Trying not to care so much about the opinion of others

Do you value the delusion of being liked by everyone (do you like everyone that you meet?)...

or do you value being loved in relationships with people who are excited to receive what you have to offer and are excited to share with you what excites you? If the second one is the case, then you have to be polarizing. You have to repel the people who aren't right for you and attract the people that are. You polarize by expressing yourself honestly rather than being a manipulative chameleon that tries to fit in and not rock the boat with everyone you meet. That causes you to censor, silence, and hide who you really are. That also causes self hate and self abuse because you don't like yourself unless others like you.

If you're depending on external validation more than you self validate, you limit your ability to express yourself. Thus you attract and repel less people. Thus you're always stuck with relationships who don't dislike you, but they don't really care much about you either. Because you become a people pleasing person. A fake person.

 

Talk it out man. Give an example situation. And remember people dont care about you. We all think they do but everyone cares about their own business. Ask urself: do u really think constantly about somw other person what he did?no u dont. So do they.

 

just remember no one cares

 

Just looking into No More Mr. Nice Guy book by Robert Glover helped me identify my personal flaws. Check it out.