Hi from Newbie M/35, recovering from identity crisis

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  1. avatar66

    avatar66 Fapstronaut

    Exhibitionist sissy and transwoman porn-o-holic is where I have ended up in after years of incremental addiction. It has invaded my life, my mind, and my self. I have been trying to get off only to fall back in to it. I want to break free. I hope I can find some fellow souls who I can be open with.
     
  2. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

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    Welcome
    Please, start studying carefully what's happening in your mind > https://oceanrecoverycentre.com/2016/07/the-ultimate-guide-to-overcoming-internet-porn-addiction/

    First time without porn will be stressful , but if you resist , in some months you will feel reborn.

    If the first times a person relapse easly, it's okay.
    The streaks becomes even longer , day by day.
    Don't porn anymore, it's better to struggle and at the last to relapse than to look at porn.
    No more instagram pictures of models. No more erotic imagines , erotic stories or erotic asmr.
    If you experience ''flatline'' and low libido , resist.
    > https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/por...l-size-and-or-libido-are-decreasing-flatline/

    An effective weapon to overcome urges and thoughts : mindfulness.
    The brain will try to win you and to get some triggers for the seek of dopamine. Resist

    To overcome these fetishes , it's good to understand the psychological principle behind them.
    The original shame that was tramuted in excitement the first time you saw it. After that you educated your mind to get aroused by the fetish.
    Real cause is the original insecurities and curiosity , the shame of masturbating with that type of fetish

    It's good to exercise to hyper-rationalize the fetish until you find it boring.
    Empathizing with the people involved .
    Until the association fetish > excitement will be replaced with fetish = bad mood.
     
    Last edited: May 18, 2020
  3. | Nico |

    | Nico | Distinguished Fapstronaut
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    Welcome to the community mate :) glad you could join us, anything we can assist you with just let us know, hope you have a wonderful time here at nofap and all the best in achieving all your desired goals. Take care
     
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  5. avatar66

    avatar66 Fapstronaut

    Thank you all for your support it means a lot .
     
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    avatar66 Fapstronaut

    Thank you all for your support it means a lot .
     
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  7. avatar66

    avatar66 Fapstronaut

    What do you mean by "hyper-rationalize" here?
     
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  8. palindromo

    palindromo Fapstronaut

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    Deconstructing the exitement every time you feel it with mindfulness and with analytic thought about why you get excited by the fetish.
    Connecting the fetish with a new path of thinking until you'll find your fetish , boring and bad for you.
     
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  9. DrabToLight

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    Hey @avatar66 ,

    Welcome to NoFap!

    You've already been welcomed by other members. So, this is just one more friendly hello.

    Oh, and also, take a look at your profile page. You can post quick 140 character updates on how you are doing. In many ways, the profile posts are equally important to the forum posts.

    NoFap isn't here because sex is a bad thing. NoFap is here because of the harm porn addiction causes.

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    D2L

    PS: Oh, yeah! Don't forget to download the free "Getting Started" guide. You can find it at https://www.nofap.com/getting-started/
     
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  10. Where can I read more. Because I feel more people are losing their identity over this bullshit and they have to go on and identify and defend sth they don't even understand or would never have wanted in the first place
     
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