Can't Cum during sex but can when PMO

Nervousness and alcohol are two possible causes, i remember myself the first time i did sex it was really hard to cum because i was really nervous and another time because i was drunk

 

Maybe it's all on your mind dude, try to stay calm and enjoy every moment, if you think about it during sex most likely will affect you. Let yourself free and be yourself.

 

It is a common problem caused by PM, it is called Delayed ejaculation, or DE for short. It happened to me and it was also combined with periods of erectile dysfunction. In my fifth attempt at nofap (18 days), I was able to cum. I read the main reason for DE is mental rather than physical, and it is also caused by the desensitization of the penis. But the biggest problem is in our brains since we changed our normal desires for women with p*rn, and we can get aroused enough with a woman as with p*rn. And it gets worst if you were into extreme genres of p*rn.
But our brains are flexible and nofap definitely works.

 

I have DE since I started having sex when I was 20 (after 6 years of p*rn and masturbation). The first time I cum during sex was after my fifth attempt of nofap, when I was 22.

 

Yes, I relapsed 4 times, before the fifth attempt. I am counting as attempts only the streaks longer than 7 days. I had several streaks of about 4 days, but I think they were not good enough. In addition, I don't remember how many, and how long those small streaks were. I was half of the last year in no-PMO and a half in relapses. I struggled a lot in breaking that cycle. It was horrible. I wouldn't recommend that way because it was like going uphill and falling, all the time.

 

Telltale sign of a PMO problem. I've had this too and it's the worst thing ever. The amount of shame and guilt, all of it. Read the studies and other people's stories, it will answer your questions.

 

How effective are the sensation gels for this? do they increase the sensitivity during sex? I've seen them advertised next to condoms but never bought it.

 

Hi mate just want to tell you that I had the exact same experience as you and it is absolutely what you suspect it is. Excessive masturbation, porn, and throw in a bit of anxiety too (worsened by the fact you know you can't finish).

There is only one solution. You need to quit porn and masturbation for at least 3 months. It can be more or less for the person, but that's the jist of it. I had been 5 months clean before I was fully able to cum during sex.

Please quit as soon as you can. It's so not worth allowing this stuff to keep robbing you of a healthy normal sex life that every young person deserves. Real sex is so, so much better than PMO. While your mind is wired by porn, you view it the other way around - you want PMO instead of sex. I'll never forget the first time I had sex after 5 months of NoFap, it was the most incredible thing and I could literally not hold back an orgasm - it was the experience I was supposed to have when I lost my virginity at 17.

Quit now, good luck!!!!

 

Please tell me how big are the differences between your real sexual(not "the digital one") partener and your porn(the porn actresses) and how different are the dynamics of your sexual life with a person and the porn(what kind of porn... is this violent one? is this involving more partners? are involved sexual acts which you can not practice in real life? etc etc...) And how much porn do/did you watch and how many times do you PMO/MO? Maybe there are some psychological issues caused by porn use and unreal expectations from real life.

Hope you get that intention is to help you in some way and I am sorry for my bad english.