My step towards a healthy sexual relationship with my wife.

I am 44 years old. Although I am in my mid-forties, I married for the first time 4 years ago. Before I was married I was in many failed relationships that had never lasted longer than a few months since I was in high school. I met my wife two years before we married and I married her because I know that my wife is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Prior to meeting my wife I had been fapping at least once a day, sometimes up to 10 times a day since I was ten or eleven years old. I never knew anything different nor did I ever think I was doing anything wrong, even when my dad told me that it was a sin and I would go to hell for it when I was a teenager.
When internet porn was introduced I still did not have enough access to it since the computers I had were desktops and were located in common areas in my apartment and it was a bit inconvenient for me.
Then came the introduction of broad band wi-fi enabled phones. That and my discovery of pornhub and other free websites that had plenty of access to all sorts of porn. I got this phone about that same year I met my wife. She is very open to male and female fap and had no problems with me accessing porn to fap.
But, as time went by I started to find myself becoming less and less sexually interested in my wife and more interested in porn. I thought it may be that I was getting old, but why would I still get hard and sustain an erection during PMO? I didn't get the correlation of the two until yesterday (more on that later).My wife started to feel that I had no interest in her and she confronted me with it. I did everything to try and correct the mistake, I saw a therapist, I saw my doctor an started testosterone therapy and ED pills. The testosterone therapy worked for a short time but didn't last, the ED pills did the same thing.
Yesterday as I was browsing the internet for porn, I came upon this site by accident. This is when I put the two together. I am so grateful to find this site. I always thought that faping was healthy and PMO was just an evolution to the same thing. Porn addiction never occurred to me because I never thought I was obsessed with porn. (Maybe that last statement isn't all true. I recently started to find transgendered person porn quite exciting, I was never into trannys before and I did wonder where this fascination stemmed from. After reading some of the posts here, I now know why.)
So, now I know that I do have an addiction to porn. It has gotten in the way of my relationship with the woman of my dreams. I am excited to try this, I think this will be the answers to my problems with intimacy.
I know this will not be an easy process, but I am ready to do the work. I earlier started the day with a cold shower and some encouraging self affirmations.
I am grateful to have a community like this to keep me on the path.

 

Thank you so much. I set up a counter as you suggested and I will be looking for others to talk to. I used to meditate in the past, I think I will pick that up again.
Again thank you.