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I don't see the point

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by azlife, May 11, 2020.

  1. azlife

    azlife New Fapstronaut

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    Day 224 of NoFap, porn or sex.
    I read that some of the promised results are confidence, social skills, motivation, energy, opposite sex attraction, deeper voice and more, which none of them i have changed nor gained.
    - I still press the snooze and it takes me hours to wake up and about 2 cups of coffee and XL
    - Lost motivation for eating and training (i wouldn't say that im depressed)
    - Lost sexual drive. Sometimes i feel bad about not getting laid for so long but i dont feel like dating or trying.
    - Oh yeah, i don't have deeper voice..
    - I don't feel change about attracting woman. makes it hard to know to be honest because I don't get out of my house lately

    well most of the time it feels like a waste of time and honestly i kept going only because it makes you feel special that you could hold for so long and it doesn't really worth it.
    I do feel like im on the edge right now of stopping
    but, i will "sleep on it" and wake up and see if someone in this community felt like this and have any realization that he could share with me.
     
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  2. AssaultHaund

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    Hey pal.
    It is great to see you last so long!
    But to be honest, Nofap is a is a core habit that you build more habits on it. You cannot possibly expect that you will become what you want to become because you didn't fap for a X amount of time.
    You need to get out more, be social and improve yourself.
    And also, you won't get a deeper voice. I don't really know who came up with this stupid idea.
    Please note- everyone here have a different set of gowls for nofap.
    For me, I want to have sexual attraction to girls in real life and cure my fetishes.
    I don't expect to be fully motivated alll day, nor to every girl that I talk to will want to have sex with me.
    Just lower you expectations and see what progress you had since you stopped masturbating.
     
  3. + Wake your ass up and do something man, stop bitch about every fucking things.
    + Why do you think you just need to sit on your sofa, watching netflix all days, waiting 24 hour to write some fucking shit on the fucking website and then someday you wake up and have deeper voice. You fucked man
    + You lost more than 200 calories each times you cum => Fapping 3 times a day equal and work out for 3.5 hour and how do you feel after 3.5 hour of working out =>You almost die
    + May be you in Flatline state and it last long 30days - 3 years.
    + I don't believe in motivation, motivation is not what you have or your passion. Motivation is what you struggle to earn it, solving problems until one day you master it, problems disapear.
     
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  4. Atila

    Atila Fapstronaut

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    Do you have a source for that?
     
  5. LethalSlim

    LethalSlim Fapstronaut

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    This sounds rude, but my honest guess, is this person made this account just to come and troll people that are trying to better themselves.?? 200+ days is insane and if you were actually addicted then you've done tons of things to better yourself in your life and you'd be hella proud for coming out of that addiction. There are literally 0 negatives to staying away from PM.

    P literally completely F's up your brain and your emotions, you can't really reach happiness if you're regularly watching it. If you are being real about everything, then ya I would just say keep looking at things that you can do to better yourself. Get out and do stuff, be giving and kind to people, accomplish things. It would only feel great!
     
  6. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    He might not get a deeper voice but my husband most definitely did! So noticeable that my parents said something! My husband also has way more hair, stronger jaw line and look more masculine. His dick is bigger and better looking. He just looks so much healthier.
     
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  7. Zodiacx

    Zodiacx New Fapstronaut

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    I mean is nofap the only thing ur doing? Nofap is like the start of a tiny snowball where you add more productive habits as you keep rolling.

    Also, all humans are different. Not everyone is going to experience all the benefits of nofap.

    But still, 200+ days is a long time, you should be proud of yourself.
     
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  8. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    So many of you think 200 days is a lot. Most of you have been addicts for YEARS! It may seem like a lot, but really it’s only a beginning. I’m still seeing huge changes in my husband at a year and 5 months clean. I do understand that for the addict who can barely make a week this seems like a lot, but for those of us who are not addicts, this is only a drop in the bucket.
     
  9. Is this supposed to be helpful, non-addict?
     
  10. Zodiacx

    Zodiacx New Fapstronaut

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    You are definitely right. At the perspective of a hardcore addict, each day goes by excruciatingly slow, especially during the beginning.

    However, it is nice to see that there are benefits you notice after over a year. How long was your husband addicted? Also were the benefits you noticed gradual or immediate?
     
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  11. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    Yes, it is. Just because you don’t “see” progress at 200+ days does not mean there isn’t any or there won’t be any. It’s like losing weight. You don’t put on 100 pound in a week so you won’t lose it in a week.
     
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  12. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    He’s 51 years old, addicted for 40 years. We didn’t notice anything until after about 4 months clean. It was painfully slow and still is. However, I see the progress more than he does, to be honest. It’s like watching someone lose weight, your friends notice before you do.
     
  13. Your probably stressed. Porn is only part of the problem, get out of your house into the sun. Work on good habits. If it persists see a doctor.
     
  14. azlife

    azlife New Fapstronaut

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    First of all thanks for the wake up call, I appreciate it! i wouldn't say i watch netflix all day maybe at night before i sleep. i do take online courses and i started playing the piano. I dont want to get out of the house at this moment because of the virus. but I stopped training and its been time since i read a book. and im a bookworm. makes me feel bad about myself because i remember myself feeling more even if was bad feeling, Being more productive.
    Maybe it is a flatline because everything feels kinda empty and grey around me since I started my journey.
    BTW, the thing about the deeper voice was an extreme example of the "promised results" i don't expect nor care about a deeper voice.

    Well... first thing I would like to make it clear i'm not a troll. It's not my first time trying. This is just the longest one.
    I read a lot of success stories and maybe that's way my expectation were so high. I agree that watching porn does harm and it is a waste of time. Made this post while I was ready feeling down and "sleeping on it" really helped me out. Thank you for your comment.
    As mentioned before, no it is not the only thing i do( i study and play guitar and the piano). its actually the easiest for me. While building a habit requires you to do something on regular basis, this one doesn't. just keep out of porn and instagram and the temptation. Probably I lost the discipline i had back in the military service and became lazy and i need to take baby steps on regaining it. Thank you for your comment!

    Well I can agree that 200 days isn't that much compared to all the years of addiction. I can assume that 200 days could have a different affect on each and individual person. because everyone here isn't the same and probably had different level of addiction.
    So I don't know what that says about me. I'm kinda in a position that I mostly don't think about it and some times I feel down like I did when I posted this. Maybe I'm not addicted that much? i don't know...

    I agree so much with you. Even through i had seen a doctor back when I was in the military service I didn't really felt any change after a year and after an examination with a psychiatrist they came to conclude that i don't have depression. Just felt good expressing myself for one hour but other than that... nothing.
     
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  15. I hear you brother, one negative of this movement is that people fail to recognize any other factor. Stress is the number one ED cause I believe. PIED is absolutely a factor and no doubt causes stress but you have to think of libido and penis health as multiple systems working together. Honestly the old adage is if it's good for your heart it's good for your penis is still true. Stress is not often talked about as you can't really measure it but it's absolutely a game changer in my opinion. I can't control everything but I control what I can control in my life, I started doing some meditation as well which helped me out as well as I have always worked in shift work high stress jobs where I can't control a lot. Lack of sleep and shitty hours caused boredom and fatigue which led to porn. I focused on building good habits and reducing useless stressors (bad eating, running around last minute because I didn't schedule things or plan, getting to bed to late, bringing work problems home). You don't have to be radical just be intent I suppose.
     

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