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High libido vs Urges

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by kamov, May 17, 2020.

  1. kamov

    kamov Fapstronaut

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    Hello everybody

    I have an interesting question to make and I would like to have someone who can think about this subject.

    We all know that are moments in our day that we spontaneous feel an urge, for some minutos (or more) we find ourselves struggling with high libido, but...

    As far as we know, how can we distinguish Urge from High Libido ?
    I saw some topics and I understand this: an URGE is a moment or moments of our day when we feel a strong need to have an orgasm. High libido it's a feeling, like a state of mind.

    It's an interesting question because high libido and urges can be correlated ? Can they be the same thing ? Are urges product of your brain who tries tricks on us to have that dopamine release we was having for so much years ?

    What do you guys think about that ?
     
  2. OhWhenThe

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    Libido and urges are the same thing as far as I'm concerned.

    I think a lot of guys mistake their urge to look at porn as libido though.
     
  3. kamov

    kamov Fapstronaut

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    Well, they are correlated but in my opinio they are not the same thing, thats why I want to hear another perspective.
    In my opinion, an urge is when your brain all of a sudden begins to "ask" for a high dopamine release like he used to, an urge in my point of view it's not high libido, it's a moment when your brain tries to trick you so you fall into the habit that you are starting to lose.

    High libido in the other hand, in my opinion, similarly to urges, they feel the exact same thing, but High Libido is your body wanting for sex in a more natural way.

    This is my opinion, not based in any scientific fact, but I do think a lot about it. Why urges come in 1 minuto and go in another ? That just dont make sense. If an urge is our impulse to have sex that doesn't feel right to come and go as wave in the ocean.
     
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  4. Psalm27:1my light

    Psalm27:1my light Fapstronaut

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    I agree there is a difference. Otherwise why do so many porn addicts feel “ the urge or need” to look at porn literally right after having sex with their partner?
     
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  5. kamov

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    The fun part is, I don't feel the urge to watch porn nor do I have an urge to masturbate, I do have an urge to orgasm, but they are pretty random, If I do get an erection sometimes that urge comes, I control it, but they just happen random and can be tense. Like now, I'm not erect but I'm feeling an urge to release.

    It's very thin the difference between our brain asking to have that dopamine hit to go back to that old habit or if its just our normal sexual drive
     
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  6. Sicily

    Sicily Fapstronaut

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    Maybe the same. Your reward system can not distinguish the porn on the screen with a real mate
     
  7. ayanaambe115

    ayanaambe115 Fapstronaut

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    In my opinion they are quite different with some similarities.
    Similar because both have a strong desire for sexuality.
    Different because libido is about natural/innate sexual desire. Where as urge is a sexual desire which is opposite to our nature.
     
  8. kamov

    kamov Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, I guess that is it.
    An urge comes randomly and I think it's our brain calling for a high dopamine hit, everytime we resist an urge we kill neuro pathways of PMO. High libido is natural desire, probably its hard to distinguish both but they are different things
     
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  9. Sicily

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    Thank you for telling me this.
     
  10. thinking_differently

    thinking_differently Fapstronaut

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    I think the following there are the following 3 things:
    1. Strong feeling near the Cowper’s gland or so...(Meditation or a workout helps well here)
    2. Mental want, probably Lust..(Worst to control)
    3. Having a feeling to Fap due to aimlessness or distorted intentions, staggering will

    From this:
    I think 1. is urge and 2. Is libido and 3. is probably a subset of 2.
     
  11. kamov

    kamov Fapstronaut

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    And more important that all of this.
    It's when we have the urges and we need to decide what to do next.

    In random days i have some strong urges, like a tension in my balls, fortunately, I can control them. Altough I think i entered a flatline I will do my best to stay away from PMO during 90 days and most certainly the rest of my life.
     
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  12. thinking_differently

    thinking_differently Fapstronaut

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    Physical sensation is relatively easier to resist, what’s hard is mental, So lets BE STRONG MENTALLY and try to make this process of being normal again interesting and fun(just lets do it, its better this way?) and keep discussing deeply about it. We also get to learn a lot in life!
     
  13. pump20

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    Guys, we can still enjoy orgasms, but we don't have to rely on porn and masturbation to get them. Some people can get them by doing exercises called coregasms. We also must enjoy being staying horny because it makes us stronger and the body will get used to it once we master them.
     

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