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37 year old, cant stay hard during sex

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Prak.prak, May 9, 2020.

  1. Prak.prak

    Prak.prak Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys, I wanted to share my story and ask if any of you have gone through similar phase and how long your reboot took. I am 37 year old and married for 7 years now. 6 months ago I started experiencing ED only while having sex. I don’t have multiple partners and am loyal to just 1 woman. I used to watch porn on average 3 to 4 times a week. It happened a few more times where I could not stay hard during sex but could get an erection and masturbate while watching porn. After researching and finding this community I decided to stop porn for good. I went about 30 days without porn which seemed to have healed me, I was able to enjoy sex and stay hard. I even felt the intensity and my libido response was much better after not having watched porn for 30 days. But I relapsed and went back to old habits. During the days we did not have sex I watched porn to masturbate since I was hard and my wife was not in the mood those days. This relapse seems to have brought back PIED, I can’t stay hard during sex. I have again stopped watching porn now for over 30 days but still can’t maintain an erection while having sex. I am not sure how long this reboot will take. I am certain besides PIED I have performance anxiety since I feel terrible every time I can’t maintain an erection during intercourse. My wife is supportive but I feel like I am letting her down.
     
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  2. Similar story to mine, I got minor PIED end of 2018. I Can get it up for sex fine, but not as solid as before. I'm only 34 as well.
     
  3. seeking change

    seeking change Fapstronaut

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    Mine is a bit more extreme case than yours. I have PIED and performance anxiety too I feel. Struggle to get erection and have to use pills. When you relapse you feel bad. And you feel like you are letting your wife down.
     
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  4. Sorry to hear bud, yes relapsing is awful. Us addicts sometimes feel it is beyond our control, best thing you can do is take it slowly , with wife at ur side.
    Maybe try karezza too.

    And also, remember 90 days might seem impossible but it's nothing in the grand scheme of things!
     
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  5. seeking change

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    Thanks bro.30 years old here. Relapsing
    is really hard for us addicts. And then you feel guilty. Best is do one step at a time. Like you said. Having wife's support definitely helps. Will look into karezza !

    90 days is final aim. I am going to take it slow. First go one week then one month then 90 days !! In the end it will be all worth it for sure. :)
     
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  6. Prak.prak

    Prak.prak Fapstronaut

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    Karezza sounds interesting. I am also trying our natural supplements like ginseng and goat weed to see if that helps in meantime. Let’s all make it to 90 days and then longer. Ultimately I don’t ever want to watch porn.
     
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