35 and Older Accountability Group

1 year is an incredible accomplishment. You are an inspiration to us. I hope soon that you will tell us a little about how you compare now to a year ago. I enjoy people's success stories.

 

I made it past 30 days. Which is something I haven't been able to do in years. My motivation is for something good to come out of this Coronavirus lock-down. I have already felt my anxiousness decrease and my metal clarity improve. Looking forward to emerging from this lock-down stronger than ever.

 

Congrats! This is a huge achievement! Hopefully your urges are subsiding now and you can focus on the mental aspects of Recovery from P

 

Day 11. I’m happy for all the success in the group right now. I think overcoming our weaknesses during COVID will be a huge help in the long run.

Being home so much while locked down is a bad situation for PM. Basically most of the reasons someone might turn to the crutch of PM seem present.

I am not one to believe in a magical easy solution any longer, but when I finally get rid of PM from my life, I expect to look back at the lessons learned now as some of the most important.

I’m glad to see all the growing strength and resolve in the group!

 

I'm finally at 2 days. I must succeed this week. I read online that Porn Induced ED isn't real in a lot of places. But I know it is. I know what effects me and what happens if I don't use porn for a week. I have to get there again.

 

It is. A man after my own heart. My hero

 

One last note on this- in the Yale course, they also reference a study where researchers analyzed silver and bronze medal winners in the Olympics (who competed against each other in the same events). They had a large sample size, from Olympics going back to the 90's I think. Since so much TV footage exists, they had participants rate the looks on their faces both immediately after learning that they had won the bronze or silver and also while on the platform receiving their medal. They gave a score for how happy or unhappy they looked.

Overall, the bronze medal winners looked overwhelmingly happier than the silver winners. The reasoning is that the silver medalists were referencing themselves against the gold medal winners, thinking about how they just missed the gold. Meanwhile, the bronze medalists were referencing themselves against the #4 finisher, and thinking about how they almost didn't get a medal at all and are lucky just to place.

 

About to get all nerdy and historical on you GBF. A fancy way to say what you just said would be 'resolution and becoming fortitude,' which brings me to one of my favorite quotes. I actually have this quote sitting on my dresser and it has been there for years. This comes from Meriwether Lewis, of the Lewis and Clark expedition, in his journal as they came across a particularly challenging moment of the journey:

"We all believe that we are now about to enter on the most perilous and difficult part of our voyage. Yet I see no one repining. All appear ready to meet those difficulties which await us with resolution and becoming fortitude. And all appear perfectly to have made up their minds to succeed in the expedition or perish in the attempt."

Let that be us!

By the way, the expedition was named 'The Corps of Discovery' by Thomas Jefferson. Just sayin'.

 

Let's all be the silver linings! With so much misery coming out of this thing, let's be something to offset the hardship to some degree.

 

My irritability is subsiding and giving way to perspective. I’m horny as hell too, but I now feel like I can just watch my urges without constantly feeling that I’m being overwhelmed by them.

I’m working on day 17 today. Just a hop, skip, and a jump from 30.

 

That's great to see. Will love to see you hit 30.

 

I hope you are all fine and healthy guys.
I would like to share a nice meditation file i found on youtube which i feel it could be helpful
- Brain training: stop watching porn.

The lockdown is over till Monday here, most business are open (excpept big malls and bars,clubs,coffee shops).
I am working from home anyway but i hope it will make a difference for me.
It's good to see that most members here managed to get through it.I remember a month back the list of our names on the first page was looking like a disaster

I feel like lockdown did a lot of damage to me and my fight to get rid of this addiction and it happened on a moment that i was feeling really good and i have started to have some good results.I am not even close back to were i was before the lockdown.It's not that i had huge streaks it's more about the focus and the clarity i had.I need some more time to get it back i guess.

 

Great quote and user name back story. I love it!

I had what I call a medium storm last night. Couldn’t sleep on top of that but I gave no ground.

It has been a PM nightmare scenario.

I know what you mean about clear minds. I had been feeling better but I’m feeling cloudy again last night and today. I look forward to getting back to a clear mind once I push through this little storm.

 

I'm at 3 days. Probably will be hard for me today. Trying to make this my goto site instead of a porn/chat site. It's like I still need something to check in on.
I was reading an article about porn addiction (on a news site, not here) and all of the comments were guys saying 'How can someone spend more than 5 minutes looking at porn'. They have no idea how bad it can get.

 

You will notice lots of us doing the same thing lol. I use it as a time to redirect and remind myself that it’s important. I replaced mindless internet time (which usually didn’t end in PM for me but was always wasted time) with a quick <5 min check in a few times a day.

I normally don’t let myself post more than once a day here but I had a storm so I am lol. I think I just got through it. I’m starting to feel better.

 

Friday check in.

Have a great weekend everyone.

 

Having a bit of an argument with my wife. Nothiing important but I almost went to a chatroom to let my mind go free, but fought it off.
Still going strong even in stress.

 

Dude you are rocking it. Stay humble and committed and this could be the streak! The one we are all looking forward to. The one that never ends.

 

Awesome progress. Now you have a trigger to watch out for and the experience in seeing it’s not overpowering. I’m trying to build my collection of those too.

 

Sorry for posting guys. If you pay attention you may have noticed in the past I had storms that I could not defeat. Some felt too powerful.

silly stuff lol. I see they are an illusion. I will not fall feeling overwhelmed to storms any more. I think I probably have other weaknesses I don’t know about yet but this was the one I actually feared.

sorry for the million posts today. It was a milestone day for me in learning what I need to do to I get PM out of my life forever.