My reasons to abstain from masturbation

To clarify, masturbation is every sexual stimulation of ones own genitalia (or other spots).
Should I add "deliberately"?

REASON 1
It helps me to reboot my brain and to recover from porn addiction.
If I engage in masturbation I use my sexual imagination which is filled with the porn I've seen. From time to time I do MO in a harmless way, but sooner or later it will ruin my no porn streak as well. I think recovering from porn with or without allowing masturbation is both incredible hard. But it's better (at least try to) keep M at bay.
I mean comeon! As harmless as masturbation might be, how can I properly reboot when I use these porn fantasies all the time?

REASON 2
It is depressing.
Yes, it often makes me sad. I'm not talking about post-orgasm tristesse here (or whatever you call it) but about the dilemma that I fantasize about women while I'm alone. It frustrates me.

REASON 3
A lot of my mental energy, time and effort (i.e. prioritization) goes into a habit that gives me some comfort but is otherwise pretty useless and vain.
If I abandon this habit and get the comfort from other things I'll free up a lot of mental energy and time that I can use in other ways.
From Wikipedia:
Sexual sublimation, also known as sexual transmutation, is the act, especially among some religious traditions, to transform sexual impulses or "sexual energy" into creative energy. In this context, sublimation is the transference of sexual energy, or libido, into a physical act or a different emotion in order to avoid confrontation with the sexual urge, which is itself contrary to the individual's belief or ascribed religious belief. It is based on the idea that "sexual energy" can be used to create a spiritual nature which in turn can create more sensual works, instead of one's sexuality being unleashed "raw."
I believe there's something to it.

REASON 4
It is a distraction from real women.
To get it going with the ladies I have to do more than stop fapping, that's for sure. However, as long as I get my satisfaction through fapping I compensate and use up my sexual urges that should drive me forward to the real thing. Hey! I'm misusing my urges!
Not to mention all the unrealistic scenarios and over-the-top sex scenes that I use to imagine in my head. This isn't imagination that prepares me for real life scenarios, it's just self-entertainment and it is contraproductive.

 

That's not quite right. Well there's some truth to what you say.
Anyway I can tell you that my porn addiction is the major issue here. Porn is the drug, the outer factor. The connection between the three things p, m & o is strong indeed.
But there are also addicts that don't jerk off while watching porn.
I recommend to read this thread which explains how internet porn take effect on our brains.

I don't understand why you tell me that in a thread where I address issues caused by MO (without porn) and find reason to abstain from it. Have you read OP? Or were you refering to things I said elsewhere?

 

another one:

BECAUSE I CAN !

 

Hi Dexter Moran! I'm glad for your answer. Just yesterday I looked back on it feeling the significance it has to me. Good you bumped it!
In my defense, there's definetely a life with M (when single) and without porn/subs and pmo. There are many people out there living like that.
Ok that was my defense line. But I see as well that it is possible to live without both / to get rid of both. So the important question seem to be why continue with M when living without it would be better?

Are p and m linked? Very much so. But when I release urges by MO'ing it's much better when I don't use porn or any content that works as porn for me.

Instead of thinking it through and through, trying it out and doing hard mode for the sake of my recovery would be a much better idea. I just hope I can do so.
The actual point is: I can do it! (can I?)

 

No. But I do meditation, audio-guided most of the time. So I'd like to hear, what is that form of meditation and where can I learn (or download ) it?

 

Thank you and let me congratulate you on 200 days porn free! This is a very special day for you!!! May you enjoy it!


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