After 1 year and 2 months, still have DE

I am getting married soon and I worry about this too. I've only been doing nofap for 51 days and have no way to know if it will be a problem or not but I'm hoping that doing a full reboot before I get married will help start things off right.

 

For what it's worth this is my suggestion. Try to concentrate on your wife's pleasure. Have a little penetrative sex then turn your attention to your wife again.
Then return to penetration, repeat. Stop and slow everything down. Pour a glass of wine perhaps. Break things up and go to the toilet, enjoying the sensation of wandering around the house in your birthday suit.
Men can be very greedy when it comes to sex. This situation is obviously exacerbated by porn which is very largely fixated on male pleasure and ends with the male orgasm.
If you can't come you will happy to know you have had a happy intimate experience. Your wife will probably be happy.

 

Ah Man, I can relate to this a lot.

I didn't realize my masturbation technique, growing up, was both horrible and unnatural (from sexual intercourse perspective).

With my first girlfriend of 7 years, I never O'd during intercourse but due to DE, only a handjob, after a long time would help me reach the point. There were multiple times where I would finish myself at the end, feeling horrible for making her work for that long.

Last year, for the first time (2 times actually), I O'd during intercourse with no hands involved.

Here is what I did that I believe helped me:
* Communicated with my partner that only during intercourse I am allowed to O. This meant multiple times not being able to finish. This I believe is the most important (and frustrating).
* Didn't focus on any fantasies but only on the feeling of being inside of her. I think they talk about Karezza in other threads, you may want to look into that.
* I took a bit of control, to reach the point, and I was trying a bit more to O as well rather than keep things inside. So mentally, not pressuring but when I was enjoying the feeling, I tried to reach the point.

Other things I can probably guess that would help, use lubrication possibly that might help and find positions that might be the most helpful. I am not going to state what worked for me, to prevent any triggers for others but try different to see where you feel relaxed.

 

not sure if i can answer about wet dreams but your method to solve DE might be counter intuitive. you may want to consider other birth control methods to prevent an accident.

 

I have the same problems. Never came from a Bj . Only able to cum from sex if the girl fits my big tit or big ass fetish and that’s still rare that I cum only one girl I smashed where I’d cum in like a min and she was the ugliest girl I ever had sex with