Small penis...

Yes, you should bring it up with your therapist.

It is going to be difficult to bring up and it will be embarrassing. I can't think of anyway to bring it up without it being a bit embarrassing.

However, here is an idea:

Write it down on a piece of paper. Just one or two lines: "I want to talk about a few very personal sexual issues. 1. Small Penis 2. Issues I have are _______ and _________. 3. Excessive masturbation is causing me to have these issues: ______, _______ and _______

You will have to fill in the blanks of course.

Give the therapist your paper at the very start of your session. Don't wait until the middle or near the end because it will make it easier to just not give him the paper.

Tell him you will want the note back and that he can't keep it. He'll write down his own notes. But at least it won't be your paper. Then, shred the paper when you get home.

Your therapist won't be embarrassed about what is on the paper. That isn't what is keeping you from bringing up the issues. So, it most likely won't help that your therapist won't be embarrassed.

For therapy to work I've found that two things are important for me. I have to bring up what is bothering me even if it is embarrassing and I have to have a plan of action to work on. If I can't figure out how to work on the problem during the week in between sessions with my therapist, then I don't get as much out of it.

You deserve real help, real answers and real ways to work on your feelings. The group here is great and other sites as well. But, you have a professional to work with and I say use that person to help you.

 

I've had penis anxiety since my early teens. I remember feeling some inadequacy when a couple of my friends told me their erect measurements. Sure they could have been embellishing, but it didn't matter to me … and it didn't help that every porn actor's penis was larger than mine. Although it's not big by any means, I do feel better about my fully erect penis than when it's flaccid, but obviously PMO gets in the way of easy-to-achieve strong erections. When soft I feel like I've got this floppy little breakfast sausage protruding from my groin; I often notice disparaging thoughts about it while I'm having a pee or simply undressing. I will say this though -- I had far less negative body image thoughts during my two or three longer stretches away from porn.

The thing about penis size anxiety is that for the most part it's pretty irrational and often delusional. I'm a 40 year old guy but in very good shape for my age, trim body, handsome face, full head of hair, etc … and yet I often feel anxious and insecure because in my mind a bodily appendage is lacking by one inch. To allow one inch of perceived penile deficit to overshadow so many other attractive qualities, both mental and physical, is completely ridiculous. And yet those disparaging thoughts still play in the background of my mind like an old record.

 

This is one of the top ten best posts I've ever read on any self-help forum. Not because of the topic rather, because of both the honesty and the insightfulness.

You are correct about the size of an actor in P. Only 1 in 90 men have more than 7" and yet oddly it seems every pizza delivery guy, plumber, gardener and next-door neighbor in a P movie has 7" or more.

The reason is simple, they have to get the camera stuck somewhere in there and a bigger penis helps the filmmaker. But, it creates a very false idea of what most men have in reality.

I used to live in a city where I took the train to work 90 minutes in each direction. During rush hour, it was very crowded. I made it my mission to see what percentage of people on the train looked like actors in Hollywood movies. The answer was that almost none looked like that. Still, Hollywood movies give people the impression that they are not good looking enough.

Having done quite a bit of therapy myself, one lesson I've learned is "never compare my insides to other peoples' outsides." It's so easy for me to do. The guy I work next to has a much nicer car than I do, the guy I play poker with always has an expensive watch, my friend has a super hot wife. All of that might be true, but the guy with the nice car might be struggling to make his car payment, the guy with the Tag watch might have gotten when his beloved grandfather passed and he'd give anything to go fishing with his gramps again, the guy with the super hot wife might be cheating on her and the divorce just hasn't been announced yet.

@OCPD thank you for this post. It reminds me of so many things I need to do every day to (and all day long) to remind myself that I have self-worth.

I was born with self-worth and nobody can take it away from me. Lots of people and institutions want to judge my actions. A policeman might judge my driving and issue me a ticket, in school I was graded on my achievements in every class, churches (of all flavors) want to judge me based on their belief systems, my doctor puts me on a scale and comments on my eating habits based on my weight and blood levels.

Yet, I try to remember that they are only judging my actions and not my self-worth. Notice I said "try". I'm not perfect at it and often feel very much "less than" because I compare myself to others or allow myself to equate actions with self-worth.

There is a word that has come into our lexicon to describe a man's penis, scrotum and testicles. That word is "junk". At first, I bristled at it because I don't think of my genitals as trash. But, as time went by I took the word and, at least in my head, I use it to remind myself that it is in no way my "manhood". I still can't quite get all the way to the point of thinking of it as "junk" but, I can use that word to make sure I don't compare what I have with what an actor in a P movie has. I am right there in both the normal and the average mark and still, it's easy to feel "less than" because, like you, I can't measure up to what P tells me I'm supposed to have.

Thanks again @OCPD