I overcame my fear of approaching girls (2years NoFap)

I wish you the same. Take care of yourself

 

Oh man it may be a coincidence but i'm planning to build a youtube channel after quarantine. I really wanna help men overcoming their fears of talking to girls in the future. It makes a lot of sense to me and I hope to make this dream come true

Thanks btw. take care

 

To be honest with you, I didn't even know about NoFap when I started. I put so much effort into my actions that stopping masturbation was almost natural. I was just running from instant gratification and wanted to avoid it at all costs. I can't tell you when I started to see the benefits. NoFap was just part of a whole process. Not the process itself.

I took action. I've approached hundreds and hundreds of girls. I've failed, over, and over again. I've questioned myself. Until I figured out how I could express to the girls who I really am deep down inside. There's no skill to acquire. We already have everything we need within us. We just have negative, limiting beliefs that prevent us from expressing ourselves fully. It's a process that goes beyond getting better with girls...

To be honest, I don't know. I was with a friend who pushed me into action.I just cut my thoughts off and accepted that my life could be better someday. Yeah, it was hard. Getting out of my comfort zone to go talk to a girl on the street was extremely difficult at first.
I had to accept that I didn't know anything, that I was bound to screw up someday. But I knew that inaction is worse than rejection and failure.
I learned so much. So much about myself, about other people, about the world. This process is beyond comprehension and I can't describe it all in words.
All I can tell you is that there is no "how". You just have to do it.

I started at day 0. I even remember I masturbated twice the night before because I was too stressed lol. I started with a self-confidence close to zero. I wanted to stop waiting to be better with myself before I started. Because deep down, I knew I was never going to be ready. I learned that you get ready by practicing. So, yeah, at first, it's bound to be very difficult. NoFap played an important role but it was maybe 10% of the whole process. Maybe even less. It was the easiest thing compared to approaching girls on the street, in shops, at parties etc.

Wow thanks I don't know what to say I don't consider myself as a pro. I still feel like a beginner. It's a never ending process. But yeah each person can change his or her life if he or she chooses to do so and decides to see things as they really are.

I wish you the best and a happy, fulfilling life friend.

 

I really identify with the way you see things. It goes beyond the superficial side of things. The way you express yourself shows that you've also had to go through a lot.

@cakewalk
I don't approve pick up artists at all. Their activity is based on sexual and emotional misery of single men. Their way of doing things in general is very superficial and very result-based. They don't see women as human beings but as objects. It has nothing to do with what I want to convey through this post.

Of course it's really hard to change in a year. But it all depends on what you think is possible or not. It depends on our limiting beliefs.
My main long term objectives through this process are:

- Destroy my negative and limiting beliefs
- No longer be afraid of other people's gaze
- Overcoming my fears
- Becoming more honest with myself and with people
- Making beautiful encounters
- Being able to express my desire for a girl simply and honestly
- Realize that I'm enough
- Knowing who I really am deep down inside. Without all these mental projections.
- Developing my authenticity
- Making the world a better place
- Helping people around me and spreading happiness

I'm sure I forgot some of them. But I think you get the idea. To be honest with you. I couldn't have changed if I'd just stopped masturbating. I don't hide the fact that nofap only takes a small part of my efforts. Maybe I misspoke in my original post because I was full of emotion.

Anything is possible. Wherever you are in your life. This process can really change you, make you happier, more fulfilled and make the world a better place.

“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.”
— Henry Ford

Take care

 

My friends who are also in this process call me "Spiritus". Because I have a vision of the process very centered on psychology and spirituality. I have always had this need to push and understand the meaning of things.

I think that this could set me apart from many coaches who focus on the superficial side. While this is something that goes far beyond appearances.

I think it will take time. But I want to make it happen in the next few years. I will give everything I have to help people accept themselves as they are and overcome their fears. I think this can really make the world a better place.

Thanks for your words. Take care

 

Yeaah man i'm happy to hear that ! Your life becomes an adventure in which you're your own hero..
No, I don't know this guy. I'll take a look at his work

I don't have enough experience to fully answer that question. However, I do know 3 things

- You can't help these people. Yes, you can give them advice, but it's up to them to make the decision to change.And if they don't have the courage, there's nothing you can do. It's sad to say, but this process of personal development is not for everyone. We have to accept it.

- You have to put youself first in life. Your goals have to be your priority. You have to take care of yourself as you would take care of your own child. This includes cutting off contact with toxic people and moving towards what is important to you no matter what happens.

- You don't deal with them, they are not your friends. A real friend doesn't try to drag you down. Even though you've had a great time with him and you've known him for years. He's not your friend. There are so many people out there who share the same values, who are sources of inspiration and who share their love for themselves to the world.

In the beginning, it's really hard to apply these principles because you don't realize your value. You don't know who you are. But through rejection, through getting out of your comfort zone, you're going to learn who you are. You learn to say no, to be authentic. You let go of the outside world and everything that's happening to you because no matter what happens, you are who you are. You stop clinging to people who aren't worth it.

 

Oh, my God, you got me! I've been selling the new "supersayan" RSD program for two weeks at $2000. I hope you'll buy it