look man, I’m not here to judge, I’m here to push you to ask yourself some deep personal questions and figure out why you think you need to have sex to be ok.
    Because I got news for you, it’s not going to change the deeper reason why you are so angry inside. I understand you want to be desired, that’s human nature but see this. YOU are not owed anything from a woman, nothing. If you want to find happiness you need to first find yourself. What does that look like? After that you will start attracting the right women for you. Right now your just looking begging for anything and that shows to women! They sense that a mile away.
    I’m going to be 30 this year and let me tell you, I never attracted any good to my life by simply getting laid. It didn’t make me a better person, it didn’t help me figure shit out or find out why I also was so angry and unable to maintain relationships. It took deep self-work to fix that, no one else can give that to you. Stop projecting onto women, start looking inside. Work on your emotional state and your outward state will reflect it.
    Also, be kind to yourself ok. It’s going be happen. work in yourself and hold yourself responsible for everything that happens in your life. Response-able.
     
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  3. Also as a 19 year old in a similar situation this is some of the best advice I have read.
     
  4. kevinjeter

    kevinjeter Fapstronaut

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    Take any girl you can . Fat ugly , a crack head just to do it . I got drunk in Vegas once and not having sex for months I had sex with an old ugly crackhead lady
     
  5. kevinjeter

    kevinjeter Fapstronaut

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    Sounds like you need game check out the guy named good looking loser
     

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